Just want to know if anybody HOCD has improved with abstaining from porn. Ever since I was a little kid I was obsessed with females and their naked bodies. I remember seeing a woman's body for the first time as a kid and being so amazed and aroused. I started watching porn young at age 12. But I had your average straight young male fantasies about my middle school teacher this lady I had a crush on. From the age of 14-18 I must have made out with over 50 plus girls and had sex with 15. I never doubted my sexuality and never saw dudes in a sexual way. I even went to an all guys high school and during puberty where hormones are raging I never once thought about another guy sexually. Not one time. I also did not "fear being gay". I had no problem with gay people and never had intrusive gay thoughts. I was confident in my sexuality and never thought about if I was straight or gay. It wasn't a problem for me. I just knew I liked girls and that was that.
Over those years I continued to watch porn daily. Pretty much everyday. I never focused on the guy and only focused on the girl. Bottom line I was OBSESSED with sex and females and ass and tits. Then at age 19 when I was watching a video one day I seemed to notice the guy more in the video and I guess this is when desensitization started to seep into my porn viewing habits. It was almost as if I had seen so many naked females at this point that I needed something weirder to shock me. I didn't get off to the thought of the dude in the video but it freaked me out that I actually noticed him and was turned on by the constant penis slamming into the vagina. This is when the first thought of "what if I'm gay?" Came in. Ever since that day I have been obsessed with the idea that I might be gay even though I have never kissed another guy, done anything sexual with another guy and don't have the desire to do so. I just can't get these thoughts out of my head. They won't stop day and night. Every time I try to fantasize now the chick in my head is replaced with a dude. I feel anxious now around other men when Inn the past I never thought twice about it. I have now become socially anxious. I don't go out anymore. I use to love going out and getting with girls and now I don't.
I have also just got over a 2 year relationship with a beautiful girl. I lost her due to my porn addiction. A lot of the time through our relationship I had to watch porn earlier in the day to get in the mood or I would have to remember porn scenes in my head to get aroused. I would have weak erections and ejaculate fast. This ultimately would lead to part of the end of our relationship as I figured she wanted a guy that could make love to her better. I live with regret everyday that I couldn't stop my porn addiction years ago so I could have given her what she wanted. She is now off with another guy and my life sucks now. She was my bestfriend and my first love and she's gone. I know I'll move on eventually but nothings worse then living with regret.
I don't know where to go from here. I literally went from a guy that was confident, socially outgoing, confident in my sexuality and wasn't anxious around other dudes to a guy that never goes out, is extremely sensitive to any comment about me being gay or feminine, low self esteem and generally miserable. Although I play and act like I am fine on the outside to people, inside I am slowly suffering. I just want these thoughts to stop. To stop beating me up making me feel worthless, stripping me of my masculinity and attacking my core identitty. Will rebooting help me with this?
Over those years I continued to watch porn daily. Pretty much everyday. I never focused on the guy and only focused on the girl. Bottom line I was OBSESSED with sex and females and ass and tits. Then at age 19 when I was watching a video one day I seemed to notice the guy more in the video and I guess this is when desensitization started to seep into my porn viewing habits. It was almost as if I had seen so many naked females at this point that I needed something weirder to shock me. I didn't get off to the thought of the dude in the video but it freaked me out that I actually noticed him and was turned on by the constant penis slamming into the vagina. This is when the first thought of "what if I'm gay?" Came in. Ever since that day I have been obsessed with the idea that I might be gay even though I have never kissed another guy, done anything sexual with another guy and don't have the desire to do so. I just can't get these thoughts out of my head. They won't stop day and night. Every time I try to fantasize now the chick in my head is replaced with a dude. I feel anxious now around other men when Inn the past I never thought twice about it. I have now become socially anxious. I don't go out anymore. I use to love going out and getting with girls and now I don't.
I have also just got over a 2 year relationship with a beautiful girl. I lost her due to my porn addiction. A lot of the time through our relationship I had to watch porn earlier in the day to get in the mood or I would have to remember porn scenes in my head to get aroused. I would have weak erections and ejaculate fast. This ultimately would lead to part of the end of our relationship as I figured she wanted a guy that could make love to her better. I live with regret everyday that I couldn't stop my porn addiction years ago so I could have given her what she wanted. She is now off with another guy and my life sucks now. She was my bestfriend and my first love and she's gone. I know I'll move on eventually but nothings worse then living with regret.
I don't know where to go from here. I literally went from a guy that was confident, socially outgoing, confident in my sexuality and wasn't anxious around other dudes to a guy that never goes out, is extremely sensitive to any comment about me being gay or feminine, low self esteem and generally miserable. Although I play and act like I am fine on the outside to people, inside I am slowly suffering. I just want these thoughts to stop. To stop beating me up making me feel worthless, stripping me of my masculinity and attacking my core identitty. Will rebooting help me with this?