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Earnhart7

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Traumatic Masturabory Syndrome
« on: April 21, 2014, 06:17:04 PM »
Hi everyone  :), this is my first post on reboot nation.   Let me start off by saying that porn has never really been my poison.  I have usually just used my imagination.

So, to my dilemma. Ever since i was little 5 or 6 i have been getting erections, by the time i reached 10 i was already masturbating almost everyday(nothing was coming out though).  Ever since i was 18 the frequency has jumped to 2-3 times a day.  I know the real way to masturbate but my mind and body did not figure this out. When i was starting off i just kinda of humped the bed/pillow until i got off.  Sadly this is the addictive habit I am still relying on to get me through days of loneliness. :'(

I am now 27 and have never really been in any real relationships.  I'm not a virgin and have been with 5 or 6 partners.  Everytime i've had sex i haven't been able to get it up except when i'm pretty intoxicated or getting blow jobs.   I remember being a confident person when i was younger but i think all that went away by the time I was 14 or so. I'm lethargic all day and never have motivation to better myself.

I have tried to quit once before and I made it to 2 weeks but then relapsed horribly and got unmotivated again.  The whole time i was abstaining seemed like one long flatline.  I never had one erection and this is very disheartening.  I'm scared if i quit that i will lose the little bit of libido i have left.

Veterans please give me any words of wisdom because I am so tired of this life.  So tired of the self imposed shame.  And sick of feeling like i'm not a masculine enough role model for my nephews. :'(

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Re: Traumatic Masturabory Syndrome
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2014, 04:09:04 AM »
Hi

Rebooting is experiencing living life without porn. Most guys focus on the "without porn" part, but the "living life" is actually much more important.

"I'm lethargic all day and never have motivation to better myself."

Work on this. It will help you much more in your life than just abstaining from masturbation. Some guys think that masturbation drains them of their energy and is therefore the cause of their problem, when in fact it is the way they are living their lives.

I used to be like that myself. During my own reboot, I moved out of my old place (which was a pathetic dump) and got a girlfriend, who is currently living with me in my new place. I am talking about having kids with her. But I still struggle with the low energy I used to have in my former life. It is something I need fight with still.

The best thing is to start making one of these lists on how to improve your life and really try to make that a reality.