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Fuck my life im deep in porn
« on: March 15, 2014, 11:37:58 AM »
Hello, ill try to get straight to the point. First time I ever came was to internet porn and that was about 2 years ago from that day on I've masturbated daily.

I'm 17 now and I realize I've fucked myself I've tried to have sex 3 times one time was a very hot girl and she opened her legs for me and I couldn't even get the slightest erection, now there's this super hot girl that I've tried to have sex with twice no erection she wants to go out with me and I want to go put with her but she the horny type and I can't get hard even when making out/touching her intimately so it never leads to anything else.

I've been hanging out with her for past week and I've only gotten a very soft erection I have legitly quit porn and plan to never watch or even think about it again. I feel like I've fucked up hard. Please give me support and will testosterone pills help? Like the ones you take everyday for weeks "enztye" please let me know what to do this is definitely going to ruin my relationship.
« Last Edit: March 15, 2014, 09:46:53 PM by Gabe Deem »

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« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2014, 12:22:22 PM »
Relax. You'll no doubt be fine. It can take months of no masturbation to porn to turn things around. Did you watch Gabe's vids on the home page?

This page is useful too - because things typically get worse for a while after you quit: http://yourbrainonporn.com/i-quit-porn-but-my-potency-and-libido-are-decreasing-help

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« Reply #2 on: March 15, 2014, 09:49:56 PM »
Hey Fmlleo, welcome to RN! Glad you're here and thanks for sharing!

Like Androg said, this will take time, some longer than others but don't expect immediate results as your brain's pathways are wired for pornography and no longer for the real thing. Your brain is desensitized to real women and will have to unwire from porn and rewire to real women.

Porn is harmful to our brains and your experiencing this first hand. Know you are not alone and we are here to help, support, and answer questions. Gabe will answer your pill question though.

I encourage you to browse the site for plenty of tips and great info. There is hope but you will need some patience in the process!

Stay strong and continue to not watch porn!

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« Reply #3 on: March 15, 2014, 09:54:15 PM »
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will testosterone pills help?

If you have porn-induced ED it has nothing to do with your testosterone levels. Porn-induced ED means you have over stimulated your brain and become numbed to normal sexual stimulation, and have taught your brain (senzitization) to crave porn on a screen rather than a real women.

I tried Viagra and Cialis before I found out my ED was porn-induced. They did not work for me, my problem was that I had no arousal when going for sex. Porn Induced ED (PIED) is a brain wiring issue not a blood flow issue.

They may help some guys who do not have severe PIED, but if you have no arousal at all they probably will not work.

Erections start in the brain with dopamine and end in the penis with the blood vessel dilator cGMP. Dick pills help get/keep blood flowing to the penis. Viagra works by slowing the breakdown of cGMP, which in turn keeps the penis engorged with blood. So if your brain isn't producing enough signals in the first place, ED drugs will not work because there is no cGMP to stop from being broken down.

Note: I am guessing that guys who say ED pills help them are able to be aroused slightly and then the drugs help maintain whatever they can get. My advice if your ED is porn-induced, is to stay away from pills. You need time to let your addicted pathways weaken and time to let your numb reward circuit regain sensitivity. When in doubt, go see a good doc, and inform him that porn could be the cause if he is unaware. If the doctor says it is anxiety or stress related, mention to him you can't masturbate by yourself without porn so it is not performance anxiety.

So just stay off porn my man. You need to reboot. Be patient and come here for help and guidance when needed. Much love
« Last Edit: March 15, 2014, 09:57:06 PM by Gabe Deem »
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« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2014, 10:11:09 PM »
Porn induced ED is very common among our generation. Simply because us guys start out on high-speed. Stay off the PMO withdrawal can be brutal.

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« Reply #5 on: March 16, 2014, 12:32:40 AM »
I hear what all you guys said and it all makes sense that my brain is fucked up. I felt myself needing more aggressive porn to even get hard I have a girlfriend now and I'm with her everyday I've been porn free for 3days and I feel absolutely no sex drive I'm 100% committed to not watching anything porn related. And i hope i recover fast or my gf will probably be pissed since ive failed on sex twice already, what i read was 3-10months so my current relationship probally isnt going to work  i feel like a have the perfect mindset that is needed to recover when i think about porn i get immensely  saddened knowing that i cant have sex. I'm a very confident person so performance anxiety isnt too bad for me it was the first and second time i failed sex now I'm just like wtf lets bang already but my porn induced Ed  is literally  horrible and if it doesn't get better in a year ill either commit suicide or buy bags of Viagra...

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« Reply #6 on: March 16, 2014, 12:40:31 AM »
I feel like this is going to be a epidemic and more and more young people with have these problems with sexual functions. I know at least 2 or 3 people that probably have the same problem as me

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« Reply #7 on: March 16, 2014, 02:00:32 PM »
You're going to make it if you are committed enough and know the right strategies to apply. We're in the same boat I wish you the best and my advice for is just to take small steps and have realistic expectations because if you don't you'll discourage yourself. Consider yourself lucky to have find this place at such a young age I wish i did that 2 years ago, use this comunity and all the information to help you quit porn for life.

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« Reply #8 on: March 16, 2014, 07:53:31 PM »
I know it's tough being with a girl and not being able to have sex. If the relationship is meant to be then it will work out, sex or not. Maybe you could try explaining to her what's going? I know that seems crazy but wouldn't you rather be with a woman that is supportive of you and of your current situation? Consider this time to work on other areas of your relationship. Sex is awesome but it isn't the only thing that sustains relationships.

This will take some time and you need patience. Know you aren't alone in this as all of us are on the site for similar reasons.

This time does suck for you but you have plenty of life ahead of you. Consider it a season to get your mind right for the rest of your life. Now that you know what's going on, you are able to do something about it that will genuinely heal you back to normal. There's hope in that. There is a way to get through this - I can see you wanting to commit suicide if there was no solution but there is so don't give up and stay the course.

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« Reply #9 on: March 16, 2014, 07:54:39 PM »
And you're right, this is going to be an epidemic unless those that already know or have experienced it let everyone else know. We can all do our part in spreading the word about it.

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« Reply #10 on: March 18, 2014, 10:41:49 AM »
That's just the perks of a numb pleasure response.

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« Reply #11 on: March 18, 2014, 11:43:48 AM »
5days not a single erection...fml fml fml fml I just wanna scream or do something crazy and get arrested in making up lies to my gf trying to hold her off from sex but fml fml fml I love her but I know I'm fucked with a lifeless dick someone send me 2 Viagra in mail ill send back 40$ lol I'm desparte I can get like 70% hard so I feel like a can get hard with Viagra but fml

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« Reply #12 on: March 18, 2014, 07:15:23 PM »
Dude you're gonna be alright. Take a step back from your situation and try to gather some perspective. You've only just begun to take the first steps. Getting over ED doesn't happen over night bro. Sorry. Just the way the body works. Take a chill pill and realize Viagra will only cure the symptoms but not the source of your problem. Heal the source first and for good, but patience, patience, patience is key. One day at a time. Like I said, your girl will be your girl if she truly loves you. This is a good test to see if you mean more to her than just sex. Relationships are about more than just the physical side. You got this!

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« Reply #13 on: March 19, 2014, 10:49:52 AM »
I understand its going to take a while but it sucks lol but ehh everything in the media is fucking pissing me off all music all tv all movies all has sex related shit and I feel depressed everything I hear something like gabe said in his videos and I'm telling my gf my problem I already told her I quit porn and I told her it fucked me up but I don't think she fully understands the situation....so ill inform her but still fml ...arghh going for DMV driving test and written test today going to fail.....i blame porn for everything in my life so hopefully my brain will understand that it's bad and recover faster I spend everyday with my gf and hopefully that will make me recover faster as well but as always fml

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« Reply #14 on: March 19, 2014, 04:12:28 PM »
It does suck for sure. And you're right, sex is everywhere we turn! It's like an alcoholic trying to recover that works at a bar, it's hard to avoid. That's good you are aware of how widespread it is.

That's all good you told your girl, I will say that it is tough for most women to understand this so that's common. At least she didn't leave upon hearing that.

Porn is the cause for a lot of things but it is also the result of a lot things too, like for me I have issues with my dad having an affair and I broke off two engagements with two different girls. At first I used to do porn because I lusted after women but after those things happened I used it to hide pain or deal with stress, I still do sometimes. I think the things that cause the porn are important to find out about too. The sooner we identify this the sooner we can make steps in the right direction.

Maybe try to write down or think of things that you are thankful for in life right now and focus on those. Just a suggestion.

I'm here, when you need to vent.

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« Reply #15 on: March 19, 2014, 09:00:25 PM »
This is me venting... The only major problem in my life is I fucking piss the bed still....and I fucking hate it I can't drink anything after 6pm which means I cant drink at partys or confidently sleep over peoples houses...but that has nothing to do with porn..literally the only reason I watched porn was because it feels so good to cum so that's why I dont feel addicted in anyway and feel as if I can continue. Life porn free ...also I'm a heavy pot smoker but that doesn't fuck with me or my life in anyway   and sorry for improper grammar :P I appreciate you posting  and I'm grateful  for this site

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« Reply #16 on: March 19, 2014, 09:12:35 PM »
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5days not a single erection...fml fml fml fml I just wanna scream or do something crazy and get arrested

Hey man just take a step back and RELAX... just so you know stress itself kills libido. You will be fine as thousands of us have been in your shoes before and felt just as you do. I lied to my girl for months and made up all kinds of crap as to why I would not have sex with her. I tried over and over again just to have a limp dick when she was naked right in front of me... so frustrating...confusing...and embarassing. So, just understand that I feel your pain brahhh.

Now listen to this... I RECOVERED! You can too... but you have to understand this is a long process that is WORTH IT. Our brains have the ability to change our entire lives.... thats right... even in your 70's your brain could technically still reboot from porn. So NEVER give up, make up your mind that you will do whatever it takes... go through whatever it takes... to become the man you want to be. Sex is just a bonus to life... it is not everything there is to enjoy about life. You need to focus on other things for a period of time as you reboot. Learn as much as you can, workout and make gains in the gym, put in work and get the job you want, build something, take your girl on fun dates. Life has so much more to enjoy other than sex.

The thing is, as you focus your time and energy on other stuff the time will pass and eventually you will be rebooted.

Something that helped me tremendously was reading other guys success stories. They gave me so much hope just knowing that others have been through this too and came out just fine. It is painful, but it is possible! Check these out if you want... http://yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-accounts

Keep spending time with your girl and pursuing her heart and not just her body. If she sticks with you through this time of your life I assure you the relationship will come out stronger on the other side. No pain no gain. This is a time for you to grow as a person.

Just know that recovery is possible, and don't put a timeframe on it... just write about how you feel, come here for help, and learn from your mistakes. Were here for you. you got this. Be strong!
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« Reply #17 on: March 19, 2014, 10:41:34 PM »
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The only major problem in my life is I fucking piss the bed still...

I appreciate your honesty. Believe it or not I can empathize with you. I wet the bed up until 7th/8th grade. I know what it's like to not be able to drink late at night and not spend the night comfortably at someone's house. I remember those times vividly. Know that this too will pass, though I know that's easy for me to say and it doesn't change your situation.

You say you hate it. Are you bitter about it? Do you use porn to cope with your anger or bitterness towards it? Just asking, could be these things to think about. If not, that's fine, I just didn't know if you had considered that a possibility. I know how angry I was towards it and that was before I had high-speed internet porn to run to. Either way, I understand because the reason I started is because of the pleasure part of it too and now over time I have used it to cope with things.

Use whatever grammar you please, no judgement here. Seriously rooting for you!

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« Reply #18 on: March 25, 2014, 10:13:27 AM »
Pissing the bed is finally starting to go away thank God,,, and I got my license......but ehhh imma have to break it off with my gf......................fml.
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I haven't watched porn since before I posted this thread and I'm still confident in done porn for life
if you guys knew my gf......nvm fml lol ahhh....
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« Reply #19 on: November 23, 2016, 11:34:27 AM »
Yoo!!! I know what you mean , i use to be the same exact way well still am , i am starting to reboot today! Is my first day ! , i have came across many many girls and when i wouldnt get hard they would question and i said idk and if they would so much give me a smerk it just really pissed me off , and they would say its okay but it wasent for me i would say thats my "man hood" you know what i mean? But thanks to other guys like this ans hearig your story there is more then hope for us , im done with porn have to end it all off , we got this man! Stay strong NO PORN