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Pauljoh

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #50 on: April 21, 2019, 03:40:00 PM »
Hi,

I'm Paul and I'm in my second week of reboot now. I've been struggling with this for twenty some years now.
I have a very understanding wife who I love dearly and I have two kids with. She has caught me a few times with my pants down.
Every time I've promised to do better, find help and put an end to it. I tried talking to a psychiatrist, doctor and other caregivers.
But everytime it followed the same pattern. I was cooperative and convinced in the beginning and kept on the good path for a few months.
Then something small happened and the whole addiction spiralled out of control again.
This time I want to make real changes forgood. I started reading YBOP and other websites that led me to this place.
So I am looking for someone I can relate to and discuss things with we come across during our journey. Besides dealing with the addiction I'm also dealing with another related issue and that is being not fair with my wife over the addiction. I want to talk to her about my problems but I find it hard to do so. An AP who can relate to that also would be helpfull. It is my belief that this will take a long time and will commit at least one year. Please write me your story and concerns and maybe we can help out eachother.
Paul

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #51 on: May 30, 2019, 02:28:06 AM »
I'm looking for an AP to help me through the reboot.  I prefer someone in the same boat as I am (single, atheist, gay), but if you are not and you are okay with all three of these facets of me, I would be willing to partner up.  I hope to hear from someone.  Thanks, guys.
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Iloveicecream

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #52 on: August 27, 2019, 10:44:11 AM »
Hi, I am Looking for an AP. Anyone willing to join the battle:)?

SaxonJack

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #53 on: December 20, 2019, 11:02:36 AM »
55 year-old married guy here, would like to find a friend in similar situation to encourage one another through our reboot.  I've been a regular porn user since age 14, but 6 years ago when wife experienced some health issues and was unable to "perform" on a regular basis,  I found my PMO gradually becoming more and more frequent to the point of almost every day.  The last 4 or 5 months I've been experiencing PIED which really scares me. 

I'm not sure how much accountability is possible inside this forum which relies upon anonymity.
But, I"m hopeful that confession may provide a benefit to my problem (and yours).
If you are willing to give it a try, please  message me.

I will remove this post as soon as I am no longer seeking an accountability partner.



 
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irvgmz

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« Reply #54 on: January 20, 2020, 09:56:54 AM »
Hello, I am a 41 yr old recently divorced guy. I am looking for someone to partner with as an accountability partner in this journey for growth. I have been using p since I was about 14 and am severely addicted. It is difficult for me to go day without indulging in it. But I just started working with a professional and he is helping me expose my erroneous thought patterns.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #55 on: January 25, 2020, 01:32:14 PM »
Hi.

Also seeking accountability partner.

Male, 49, UK base and timezones.

Long-term porn problems, also associated social media and more generalised internet addiction (self-diagnosed).

I'm in a long-term relationship and relatively stable in many ways. I'm a recovering drug and alcohol addict (and cigarettes) with about six years clean in that recovery.

I've started a journal but if anyone wants to join in then I'd be interested. I see that the two previous posts are from gentlemen in a similar age group and I'd be very happy to chat to you guys!

Cheers, OO.

mydonspace

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« Reply #56 on: February 07, 2020, 10:46:09 AM »
I'm 44 and was introduced to porn at a young age.  Although my porn use didn't escalate until high speed internet came and it was all downhill from there with the smartphone.  I was going from one dopamine rush to another sometimes spending a good part of my work day and evenings paging through porn sites.  Eventually that wasn't enough for me so I begin sexting with girls.  As a married man this just caused extra anxiety for me. I picked up running six years ago and it helped minimize my use, but anytime hard times arised I was back at it again with the porn and sexting. 

I've also been a causal meditator, but came across a 30 day online class at the beginning of the year and challenged myself to stick with it.  My meditation streak is still alive today.  I'm free of porn and chatting, but triggered by the occasional social media post and when that happens I hide it from my feed to not act out on it. Meditation has given me a clearer mindset, but at the same time my mind is looping with the guilt and anxiety for the questionable things I've done in the past. 

I have a therapist I meet with once a week, but it's hard to stay calm when I have all these thoughts bottled up inside waiting to discuss with her the following week.  I hope to be able find someone to discuss similar experiences to ease the process a little better.

Ismael

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« Reply #57 on: February 16, 2020, 06:35:37 AM »
Hi, everyone

My name is Ismael, I am from Spain. I can write English more or less, so I imagine this is going to be helpful for me.
I have a erectile disfunction. I watch half an hour of porn every day and masturbate. When I watched some of the videos here, I realized porn addiction was my problem. So this is why I need help. I tried to give it up but I only remained not wathing porn for a week, but erectile disfunction was still on.

I am looking for an accountability partner. Please if you want to be one, I will thank you a lot.

Best wishes to you all

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #58 on: March 18, 2020, 06:07:39 PM »
Hi, I am Looking for an AP. Anyone willing to join the battle:)?
I am open to teaming up to overcoming this attachment to porn. How shall we begin?

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« Reply #59 on: April 23, 2020, 09:12:47 AM »
I am 43 and recently discovered this whole porn issue. I am slowly realizing just how damaging it is but despite all of my efforts I am unable to make a permanent change. I'd like to ask if someone would like to go through this with me. I really need help with this.

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« Reply #60 on: May 18, 2020, 06:51:57 AM »
I am reaching out as one who has been struggling Under the weight of this addiction for nearly 40 years. I am married (for the second time), with two great young children and a strong wife. There is a lot of positive energy both personally and professionally in my life. However, I am exhausted from this addiction and attempting to manage it  on my own. I know that one of the keys to my freedom is Having a relationship of accountability and Vulnerability with a fellow traveler.  Someone with whom I can Build trust and commitment, Someone with whom I am available to and who I am able to get in touch with at any time when the temptation is too overwhelming.

Thanks for listening.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #61 on: May 19, 2020, 03:30:39 AM »
Hi Mydonspace,

I read your posts and resonate with a lot of what you've shared. I am very new to Reboot Nation, and have been struggling with porn for 40 of my 50 years. I have a strong wife and two great young kids, but have no idea what it's like to go without porn and habitual masturbating for any length of time. I know the benefits of are countless in every aspect of life, but I feel like I've been stuck spinning my wheels for years. I practice Transcendental Mediation daily, been a yoga student for over a decade, and have upped my fitness and health game in recent weeks. This can only do me good. But the one thing I need in order to become abstinent from porn is an accountability partner. I'd love to hear more about your journey and your interest in the same. Thanks!