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Wisey

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I need advice! Pls help me
« on: December 06, 2015, 10:22:19 PM »
So a couple days ago I met this very beautiful girl, the best looking girl that actually likes me, the first night we met was at a party my friend threw, she needed a ride to the party so I decided to go pick her up, as soon as she got in the car it's like we clicked I felt like I could already be myself around this girl, anyway we show up to the party have a couple drinks party with friends play beer pong together, we ended up getting pretty fucked up by the end of the night, when it was time for bed we both went upstairs and had our own room and own bed, out of nowhere she touched me and then put my hand on her parts, at first I got no errection I was slightly nervous and attempted intercourse with a semi flaccid penis. I did not end up climaxing so we just cuddled for a bit then out of nowhere my penis began to get hard, we engaged in intercourse and it was great!! I was so relieved I got it hard because I've been dealin with this problem for many months now with multiple partners.


Okay that sums up the first night, we woke up in the morning I took her home, we texted all day she really seemed like she was in to me, so we eventaually ended up wanting to hang out again, I picked her up and we went back to my friends house, this night was more chill no drinking except 1 beer, the whole night was good we talked a lot had open conversations, kissed everything seemed to be going well, then we went upstairs cause we wanted to go to bed, we cuddled for a few moments then she pulled down my pants and began giving me oral, my penis stayed flaccid, it didn't not get hard what so ever not even semi, she was confused and wondered why I didn't get hard she thought it was her, that she wasn't attractive enough(which was not the case she is the hottest girl I've been with) so I told her it was because I didn't get enough sleep last night and I was hung over all day, she decided that we could just cuddle.


 I was so angry at myself I just wanted to scream and cry cause I just felt like I was fucking everything up with this goddess of a girl. I just need your guys help what should I tell or what should I do, I don't want to lose this girl right now, I know i didn't get hard because porn induced ED, she's a very open girl and talks a lot about everything and what she likes sexually and stuff like that, I'm just debated whether I should tell her the truth or if I should just avoid hanging out with her and try to stop masturbation and prob all together to recover from this embarrassing illness :/ please give me some feedback guys I really don't want to lose this girl already, it doesn't happen very often that a pretty girl comes around and is actually into me, advise would make me feel much better, today I just feel so depressed and that my penis is broken :/
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Re: I need advice! Pls help me
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2015, 10:04:46 AM »
This is a part of your truth. Don't hide it. If she can't accept that you are struggling with this, then you wouldn't end up having a solid relationship in the long run. Often we think telling this "secret" about our porn problem is so dark and dirty people would just run away.. but really. Since I accepted this in myself I've told several girls and they've all taken it well. Some haven't been able to understand it, but they've been accepting and curious. Never have I been told that I am bad because I struggle with this. Never.

So yeah.. I think if you want to build a healthy relationship with her, let her know. Explain to her what you know about it, what it does, how it makes you feel, and how you believe it affects your ability to be with her. Also, you said something about stop hanging out with her and try to deal with it first.. I think that's the opposite of what you need. You will just isolate yourself which will trigger your addiction.

You've got a beautiful opportunity to heal something in yourself by sharing this with her. Doesn't matter if it's embarrassing. We're human. It's part of our nature. Life is fucking embarrassing. Deal with it.

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Wisey

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Re: I need advice! Pls help me
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2015, 11:51:35 AM »
Thanks for the advice Im feeling better on how to go about telling her about my problem, still a little nervous but we shall see how it goes thanks a lot   :)

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Re: I need advice! Pls help me
« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2015, 07:52:32 PM »
yeah tell her.
do what you feel is good for yourself.

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« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2015, 02:00:01 AM »
I've been there man! The very first time me and my now ex girlfriend were intimate she tried to give me oral and I got no erection at all. The best thing to do (which I wish I would have done at the time) is to learn from that experience and eliminate the porn now! The fact that you were able to have intercourse with her the previous night says that you are still  in the early stages and can probably heal your body and mind quicker than myself who let this habit get worse over the course of 4 additional years! Regardless of whether or not you tell this girl about your problem, you must now take the SERIOUS necessary action to stop this before it gets worse. Trust me on this one! Good Luck man!



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« Reply #5 on: December 08, 2015, 02:18:59 PM »
Thanks rival, yeah I'm pretty sure I'm in the early stages not to sure, the only reason I was able to get it up was cause I had to visualize pictures in my head, I have to cure my self of this, once I do I will be so much happier with life