Makes me annoyed knowing I wasted a year worth of rebooting with masturbation and porn relapses.
I do have a question and it is this, is it the constant clicking of 'new' (jumping from one vid to the next) sensitizing the pathways to porn, or the more hardcore and shocking stuff is??
please provide us with information about time u took to start feeling damn better .. to have real sex .. to feel completely healed
how is it that some people seem to watch porn (even a lot of porn) and still manage to have heathly relationships and bang thier girlfriends? surley every guy has watched thier fair share of porn, so how come some get ED?
did you really never relapsed? i just did.... cant believe myself after 100 days. will there be a setback?
stop of the semen leakage is a sign of recovery ?I tought it was a sign of "libido" no ?
did you experience premature ejaculation when having sex during your reboot?
In your videos you said that you just came around to thinking 'that p was no longer an option'. I just would like to ask a few questions how did you do that in one go just on that thought?
How long had you avoided PMO before trying to have sex with a girl ?
Your "sexual recovery" was linear (no failure during sex), or not linear (some successfull sex and some failures) ?
- Do you get excited about having sex now? Do you get properly turned on/aroused?
- Did you experience changes in your ability to enjoy music during PMO and rebooting?
- Are you still noticing improvements of any kind now, or do you think you're fully recovered already?
You said it took you 9 months to have sex and 15 months to get hard by your own touch. This is a bit confusing for me us I thought, you had to be able to get hard by your self before being able to have sex. I thought that's how the recovery process should go. It makes sense that you would be bale to get hard by your own touch before getting hard with a woman?
are u for or against trying viagra/cialis for having sex while rebooting/rewiring or not?
I was wondering if you started seeing certain things right before you were able to have sex again.....what were some of the things you were seeing in months 7-8, if it took you 9 months to get cured...
Did your porn addiction cause a severe drop, even a complete death, in your libido?
Do i have to avoid sex for an other time (perhaps 3 months more) to reboot better, and to improve my dopamine level. And then rewire....
Did you take anything like meds, supplements, herbal stuff, etc that helped you in your reboot?
my mom gave me this supplement called MaxGXL......Have you or anyone in this forum taken this supplement? I was wondering if it might behelpful in rebooting.
so m I on my way to quit it? If not then what are the suggestions?
curious as to how often you got spontaneous erections throughout your reboot?
See the thing about your case is that I can bet any amount of money you were good with girls even while addicted to porn. You're a good looking guy (no homo), so I can bet you still had girls wanting you. That's not the case for a lot of us here.
should i retrain my brain to get an erection by my own touch, by lightly touching myself every so often.
Can you remember when you started getting morning wood again? Did it come in "waves", or did it stay with you once it came?
There may not be an answer to this question. How much rewiring does it take to heal?
How long after starting did you notice a difference?
did you drink / get drunk during your reboot?
When you had wet dreams did you wake up the next day feeling... fucking terrible?
Any advice on avoiding wet dreams?
I would like to ask you about your drive for live/motivation/pleasure in nonsexual things. How long did it take for those things to get normal?
tell me, in short, what did you do during your reboot to recover so well?
I heard that you did 4-3-3 months of abstinence. Did you relapse? How much did you spread out your orgasms (after you stopped abstaining, of course) to avoid flatline?
"This leads to a question: how do you, Gabe, avoid porn?"
Is being able to get an erection with light stroking and no fantasy or porn a sign that you're healed in your opinion?
And I was thinking that if I can get hard with my own light touching, then I could get hard with a females light touching and continue with sex
Should I rewire to women both inside and outside of the workplace, or should I just rewire to women outside only.
Can you describe the shortening of your refractory period in stages throughout your recovery?
Since your recovery, what is the highest number of orgasms you have had in a day?
I hear you mention a lot that you felt you were 100% cured by month 15. Would you say then that you have discontinued to see improvements since month 15? or is there still work being done in your brain you think? if so, what changes have you noticed?
Literally within the past few weeks, out of no where I can't seem to get a full erection....I was just curious to see exactly how and when you knew you had a problem, if it was anything similar to this
1) When you were rebooting, how difficult was it to be in your relationship?
It's like I'm expecting her to give up and push me away. She's extremely attractive and men flirt with her daily. Any advice?
I am depressed and frustrated. I know you cannot give me a "recovery timetable" but I'd like it if you had to share some stories about your tough moments.
Also, did you go to a urologist? Thing is, I want to go to one but I am afraid he'll just tell me it's performance anxiety and make me lose money for nothing. I've done the PIED test and I can get erections with porn but not without it, so I figure it probably is PIED.
When I started rebooting some months ago, I couldn't get ANY reaction to touch alone. Was it that bad when you started your reboot?
Interested to know what your perspective is on rewiring vs abstaining. Do you think rewiring is essential or can you heal just by abstaining?
Prior to rebooting Did you have an issue with maintaining your erection when you stand up?
does the penis head inflate during erection and get hard prior to rebooting and after the reboot?
Just wondering Gabe have spontaneous erections returned as well?
why is it like that, some days you could get it up easily and then followed by the day you coudnt?
How did exercise affect you reboot?
I was thinking about getting into a consistent running routine which I thought would help me with stress/dopamine but I think I read on ybop that it's strength training that really helps. Do you have an opinion on this topic? Should I do one, the other, or both and what would be most effective?
could you please tell about your workout schedule during the reboot and do you believe exercising makes the reboot easier and faster as it helps to deal with anxiety and depression.
Have you battled bitterness and regret over robbed youth, stolen childhood innocence, and wasted life? If so, how did you overcome it?
how long did it take for you to start feeling the benefits of quitting (Benefits that are no related to ED) such as increased motivation, etc. And did you at any point struggle with insomnia?
As we know you go a lot of time without orgasms, and when you start having sex regularly (regular orgasms) do you have some problem with frequency? Did so much time diminish your ability to having frequent and satisfied orgasms?
When you were in a flatline, how were you feeling overall emotionally?
I wanted to ask you about if you have any particular self-help book or technique that you found useful during and after your reboot?
at what point during a cold turkey reboot would you suggest throwing cuddling, socially interacting in a flirty way etc into the mix? Is it advisable to go full on "monk mode" for a certain time frame?
At what level of intensity did you start watching porn? Did the addiction develop gradually over time or were you instantly hooked at first sight like a hit of crack cocaine?
In your videos you say that you *knew* you would/could never go back to porn. I can't seem to reach this state of mind. I know it is harmful, and it has caused me a lot of pain over the years, but I can't seem to accept that I can never look at it again. It's pretty much the only thing that makes me feel good anymore. How do I achieve the mindset that I can never look at it again?
I only crave P because I want to feel that rush. Forget about shit for a while. I don't get that rush from anything else in my life. Do I really have to live without it?
if someone who started young like me doesn't get a girlfriend or someone to get physical with in some way, is it possible that I could be stuck in a flatline forever? Or would it just mean it would take me much much longer to rewire?
I know its not linear but I wanted to know that since you said you were feeling better at 6 months did you still have bad days and brain fog up until 8 months where you said everything went away and all you had to worry about what your dick?
I want to know if you think that some people could actually have to go through 2 years of these symptoms like PAWS withdrawl from other substances or do they just have other issues not related to porn?
what stopped you of seeking help from a doctor as if you're going through clinical depression?
Do you have any advice on building willpower?
After fully rebooting, have you experienced this "superpowers" (whatever you wanna call it) feeling consistently, like every day? Is it really just a return to being "normal."?
What I'm confused about is what would cause you to be sexually active if your life was so consumed by porn? If you were abusing porn since before puberty and that was your only sexual outlet, what had motivated you to woo women and get them in bed? It just seems to me that porn and sexual relationships are mutually exclusive, especially for someone who started as early as you. Trying to get with a real girl, getting to know her, and eventually getting her in bed would involve at least some degree of anxiety and motivation, but porn is a killer to that kind of motivation. What was the difference between your sexual motivation when you were an addict, the motivation while you were rebooting, and the motivation after you recovered?
What was the difference between your sexual motivation when you were an addict, the motivation while you were rebooting, and the motivation after you recovered?