starting to Reboot- and just met someone

i'm after a few year of knowing that i have porn addiction, and going to therapists and groups. it helped me a lot- used to M everywhere and any time. but i still had a big porn problem. my porn-use escalated to really bad stuff and materials (and i mean REALLY), and only in the last few months i admitted that i had a PIED.
to be honest, it prevent me from starting new relationships with women, because i was afraid what will happened when we'll have sex (or what will NOT happen). it made me to gave up a lot of opportunities.

now for the first time i'm trying to Reboot. not 'balancing' or 'restricting the amount'- full Reboot, or i'll stay with my ED. decided to quit porn or P-substituted, no craving or chasing relationships that i'll ran from in the moment of truth, and even M, for the start of this process.

and just happens- after a few days i met someone.
thought to pass on it, but i looks like something with a good potential. how should i act with this two things together? how can i work good on my Reboot and not lose this new thing in my life?

i'll be happy to hear your advice on the subject.

I think the best way is to be honest with the person that you are challenging yourself personally to not have sex for three months. You don't really need to get into the details of why, but just say you are trying to clear your head or focus on other things like work or school and that this is something you are doing. If she likes you, she will probably go along with it and respect your self control. You will get to really know each other before sex. If she doesn't go along with you, good riddance. And she will be able to help you rewire when you are ready for that in a couple months. Good luck man.

I disagree. Just saying you don't want to have sex for three months to clear your heads will probably raise more questions, if not suspicion.
I believe sex in itself is not bad for your reboot anyway, unless you really have trouble having erections still and it's affecting your mood.
Just make sure to stay in the moment and don't reproduce your porn habits. If it's affecting you negatively, then yes, maybe you should wait.

thank u for you replies.
i think that i'll try to live what ever comes for me now, and try to be as 'clean' as possible from Porn substitute. she's going away for a month in a few weeks, i'm sure that when she'll be back i'll know more about how the reboot is affecting me.
for now, if we'll have sex- ok, if not- ok as well. don't what to raise questions marks for no reason. and if the sex wont be perfect and that will make me lose her- well that mean she is not the right girl for me in this time.

If you do have sex and it fails be a man.  Tell her whats going on regardless of the embarrassment you feel.  Lay it all out there and enforce what you feel for her, why you are changing and the man you are becoming.  She might run from the story, she might run from the ed anyways or she might see it as a sign of strength.  Admitting will change you for the better regardless of the outcome.  Never again in life will you be the guy with the issue if you stick to this plan.

Don't allow a woman to be hurt by the pmo. 

I'm in a shockingly similar situation to yours except that I did not discover my problem until I met this girl and tried to have sex.  I can't say that what I did would work or not work for you.  You know the girl better than we do of course so you'll have to think it through and make your own decision.  But I would say your gut probably does know.  Mine did.  I had never had problems like this before so at first I wasn't really sure what it was.  Honestly I'm still not 100% sure.  I thought it was PIED at first, but now I believe it's more of anxiety induced plus sensitivity lost from death grip.  If you tell her up front it gives you the ability to be open with experimenting with different things to look for results.  If you don't tell her, then I guess you have to really protect the information.  But if you don't tell her and then later have to tell her, you will have fractured trust.  I really hope the best for you.  So far I've held onto her and things actually seem very promising. 

well sodonewithit and spree, u have interesting points there.
i guess i'll have to try to balance between honesty and not rushing too quickly into places i wont feel convenient in.
either way, even in this short time into reboot, i'm sensing and understanding a lot more about how and who i am in relationships then when i use porn.
sad for all the years i spent and didn't acknowledge who much this thing was a part of each and every relationship i had.

I can only relate stuff I have learned.  Thankfully my wife is a good person in all this but like above all my relationships have been tainted, admitting threw this crap away.