What taking time away from porn can do.

Well here I am about 6+ months into the journey and while there have been peaks and valleys it's been worth the effort.  I can't tell everything that has changed for me as when you are in the fish bowl it is hard to see but I can assure you that I'm much better.  Porn doesn't have much of a hold anymore nore does it have any appeal.  The fantasy is gone and I'm glad to be reconnecting with my wife.  No more am I effectively dead emotion wise and my life has become alot more full of color.  I've seen health improvements from less stress, greater gains at the gym and reduced anxiety.  I use to get chest pains and had been to the doctor's a few times with no diagnosis but since dropping this they have greatly improved. 

My sexual appetite for my wife hasn't changed, she always drove me crazy but now I can perform.  I'm still working towards a real true natural hard on but it's coming.  My last two interactions with her I could feel the blood pumping and, while they didn't last, I felt a real partial boner.  It's a little comical and sad but for those who can't get anything without using your hand I can promise it can heal.  I've masturbated a few times and now can see that it's done more harm vs a release, no more. 

I'm happy to answer any questions that come to mind and I hope to expand on this when I can but for now I am almost the stud I want to be.

I forgot to add that those who seem to have success here also found something in this thread
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

It's worth bookmarking for reference.  Kill this guys, it's achievable and winnable.

Awesome!

What periods were the hardest for you?
How were the withdrawals like?

personal questions: how old are you? how often do you now have sex?

The first two weeks sucked but I read alot and expected the flatline/depression to happen.  It didn't take long for that to leave me though and after that the only problem times would be if I allowed myself to view something silly on the net so I'vegreatly reduced any of that stuff.  Withdrawal was limited at best but only because I expected it and have quit other addictive habits so I was at ease with myself. 

I'm 40 and been doing this since about the age of 15 or so.  It was lighter during my younger days but still a issue and I would say it became a real problem 15 years ago (high speed internet...).  It certainly helped to ruin one relationship and would have crushed my marriage.  I hope that we are able to get beyond this but it's a struggle. 

We have sex weekly give or take.  I'd love for it to be more and it could be, we shall see.  One of the problems with porn use is the "on demand" aspect which both reduces our drive and makes up rather wimpy so wanting vs having vs successful sex is a ongoing struggle.  If I get some further swagger it can't hurt and I hope will help.  This all said I think that having a near dead dick did the worst damage as it really hurt my wife in many areas, such a mistake in hindsight.

Good reply, things in this particular area will get better for you (how could they not?). I remember Gabe video saying that in the beginning when he started having sex he spaced it out over 2 week periods. There is time. I'm glad you got out of this chains. Another one wins, all get more motivation to quit. I'm in my early 20s, on day 39, will not watch anymore dirt.

Hey man sounds like you're doing great!! Congrats.

So this is what I did with my girl while rebooting... since my boners were really hit or miss, I told my girl... when my dicks ready, you better be ready!!! haha what I mean is, eventually you'll get to a normal sexual reltaionship, but you need to gain your confidence back... that means that you need to perform well a few times...

If you and your girl try to do it spontaneously... then you might not be able to perform and it might make you feel bad... but if you can just go about your business, and when your dick happens to get hard call your wife over and have sex!!!  you do this a few times and you will see a noticeable difference.... I hope this is making sense.. lmao

Just have her be on call a few times, it'll get you feeling comfortable... then you can transition into a more normal sex life.... obviously your wife shouldn't be at your call at all times, but for the first few times this is what I did with my girl and it really helped!!