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Cody Hackson

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CAN'T STOP RELAPSING!!
« on: June 20, 2015, 12:46:25 AM »
Hi.My name is Cody.I've realized I've had erectile dysfunction from porn for awhile now,but when I try to quit...I CAN'T.....Every week is the same.I Get better throughout the weekdays,and on Weekends I masturbate.I don't know how to stop fapping.I'm pretty good at quitting porn but I just need help holding off masturbation for recovery.Any tips? This has also been making my life hell for like 2 YEARS.I was sitting in my room with the computer and I was Naked (The year I started strugglingwith ED,then I just couldn't hold it in any longer.I watched porn and I jerked off to it.(I used to watch porn but didn't know about masturbation) I sometimes even risk masturbating after a previous relapse (while my penis is weak) I am afraid I won't be able to have an erection ability soon.SOMEONE.PLEASE HELP.ME!1

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Re: CAN'T STOP RELAPSING!!
« Reply #1 on: June 20, 2015, 01:55:32 AM »
Hey Cody! Welcome to the Nation!
Before I give you any advice on how to stop relapsing, I would suggest doing the following things just in case you still find it hard to stay off of porn:
  • Getting rid of all saved images/videos of porn on your computer and other devices
  • Using a web filter/blocker in order to prevent yourself from looking at porn (Examples include K9)

Now, in regards to helping you out from abstaining from masturbating, the first thing I would suggest is to get out of the house and get busy.
Although I'm not exactly sure, you could be masturbating on the weekends because of extra free time where you have nothing to do.
Getting busy with friends, going for a walk, exercising and working out, or even going for a drive can help you out with going against urges.
The second thing I would suggest doing is getting yourself educated about how to prevent your urges from taking you over.
Here are some guides made for NoFap that can help you out.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/how-succeed-nofap-definitive-guide-based-6-months-experience
http://www.nofapacademy.com/downloads/NoFap-Hacks.pdf

Also, remember that although you will get urges, you are entirely in control of them. I would suggest reading these guides as well as success stories on this website when you feel like you are about to relapse.

I would also get educated about rebooting, which is going to be a crucial process in getting rid of what seems to be your developing symptoms of PIED. I'm gonna link you some videos on rebooting and for quitting porn.

Rebooting (I would suggest watching multiple times regardless of how bored you are):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU       <------- (Extremely important)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4yx4ouxGbQ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0dDLWGMhUo
Quitting Porn:
http://www.stopprocrastinatingapp.com/how-to-block-porn-websites/
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/10/09/how-to-quit-porn/            <---- (Helpful but there might be some pieces of inaccurate information)

I think the last piece of advice that I can give you for overcoming this problem is to start now and make a conscious effort to ending it. This issue has been making your life horrible for 2 YEARS now. Don't let it take any more of your precious time. I would rather suffer from withdrawal than suffer from regret.

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Re: CAN'T STOP RELAPSING!!
« Reply #2 on: June 20, 2015, 04:21:37 AM »
Hello Cody, of course you can! Every one here knows the feeling when you think it's impossible to quit. But that's not true. The very fact that you think it impossible is one of the strongest weapons the addiction holds against you.
Follow DanteKO's advice to install a web filter, but don't make the mistake to completely rely on it. When push comes to shove your brain will start to rationalise and come up with some clever arguments why you should get rid of the blocker and it's not unlikely that you will find a way to bypass it. The filters work best to prevent you from rushing back to your old habit. Keep on posting, we're curious about your success.

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