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rust

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being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« on: February 03, 2015, 08:09:05 AM »
Hi guys. i have started rebooting about 2 weeks ago. My girlfriend is fully supporting me throughout all this.

My question is, we are quite active, like alot. We see each other only on weekends, due to she lives 3hours away.
When were with each other, we are very active. Should i still try and sustain from all MO, i have deleted and moved away from anything porn related.

I am seeing her again this weekend, after not being there for 2 weeks.

So yes, my questions are. can i still have her if she doesn't touch me, like can i take care of her. Which i so #$$@$#% love by the way.
or just try and not do anything sexual.

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Re: being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« Reply #1 on: February 03, 2015, 08:14:14 AM »
It's perfectly normal and fine to do anything with your gf as long as it does not involve watching P together. Any other interaction I'm sure it counts as rewiring which is actually helping your brain to get more connected to real stimuli / real women.

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« Reply #2 on: February 03, 2015, 08:21:56 AM »
hi, thank you

well i have watched Gabes youtube clip, and he says it helps but advises us to just stay away for the 2 months and then your free willy of sorts.

So if it is true i can still be active with her and i will definitely stay away from porn. then ill be very happy.
Sounds cliche but can't keep my hands up. But the ED has fucked me up badly.
So dont want to do anything that might drag it out for longer as what i would like it to be.

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Re: being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« Reply #3 on: February 03, 2015, 08:28:39 AM »
Well, in my opinion as long as you're capable to have sex with your gf... Go right ahead man! It's natural, it's beautiful go ahead!

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Re: being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« Reply #4 on: February 03, 2015, 08:29:31 AM »
Hey, already the problem is not the sex with your girlfriend but an orgasm. Gabe recommends trying something called karezza.

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« Reply #5 on: February 03, 2015, 08:32:49 AM »
Orgasms are related with porn the way that when you PMO what you want is reach orgasm, while having sex with your girlfriend your priority is the sensation of having sex, not reaching orgams. So when you orgasm your brain is rewiring but it will take you more time to rewire completely than without orgamsm

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Re: being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« Reply #6 on: February 03, 2015, 08:34:01 AM »
well first, we haven't had sex yet, we have done all the other stuff. not sex. my problem is, if im not preoccupied with something else. not being crude. but 69 then i lose my erection. if i don't think just about what shes doing then i lose erection. if i stand up i lose erection.

with porn that was never the problem, i could get an erection as hard as steel, walk around the room doing squats for hours, and would still be hard.

real life, not like that at all.

so yes. i get hard looking at her and all that. when stuff gets real, i need to have my hands and eyes occupied on something else.

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Re: being active with your girl while on a reboot?
« Reply #7 on: February 03, 2015, 08:36:48 AM »
she keeps telling me, i don't have to orgasm, i can just enjoy it. so thats what normally happens.

But then you say that i should delay with trying to orgasm while i reboot