Author Topic: PIED & porn addiction (From a Christ-Follower's Perspective)  (Read 342 times)

Dobbers17

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Hey Guys! New here and wanted to write a bit about my journey in case it could help anyone. I'm a 27 year old guy from Minnesota and I have had PIED for the last couple of years without even realizing it. I'm encouraged by all of your stories and it helps SO much for me to hear you guys and realize how damaging this thing is. Just a side note, I am a Christian and that has been the greatest thing that's happened to me but to each their own in terms of beating this thing!

So here's a few things about my story:

1. I've been looking at porn since 13 yo and started touching myself at 9. Have continued to masturbate consistently since.
2. Have had quite a few sexual encounters with woman but since I have become a Christ-follower, I'm waiting to have sex next till I'm married (takes a lot of pressure off as well haha)
3. Stopped PMO in college for 2 years out of conviction but relapsed into the last few years where I have fallen into a huge pit of video chats, more extreme porn, and chronic masturbation.

The past few months have been a rollercoaster with PMO but I just want to give you guys hope! After just 2 months of no PMO, I was starting to get consistent morning wood and random erections. But then... I came back home from abroad and got caught in a YouTube cycle and ended up watching some things that I shouldn't have.. This led to me masturbating over the next week... Glad to say, I'm in a flatline but two weeks into this thing again. I think the greatest shift in thinking has been knowing this is a marathon and this is for life. Not just a temporary thing to be able to get hard - this is so much more than that.. SO with that, I want to give a few tips for a successful recipe as I have gone LONG stints without PMO. They include:

1. For ME, reading the Word and staying in His presence every day is the most important thing for me
2. Journaling my emotions every day and going to therapy once a month (know I get the most tempted when I feel rejection)
3. Connecting with people that I know and who know me deeply
4. Exercise, research PIED more every week, have goals, go to bed/wake up early, eat healthy, stopped drinking, etc.
5. Add an expounding list of "why's" in terms of why I don't look at porn. Look at it EVERY time I'm tempted and it has talked me off the ledge a lot

Hope this helps! Please please please don't give up and let me know if you have any questions! Bless you guys!

Danny


« Last Edit: July 11, 2019, 08:09:15 PM by Dobbers17 »

jixu

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #1 on: July 01, 2019, 05:27:53 PM »
Hi Dobb!  Interesting background with an apparent paradigm shift in thinking.  How has it been going lately?  Take care!

Liam wants to reboot

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2019, 05:56:24 PM »
Dear Dobbers17

I created this account and writing just to say Thank You.

I am also a believer in Jesus and I have been blessed by your message. Particularly this part: "I read the Bible and have a relationship with Christ and His love and care for us blew me away when sat down and actually started reading the word and talking/listening to Him."

As I am someone who fails to escape porn repeatedly, I wrestle in my head for hours reading countless success stories and forum posts, but my best option is to Sit, Rest and Listen to what The Lord is telling me through his word.

I don't intend to come back here  because I believe I need a long time off the internet so I can learn to stay away from porn, (Unless I could have a success story for The Lord someday) but i want you to know this: Your message has been a real blessing to me, and I pray that God will encourage you that nothing you do for him will be in vain.

From Liam.

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #3 on: July 11, 2019, 08:18:07 PM »
Hi Dobb!  Interesting background with an apparent paradigm shift in thinking.  How has it been going lately?  Take care!

What's up man! They have been good - currently in a flatline but living in a ton of hope! :). I'm actually in Patagonia and to be totally real with ya, I masturbated 2 weeks ago after a girl kissed me at a hostel. I actually ended up stopping it and leaving cause as I mentioned, I love Jesus and know that's not an honoring thing to do to Him or the woman and I also KNEW I would O if it kept going. But I ended up masturbating after it anyways and that's where I currently am.. Not necessarily a "success" story anymore haha but it is to me. Only one morning wood but am stronger and moving forward! How's it going for you man?

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #4 on: July 11, 2019, 08:21:52 PM »
Dear Dobbers17

I created this account and writing just to say Thank You.

I am also a believer in Jesus and I have been blessed by your message. Particularly this part: "I read the Bible and have a relationship with Christ and His love and care for us blew me away when sat down and actually started reading the word and talking/listening to Him."

As I am someone who fails to escape porn repeatedly, I wrestle in my head for hours reading countless success stories and forum posts, but my best option is to Sit, Rest and Listen to what The Lord is telling me through his word.

I don't intend to come back here  because I believe I need a long time off the internet so I can learn to stay away from porn, (Unless I could have a success story for The Lord someday) but i want you to know this: Your message has been a real blessing to me, and I pray that God will encourage you that nothing you do for him will be in vain.

From Liam.

SO GOOD dude! I am so glad it was encouraging - would love to hear your story sometime too. Know I'm praying for you tonight and believe 100% you're going to beat this thing. Best of luck staying away from the internet and pumped to hear your success story someday! Jesus loves you so much man and is in this with you!

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Re: PIED & porn addiction (From a Christ-Follower's Perspective)
« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2019, 07:05:52 AM »
Wow-Patagonia, that must be nice!  It is hard when moving around but try to keep the daily devotions alive.  Best wishes!