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18 YR OLD NEEDS HELP!!
« on: May 13, 2014, 12:25:00 PM »
Hi guys, I know this is a big chunk of text to read but I would love for you all to read it and try and help me because I'm very depressed. I'm new to the topic of Porn induced erectile dysfunction but I definitely have it and it is at a horrible age. I'm currently in the UK at college as we call it in Britain and going to university this September. So as you can imagine I am under pressure from myself and friends to hook up with girls. This is a brief story of my sexual life.

At 12 years old I discovered adult websites and was hooked straight away. This was even before I discovered masturbating, but I enjoyed what I saw and couldn't get any real action at that age. Over the years I discovered that I had a small penis when flaccid, it has always been the same to this day and I've read about flatlining and I have the feeling I have been flatlining since masturbating over porn at the age of 14. I lost my virginity at the age if 16 and had problems from my first sexual experience with my ex girl friend. My erections were never 100% like they were over porn, more like 75%. This frustrated me huge amounts but I always put it down to nerves. Some days it would be fine so I just lived with it, but after splitting up with her a few months back I was out of the game and wanted to start seeing a girl again. There is this beautiful girl at college who I came across talking to once and she is a 10/10 - amazing looking, everything! so we got talking and around came the situatio n for me to go to her house. This was a few weeks ago and I was already aware of my erectile dysfunction. So I was very apprehensive. I went along anyway we had a few drinks and got down to business. Once again it was very much the same not quite 100% but I told her that it was the alcohol. So I got off lightly. But now I am starting to drink before sex so I can use ALCOHOL as the excuse. I know this isnt good but it puts my ego at ease.

Because of having a sleepy penis 95% of the time I am always depressed full of anxiety and stressed. (Exam period doesn't help.) when I was meeting this attractive girl I would get so nervous I would make myself sick before meeting her. I don't k ow if this was pre date nerves or just having a limp cock made me worried incase things got more exciting. I am fit and healthy and go to the gym 3 times a week, so it's not what I have been eating, smoking or drinking, that is all done in moderation for an average 18 yr oldguy. I never masterbate because I never feel the urge, I haven't been on porn for six weeks and have only seen slight improvements such as a twitch in my pants if I kiss a girl. I haven't had a morning erection for years and I want everything to return to normal. Does anyone have any advice with what I should do when it comes to interacting with women in sexual situations because I am missing alot of opportunities because I don't want to destroy my ego by not achieving an erection (I'm very self conscious?) Please please please help me I'm in a mess and need it sorted. I would appreciate every reply so much. Cheers guys x

















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Re: 18 YR OLD NEEDS HELP!!
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2014, 12:51:56 PM »
Can you please the woman in other ways besides your penis?  Oral sex is the best way for a woman to achieve an orgasm.  Have fun and stop putting so much pressure on yourself.  Porn sets you up with an idea that sex is a performance to be graded but it's not.  Sex is about connection to another human being and about having a relaxing fun time.  I think as long as you don't pull away when you have erection issues but stay engaged with her, pleasing her in other ways etc. you will still have a good time and it will be a positive experience.  Right now you have a lot of failures on your mind so the way to change that is by staying connected during sex, pleasing her without your penis and focusing on sensual touch rather than performance.

Meditation can also help relax you :)
In order to rise from its own ashes, a Phoenix first must burn.”
― Octavia E. Butler

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Re: 18 YR OLD NEEDS HELP!!
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2014, 04:52:03 PM »
Thankyou very much for your help. I will remember that whenever I am with her