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**Accountability Partner Requests**
« on: April 21, 2014, 11:54:37 PM »
**Accountability Partner Request Thread**

What is an "accountability partner?" = Accountability partners are pairs who hold each other responsible for their sexual habits - someone who commits to supporting and following you along the process of rebooting.

Why get an accountability partner? A few reasons...

1) As the forum grows it will be hard to keep track of everyone's journals. If you are busy, having a partner will keep things fast and simple. The days you have more time, you can venture off into other journals of course, but if you have a partner you can easily give consistent support and help each other, without becoming overwhelmed by numerous entries.

2) Giving/receiving support during the reboot process is highly beneficial, and if you can consistently do so that is even better. Knowing there is someone who is in this reboot process with you can be very calming and soothing. Knowing you are not alone is very helpful, and it is the truth.

3) You will have someone to relate to. Someone who understands some, if not most, of what you describe during your reboot, and who will be trucking along Recovery Road with you, cheering you on when times are bad, and celebrating with you when positive steps are taken.

*RULES FOR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS* 

1) Partners will post IN EACH OTHER'S JOURNAL, or if needed through private messages. This is very important, as your reboot account will remain all in one place, and the forum will not be broken down further into smaller, not as active sections. Ask for a partner in this thread, then once you have one, follow each other's journals and post there!

2) The main forum rules still apply in accountability partner posts. We will be positive and supportive and not push anything on each other. To review the rules go here: *FORUM RULES*

3) You can have more than one accountability partner, but PLEASE avoid doing this unless you are sure you have enough time to be of help to multiple people. The last thing a rebooter needs is a partner quitting on them halfway through their reboot and leaving them feeling abandoned. However, if a situation comes up where you no longer can be a partner (we all know life happens), please let your partner know so they can come back to this thread and request another partner!

4) If your partner relapses, do NOT shame or criticize. This will do no good. Instead offer advice or a different perspective of looking at the situation. Tough love is all right, a personal attack is not. If you have offered all the advice you can give and they keep slipping, you don't have to say anything, just be there for support and reassure them that they can in fact, recover, as many others have before them.

5) Encourage each other to learn as much as possible about this addiction. When you learn something new on this site or YBOP, share it with your partner. The more you know, the better the advice you can give your accountability partner. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become (as happened for me). Then you can come up with a plan of action. In my experience, knowledge is power for rebooters.

6) Just post a comment with a few things about your situation/life/reboot status and request a partner. But first go through earlier comments and see if anyone needs one.

7) After you get a partner please "modify/update" your request post at the top saying you now have a partner. This will save people time who are searching for a partner.

Keep it simple. We are ALL in this together.

Thanks and I hope the best for everyone,

Much love,
Reboot Nation!
« Last Edit: April 22, 2014, 09:18:49 PM by Gabe Deem »
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2014, 06:57:23 AM »
Hey I think we would be great partners! I'm new to the forum and rebooting. My last PMO was on the 9th of this month as well, we could get through this as a team.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #2 on: July 14, 2014, 12:39:58 PM »
I think this is a great idea and will be highly beneficial. Im looking for a partner, ready to motivate and inspire my partner as well as getting the same kind of help!!
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2014, 11:42:40 AM »
Hello , i find this a great idea , i'am looking for a partner to share  experience , booting update and keep each other strong ,
 please contact me

 PS : i'am fighting this monstre since more then one year , now i PMO less then i was in the past
« Last Edit: July 16, 2014, 11:49:22 AM by Drood007 »

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #4 on: July 17, 2014, 02:09:52 PM »
Looking for a partner! :)

My diary thread is here: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1152.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #5 on: July 27, 2014, 11:57:15 PM »
would love to have someone help me out with this.

http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1229.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #6 on: July 31, 2014, 05:12:00 PM »
I'm looking for an accountability partner as well. I'm three days into my 90-day no PMO sprint and would really like to have someone join me on my journey. Works both ways of course, I will encourage & help you with your journey too. :)

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #7 on: August 01, 2014, 09:06:33 PM »
I think it would definitely be better to have an accountability partner that way it will feel less lonely during your struggle

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #8 on: August 03, 2014, 02:28:27 PM »
Looking for an accountability partner, my journal/story: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1201.msg11539#msg11539

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I'm down for an AP. Any takers?
« Reply #9 on: August 06, 2014, 07:27:30 PM »
Hey, I think this might be helpful, so if anyone is interested message me.  Link to the journal below.

http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1327.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #10 on: August 08, 2014, 06:44:54 PM »
I'm looking for an accountability partner. I usually post on my journal every 1-3 days. Here's the link: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1272.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #11 on: August 16, 2014, 02:32:42 PM »
I need an accountability partner. PM me anyone who wants to offer help. I need it.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #12 on: August 26, 2014, 05:51:36 PM »
Hi Everyone,

I just joined today and I think an accountability buddy would be very beneficial. Here is a link to my journal: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1560.0

Please feel free to message me to be my accountability buddy!

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #13 on: September 07, 2014, 03:32:42 PM »
Looking for a partner. Let's do this, get it out of our life and go from there.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #14 on: September 15, 2014, 02:46:03 PM »
Anyone want an accountability partner? Not sure if there is anyone that posted on this thread that does not already have one.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #15 on: September 15, 2014, 05:35:02 PM »
I am looking for an accountability partner! PM me if you are willing to help

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #16 on: September 29, 2014, 09:16:06 PM »
hello! i'm looking for a partner to help me. its my first day on this website after looking for many solutions to my ED. I am currently 21 i have missed countless sex opportunities because of my ED. send me a pm if you our available. i am looking forward to reboot my life.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #17 on: October 05, 2014, 03:53:35 AM »
Great idea, I'm on day 2 and just joined the site. I'm looking to make 2015 a new me!
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #18 on: October 08, 2014, 12:41:47 AM »
Hello there
 I just started my rebooting program yesterday and I want to find a partner,  am 27 yo with 12 of PMO

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #19 on: November 05, 2014, 08:47:51 AM »
Hey everyone, I'm looking for a partner

my journal
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=2347.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #20 on: November 20, 2014, 03:32:02 AM »
Hey guys, I'm also looking for a partner team up with.

This is my journal, I've just started.
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=2509.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #21 on: December 02, 2014, 09:32:53 PM »
Looking for an accountability partner! Please PM me if interested! My journal: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1331.0

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #22 on: December 14, 2014, 02:51:55 PM »
Looking for an accountability partner msg me pls  ;) day 12

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #23 on: January 09, 2015, 04:10:47 PM »
Hi everyone. My name is Nolan and I've been fighting porn and masturbation for years and years. I discovered masturbation at 8 and found anime porn around 13/14 and regular porn at about 16. I want 2015 to be the year that I get sober. I want a regular, healthy sex drive and a want to be with real women and not something that's on a screen. I'd love to have an accountability partner. Best wishes to everyone that's fighting the good fight.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #24 on: January 13, 2015, 07:56:27 PM »
Hey im Dave I love to get an accountabilty partner Ive at best lasted 7 days and still struggle to kick it for good