Hi!
I've my own journal that I keep in my native language, but I felt it'd be good also to have a log here where I can share my experiences.
First, a little story. I discovered I was a dopamine addict when I crossed an article by Marnia Robinson in a RSS feed I used to read. I identified myself in the description of an addicted person. Since then, I've tried several things: 12 step, Candeo, willpower, therapy, ...
But now something has changed. Two things have changed:
- First, I've started to have actual sex with women. I was a virgin until this year. And to my amazement, I couldn't ejaculate, felt almost nothing and even had problems getting it up!! Of course I have read about PIED before, I've been in "this bussiness" for a long time, but that it could happen to me was unthinkable. I was much more worried about finishing too fast that anything.
- Second, I discovered this fantastic post by William (and others that contribute) and made me realize that I was trying to work out peripherical things in order to not tackle the addiction and porn directly. I was bargaining with porn. I didn't want it out of my life badly enough. If you had asked me, I would've told you that I did want it out badly, but it'd be false.
After reading that post and having actual problems in my relationship with women, I think I want it out badly enough to be able to reboot my brain and have a balanced reward system. I hope so. Right now I'm 21 days clean and counting. Almost 25% of the way to 90 days which I believe would be the most difficult part.
Take care and good luck
I've my own journal that I keep in my native language, but I felt it'd be good also to have a log here where I can share my experiences.
First, a little story. I discovered I was a dopamine addict when I crossed an article by Marnia Robinson in a RSS feed I used to read. I identified myself in the description of an addicted person. Since then, I've tried several things: 12 step, Candeo, willpower, therapy, ...
But now something has changed. Two things have changed:
- First, I've started to have actual sex with women. I was a virgin until this year. And to my amazement, I couldn't ejaculate, felt almost nothing and even had problems getting it up!! Of course I have read about PIED before, I've been in "this bussiness" for a long time, but that it could happen to me was unthinkable. I was much more worried about finishing too fast that anything.
- Second, I discovered this fantastic post by William (and others that contribute) and made me realize that I was trying to work out peripherical things in order to not tackle the addiction and porn directly. I was bargaining with porn. I didn't want it out of my life badly enough. If you had asked me, I would've told you that I did want it out badly, but it'd be false.
After reading that post and having actual problems in my relationship with women, I think I want it out badly enough to be able to reboot my brain and have a balanced reward system. I hope so. Right now I'm 21 days clean and counting. Almost 25% of the way to 90 days which I believe would be the most difficult part.
Take care and good luck