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FoNap

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Something interesting I've learnt so far.
« on: August 20, 2015, 05:48:07 AM »
I was convinced that the majority of PMO withdrawal are due to not having an orgasm. However something I have come to realise is that even having that release, there are still very strong withdrawals just from the abstinence of porn alone. I hit the 12 day mark and because I was having constant morning wood and hard ons through out the day, I decided to MO without P (or P fantasies) I did this as my real concern was not being able to get hard without Porn, however this had clearly vanished after a relatively short break. Even after a couple of MO's I'm noticing exactly the same withdrawal feelings as before I MO'd, making it very apparent that porn really has had a massively damaging affect on my brain. I'm sure most of you are aware of this, but I thought I'd shed some light on it, as I thought it would help anyone who is thinking of escaping the withdrawals by having a no porn release. Looks like, when you give up Porn, you have to go through the nightmare. I will still never watch porn again, like any addiction, just got to ride it out.

Bango Skank

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Re: Something interesting I've learnt so far.
« Reply #1 on: August 20, 2015, 06:49:52 AM »
I do understand what you mean. Although I am sold on the "hard" reboot philosophy at the very least for a month or so before any kind of stimulation. Admittedly I am yet to prove this myself.

When you do finally orgasm after that period of abstinence, think of the epic dope bomb you will get and the effect it will have on rewiring those triggers (depending on how you acheive it).

Doing it solo is still a million miles from a real woman with or without P. We stop feeding the bad wolf AND the good wolf, and instead are feeding the one in between.

One other thing I've learned is that when you orgasm after a 'drought' so to speak, your hunter-gatherer brain tricks you into wanting seeking out more sex. I suppose it harks back to long spells of wandering in the wilderness with no females around and then maybe encountering a group of them and sowing your seeds while you have the chance. God bless evolution  8)

 If I were in your shoes I would save it for my lady :)
« Last Edit: August 20, 2015, 06:56:36 AM by Bango Skank »

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Re: Something interesting I've learnt so far.
« Reply #2 on: August 20, 2015, 07:56:52 AM »
Very true. I'm back on hard mode now for 30 days. I guess you have to mess up to understand yourself a bit more. For me, I've realised that edging is basically game over, as soon as you get those dopamine rushes, you can't shake the urges. I think I was edging for about 3 days before it just got too much and i was like fuckkk this, just get it out the way and start over. I'm still happy with my progress of no PMO, I think it's extremely damaging to be so hard on yourself if you 'fail' at a MASSIVE challenge, a challenge that even my mates with low sex drives find incomprehensible, us guys are doing it with a porn addiction!  One thing is for certain, I will never watch porn again and that mindset is an achievement in itself.

Lady friend is in another country for a month... So at least I have a target to aim for. Works out quite well, as long as I can surf those fucking urges!  ;D