Porn addict or just sexually confused?

So, I'm new to the forum and I feel that I'm suffering from almost all of the symtoms of a porn-induced ED that is beeing discribed on yourbrainonporn.com . I'm 19 years old and I can almost only get hard through a screen. I've never had sex and I've watched porn since I was 12 or 13 years old. This april/may I started have problems with EDs, and like I said it's almost always through a screen that I get an erection.

However, before I started having my ED-problems, I could fall in love with girls or find them attractive. It never went anywhere, but I could have feelings for them. I have always made a split up in my brain between love and sex, and I wonder if it just could be that I'm turning asexual or gay (although I've never had a homosexual experience) or some physical reason like a lack of testosterone or something.

When I heard about "flatlining" I felt so relieved, because that is exactly how I feel right now (haven't watched porn in a week only and it feels like I'm dying sexually), yet I'm still not sure and I'm looking for someone that has similar experiences.

Am I just turning gay or something?

Hey buddy. I'm gay and knew it since I was 5 years old. I don't think you are 'turning gay' at 19. No matter where you are on the kinsey scale your problem right now is PIED and porn. So, you are in the right place--welcome. Porn is a nasty business and for some of us over time we need to find more and more unusual things to look at to get off. You may have ventured into gay porn--I ventured into straight porn for awhile. But it's not really where we are meant to be--just do the reboot hardmode and rewire and you'll get yourself back to where you belong. Sounds like you have a severe case so go at it 100%. You started early so learn everything you can and be patient. Good luck. Study up at yourbrainonporn.com

Thanks for the reply! I believe you're right. I have always been attracted to girls in the past.

What makes you think that I have a "severe case" though?

Well your questioning your sexuality... clearly porn is hard wired into your brain. I have the same thing as you.

Maybe severe isn't the right word, but you started looking at porn early (12 or 13 years old) and to date you have no real-life sexual experiences to counter your porn dopamine pathways. So, from what I have read on yourbrainonporn.com, you will have to 'starve' those old porn dopamine pathways with a committed reboot and then start fresh by learning how to have satisfying sexual contact with a real person. You are young so you are just starting out. Older guys like myself didn't really get into high speed porn until later in life so we have some real life sexual experiences to draw from. That's the only difference. It's still doable. You just have to go for it 100%. Do it, man! We're rooting for you.

Thanks so much for the support! Yes, I understood that aswell from yourbrainonporn.org . It feels like I have the will and the knowledge to "be normal" within me though, it just doesn't work. Instead I'm in this asexual hell, which I've been in since around May. Just feels tougher now when I've got it explained that I have PIED (and i haven't pmo'd in 8 days, wich should mean I'm in a flatline).

But is it normal for people to loose their romantic interest aswell as their sexual/lust interest during a flatline? Maybe I'm reading the wrong posts, but it feels like most guys/girls still are able to have girl- or boyfriends during their flatline - it's just the part in bed that doesn't work out.

That is what makes me uncertain, but my split up between romantic and lust might be a problem to begin with?

Keep fighting Stewe!

Hi. So, first, remember that everyone's process here is really different. So don't judge your progress based on another guy's journal. Just learn as much as you can and do what feels right for you. You'll probably make a mistake or two along the way, but knowledge will help you adjust and keep progressing.

That said, I had a flatline that lasted about 40 days. I had NO sexual interest at all during my flatline. I could barely get a hard on at all and I was used to falling asleep with a boner. First week or so I had trouble getting to sleep because of this. One day my dick looked like it had died. It was shriveled up and a third smaller. But eventually I climbed out of that flatline and my libido slowly returned. (And the process is not linear--you will rock between horny and not horny a lot from now on. Just go with it.)

If I were you I'd read some of the Success Stories in that forum (I have one there). Also read Free73's posts. He emphasizes (and I agree with him) that because of porn, we don't really know what our true libidos are like. It is only after the reboot that we will get a better idea--and that may mean feeling non-horny most of the time--except when you are alone and naked with a real live person. And really, that's the only time you need your dick to work, right? So you need to get through this before you worry about romantic interests...that will come with time.

You've only gone 8 days no PMO...just be patient. 8 days is great but just hang in there and keep going!

Seems like you might have a lot in common with Gabe--make sure you watch his video. You both started out on porn pretty young.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0dDLWGMhUo

Really great advice! Thanks again.