Author Topic: 21 y/o .. Going to visit my GF in less than a month. PIED last time  (Read 700 times)

AF.Doctor

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Hello guys,

I met my GF in my month vacation in the U.S. last year and it was the first time to have sex in my life.

So the stress and discomfort I felt PLUS my addiction to porn made it near impossible to have an erection. (masturbate at least 4-6 times PER DAY).

My gf is really sweet and kind person. She was understanding (she didn't know it was PIED) but knew I was a virgin so they just attributed that to nervousness and also I made sure to communicate that I'm attracted to her and that's not at all her fault.

My problem was, I would get erection when we made out, gave me BJs even when we HELD HANDS, I would get an erection. When it was the time to insert it where it supposed to be, it immediately shrivels.

That went on and on through our 2-3 weeks of dating. I managed to have real sex with her like 3-4 times other times, I won't manage to be erect enough to enter her vagina. (sorry for being too graphic).

We continued dating online, and now I am visiting her again next month and I want to make sure that I'll give better performance. Now I am much much comfortable with her since I've dating her online (skyping and what not) for a year.

I know it is late to start this challenge, but will it help?

Tried too much to stop, but I always relapsed, but I intend to give my best this time.

Thanks

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Re: 21 y/o .. Going to visit my GF in less than a month. PIED last time
« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2015, 01:01:47 AM »
Yeah definitely it will be worth it to go no-PMO this month.

As it can be hard to go a month free if it's your first try, try to be at least 7 days free from pmo when you visit her
Rebooting will also boost your confidence so you'll feel less stress.

If you can't avoid masturbating, masturbate without any virtual stimulus (no porn, no sextos... no screen) and if possible with lube
In fact I'd recommend masturbating thinking about her, visualizing how you'll penetrate her, so you get used to this idea and will not be stressed when it becomes a reality.

Tell yourself you want to rewire to real sex and therefore make it a priority to have as much sexy times with her as you can.
It's ok if you don't have an erection, focus on her : fingers, tongue, etc. and you'll be fine. Focusing on her will make you hard. ;)

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Re: 21 y/o .. Going to visit my GF in less than a month. PIED last time
« Reply #2 on: July 04, 2015, 04:06:34 PM »
try again and again.
you have no option but to try again and again.
keep trying.