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BailHopper

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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #300 on: January 25, 2017, 02:28:57 PM »
Hey man, I see you're having a rough patch the last few days/weeks. I'm very sorry to hear that. If you ever want to talk, shoot me up a message! I'm always up for chatting/emailing.

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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #301 on: January 25, 2017, 07:10:33 PM »
Same here, msg me if you ever need to.

Man, rough weeks all around, huh? That's this crazy world we live in. BUT! You are here, and you're trying hard to be better! Can't ask for more than that!  ;)


I should type something witty down here.

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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #302 on: January 28, 2017, 10:53:03 AM »
Thanks everybody, I feel supported and reading your posts made me feel better for sure. 

I have taken ownership of what happened between me and that other person and they have offered to meet to discuss things.  This is a really good step.  I'm worried I won't know what to say when the time comes despite the fact I've been processing things around it for weeks now.  I feel like I haven't figured things out enough.  It's hard to go through everything since I haven't had to manage emotions or been able to look into myself in this way for quite some time.  I'm going to try to take most of today to sift further.  Things aren't exactly good at the moment but I'm not feeling hopeless now. 

Hablablos, thank you very much for your thoughtful post. I'm glad you're hanging in there as well.  I appreciate greatly that I am beginning to have emotions, despite them being a swell of regret, guilt, and such.  There is a clear vein of appreciation in that, though.  It helps me address the causes of these feelings.  It is a relief to feel, despite it being difficult at times.  Making a list definitely helps, I plan on doing that today.  Meditation helps, as well as exercise and writing in general.  Rock climbing helps clear my head too.  It's good for me to have a hobby or two that I enjoy.  I've been managing to keep away from video games and watching shows pretty well since I last posted.  First time I played video games was this morning for about 20 minutes.  I stopped playing because I didn't want the same thing to happen again and I dislike how it makes me feel afterwards. 

Red, I appreciate your sympathy. I swear I can feel it and it helps. You may be relieved to know that I have reached out more to friends since and even have plans to hang out with some of them later today.  The girlfriend thing was hard at first but ultimately it was for the best.

Thanks Bailhopper and apt username guy! If things get that tough again I may reach out.  Please feel free to do the same.  As long as we keep trying there is hope.

Much love,
Crow

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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #303 on: February 09, 2017, 10:14:20 AM »
The talk did not go well.  I've been reeling from it for over a week.  Starting to get my feet underneath me but there will always be deep regret around what happened.  Figuring out what to put in a letter to said person to show my appreciation for all they have done.

Meanwhile I haven't done anything sexual and have had a couple nocturnal emissions this past week.  I don't feel groggy but I do feel a little bit of a chaser or beginning of libido. I want to make a point to not do anything about it.

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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #304 on: February 11, 2017, 10:19:03 AM »
Hey man, how are you feeling now that a few days have passed?
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Re: The Death of an Enemy (The Birth of an Ally)
« Reply #305 on: February 12, 2017, 10:16:43 PM »
Hey man, I've been reading some of your posts. You beat yourself up a lot. You are doing well. Way better than the millions of dudes who aren't even trying to better themselves. How many guys out there aren't on reboot nation? Give yourself some credit for the things you are doing. Putting yourself out there, joining a gym and new groups. You are doing well and keep it up.

I myself went though a really gut wrenching breakup around this time last year. It really hurts. But if you keep on your path and keep improving/bettering yourself THE WAY YOU ARE you'll learn a golden rule: They always come back.
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