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Re: REBOOT PART 2
« Reply #625 on: March 28, 2016, 11:22:28 AM »
Lyon....it is inspiring to see you STRANGLING the last bits of life out of your addictions.
I am continuing to follow your journey here...and your determination, day by day, is encouraging to me.

Keep it up...we are in this together.

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Re: REBOOT PART 2
« Reply #626 on: March 29, 2016, 04:21:48 AM »
Thanks brother. I've wrongly called these porn-subs when the correct term would be more akin to 'cyber addiction.' As I explained to a fellow member named Numez, my cyber addiction is to g-rated things on YouTube and Facebook. I would have no problem admitting that I'd looked a porn as this would be a relapse in my mind. It would also necessitate resetting my counter. So I am still 515+ days porn-free (I've lost count) and am now working on a general cyber addiction. As such, I've started a new thread here: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=8545.0 to detail my journey. Why? Because I believe this thread should be about porn addiction, not cyber addiction. Be well my friends. PORN AND CYBER ADDICTION ARE NOT OPTIONS.

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #627 on: April 18, 2016, 12:23:51 AM »
Good morning Reboot Nation! I'm now on day 536 porn-free and have decided to move on from this forum. It's time so this will be my final post...FOREVER. I feel like I did when leaving primary school. It's a mixture of fear and excitement. For the longest time, my moniker has been, "Life's too short to live it virtually." Very true. So it's time for me to start living in the real world, rather than living virtually via this and other forums. This forum and the wonderful people sharing here gave me my life back. I shared EVERYTHING here and I highly recommend to anyone still struggling with porn addiction to do the same. Thank you to my fellow members, thanks to Gabe Deem for creating this wonderful site, and thank you to all of my friends and family who have stood by me during the darkest years of my porn addiction. Goodbye friends.   
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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #628 on: April 18, 2016, 04:43:42 AM »
Thank you for your inspiration and good luck on your journey. I hope to be where you're at some day.
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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #629 on: April 18, 2016, 06:33:25 AM »
Goodbye.  I wish you happiness and peace.  Always remember thatrelationships matter and if you tend them and talk to your partner, porn will not e a problem.

I am happy for you!

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #630 on: April 18, 2016, 10:21:49 AM »
I bid you a fond farewell, Lyon!

You continue to be an inspiration, and will be remembered as such.

Wishing you prosperity, health and success in all your endeavors.

Peace, and God's blessings.

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #631 on: April 18, 2016, 10:30:57 AM »
Best wishes Lyon. Your journal is on my reading list. Godspeed as you move forward.

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #632 on: April 18, 2016, 02:48:35 PM »
Thank you for that really inspiring final post, Lyon. I will read the first few pages today, and will read more of your, what seems a very empowering journal, as time goes on. The very best to you!!! :) fyg
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H.A.L.T - Hungry Angry Lonely Tired
Wherever water flows it creates ruts. Where is your mental water flowing?
PMO increases DeltaFosB in your brain, which in turn makes you crave the next PMO even more. DON'T DO IT! Your future self will thank you :)
PMO & excessive MO fux up your Prefrontal Cortex

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #633 on: April 18, 2016, 03:09:00 PM »
Goodbye Lyon, you've been a great example for all of us, and your journal has inspired us so much. Take care.
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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #634 on: April 18, 2016, 10:52:45 PM »
Wishing you all the best, Lyon!


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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #635 on: April 19, 2016, 12:49:45 AM »
Goodbye, dear lyon, and much love to you. I'm so grateful that we got to know each other through this forum. You'll always be in my heart. Take care and all the best.


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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #636 on: April 20, 2016, 05:10:19 PM »
Hi Lyon, I haven't been on this site for long and haven't even shared or conversed with anyone on this site yet but I was very impressed with your replies to others and your insight into the porn addiction. Just thought I'd say thanks for all the help and inspiration you've given me and I believe so many others on this site by simply encouraging others and sharing your experience. All the best to you.....take care and God bless.

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #637 on: April 21, 2016, 12:46:30 AM »
Hey Lyon, sorry to hear you are leaving. You have been an amazing contibutor here and a great help to me in my recovery. All the best. May your life continue to be blessed. FF

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Re: FINAL GOODBYE
« Reply #638 on: April 25, 2016, 03:14:13 PM »
Thank you, Lyon.

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KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #639 on: September 27, 2016, 11:21:26 AM »
Good day friends! It's been a very long time since my last post so I thought I'd check in on the eve of 700 days porn free. Given my 20-year addiction to porn, masturbation, and (later) sex, living without my addictions is nothing short of a miracle. And none of this would have been possible without the kindness and loving support of my fellow rebooters. So why am I back? I'm writing to encourage those who are just starting their reboots and to encourage those who continue to struggle with porn-related dopamine addiction. [If you don't know what dopamine is, get a copy of "Your Brain on Porn" stat!] My message is: don't give up. As I've shared in this thread, I know that porn would have killed me. On October 29, 2014, I decided to make a change and stop watching porn...forever. I won't lie to you. It was hell. Reboot was hell. But the rewards - like happiness, honesty, and intimacy to name a few - are well worth it. Giving up porn, porn subs, and all of the addictive behaviours that fed my two-decade-long addiction to dopamine was the most difficult and yet the most rewarding thing I've ever done. No matter where you are along your journey my friends, please don't give up.

Reboot is a bit like learning to walk again. It's all or nothing. Either you're up or you're down on your *ss crying. I was thinking about how my own reboot was like learning to walk (porn-free) all over again. I thought to myself: after a toddler stumbles, I've never seen a child give up, refuse to try walking again, hide/isolate, blame their crappy childhood/spouse/boss, rationalize "I'll just crawl for one more day before giving it another try." No. The kid just b*lls out tries again and again and again until he/she walks. This was pretty much my approach to reboot. I came ready to do whatever it took to live porn free. I obsessively posted here. I joined www.pornaddictsanonymous.org, a 12-step programme for porn addiction. I participated in weekly phone-in meetings for porn addicts. I read 30+ books about porn addiction, sex addiction, and self-improvement. I got a sponsor and created a sobriety network. My motto remains: PORN IS NOT AN OPTION. This also meant giving up fleshy TV. It meant giving up all of the lies, the blame, the resent, and the rationalizations. It meant giving up masturbation, meaningless hook ups, and meaningless relationships. This is what worked for me after trying, and failing, for years to stop watching porn. No matter what our paths, we can only find freedom without our drug of choice: dopamine. 

After 700 days without porn, life has taken on a colour and texture that I never thought possible. Perhaps like me, you started your reboot to once again have big, beautiful erections, lots of steamy-hot sex, and porn-like orgasms. But I've learned that reboot was never about my d*ck. It was always about mind, heart, and soul. Once porn-free, I learned it was just the start of another set of challenges. But I was now up for those challenges. I'm now ready to face whatever life throws at me. I may not always succeed, but I'm always going to get up again and again. In brief, reboot gave me my life back. And reboot will give you back your life as well. Good luck my friends.
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Re: KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #640 on: September 27, 2016, 02:30:31 PM »
Good day friends! It's been a very long time since my last post so I thought I'd check in on the eve of 700 days porn free. Given my 20-year addiction to porn, masturbation, and (later) sex, living without my addictions is nothing short of a miracle. And none of this would have been possible without the kindness and loving support of my fellow rebooters. So why am I back? I'm writing to encourage those who are just starting their reboots and to encourage those who continue to struggle with porn-related dopamine addiction. [If you don't know what dopamine is, get a copy of "Your Brain on Porn" stat!] My message is: don't give up. As I've shared in this thread, I know that porn would have killed me. On October 29, 2014, I decided to make a change and stop watching porn...forever. I won't lie to you. It was hell. Reboot was hell. But the rewards - like happiness, honesty, and intimacy to name a few - are well worth it. Giving up porn, porn subs, and all of the addictive behaviours that fed my two-decade-long addiction to dopamine was the most difficult and yet the most rewarding thing I've ever done. No matter where you are along your journey my friends, please don't give up.

Reboot is a bit like learning to walk again. It's all or nothing. Either you're up or you're down on your *ss crying. I was thinking about how my own reboot was like learning to walk (porn-free) all over again. I thought to myself: after a toddler stumbles, I've never seen a child give up, refuse to try walking again, hide/isolate, blame their crappy childhood/spouse/boss, rationalize "I'll just crawl for one more day before giving it another try." No. The kid just b*lls out tries again and again and again until he/she walks. This was pretty much my approach to reboot. I came ready to do whatever it took to live porn free. I obsessively posted here. I joined www.pornaddictsanonymous.org, a 12-step programme for porn addiction. I participated in weekly phone-in meetings for porn addicts. I read 30+ books about porn addiction, sex addiction, and self-improvement. I got a sponsor and created a sobriety network. My motto remains: PORN IS NOT AN OPTION. This also meant giving up fleshy TV. It meant giving up all of the lies, the blame, the resent, and the rationalizations. It meant giving up masturbation, meaningless hook ups, and meaningless relationships. This is what worked for me after trying, and failing, for years to stop watching porn. No matter what our paths, we can only find freedom without our drug of choice: dopamine. 

After 700 days without porn, life has taken on a colour and texture that I never thought possible. Perhaps like me, you started your reboot to once again have big, beautiful erections, lots of steamy-hot sex, and porn-like orgasms. But I've learned that reboot was never about my d*ck. It was always about mind, heart, and soul. Once porn-free, I learned it was just the start of another set of challenges. But I was now up for those challenges. I'm now ready to face whatever life throws at me. I may not always succeed, but I'm always going to get up again and again. In brief, reboot gave me my life back. And reboot will give you back your life as well. Good luck my friends.

lyon03,

Thanks so much for the encouragement and perspective!

I'm only on Day 23 but I'm keeping my eyes on the prize and I KNOW recovery is within my power.  I'm taking nothing for granted, but I have the opportunity to recover and I know it's real.  And I don't want to go back to p-addiction and my completely isolated room in hell.  I want to, as you say, get back to embracing life and life's challenges, back to becoming who I can be.

And it is like learning to walk all over again.  You can't just flip a switch and get your life back.  You have to take a step at a time and be patient.  I'm rediscovering the balance and rhythm of authentic living, but it's a work in progress.  I've accepted that and understand it.

I indulged in porn for over 5 years.  I can't get that lost time back, but I'm not looking back.  I'm focused on today and I'm looking forward to tomorrow.  I'm grateful to have the opportunity to recover.

Thanks again! 

Branch

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Re: KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #641 on: September 27, 2016, 04:39:17 PM »
Yahoo, lyon03!! It's sure great to hear back from you. I love your post. Thank you for hanging in there with us. Good luck to all of us.


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Re: KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #642 on: September 28, 2016, 02:23:34 AM »
Thanks Patrick and Branch for your shouts out. Branch wrote:

"I'm only on Day 23 but I'm keeping my eyes on the prize and I KNOW recovery is within my power."

Whether we're on day 2 or day 2000, it takes the same skills and commitment to remain addiction-free my friend. Not too long ago, I remember being in complete awe of anyone who had 100+ days of recovery. I was a total fangirl. Today marks day 700 porn-free for me although it's essentially just a number. My commitment to remaining addiction-free remains the same regardless of the math. So keep going Branch!

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« Reply #643 on: September 28, 2016, 04:35:40 AM »
Great to hear your story and a slightly different spin on it, i.e. Dopamine addiction rather than porn addiction.

I have never suffered with ED so fingers crossed that isnt something i will suffer from during reboot, it all about getting back all the time, isolation and self esteem this addiction takes from me.

Will use the toddler walking analogy to inspire me as well.

Thanks and best wishes:)

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« Reply #644 on: September 28, 2016, 08:38:36 AM »
I'm so glad you came back to visit lyon. We are still here, fighting the good fight. I'm almost on day 100. This reboot is so different from the other ones. For some reason porn just doesn't interest me anymore. It's been a pretty easy reboot.anyways, it's so nice to hear how good your doing. I know you have inspired a lot of people here.
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Re: KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #645 on: September 28, 2016, 10:59:41 AM »
Thanks Patrick and Branch for your shouts out. Branch wrote:

"I'm only on Day 23 but I'm keeping my eyes on the prize and I KNOW recovery is within my power."

Whether we're on day 2 or day 2000, it takes the same skills and commitment to remain addiction-free my friend. Not too long ago, I remember being in complete awe of anyone who had 100+ days of recovery. I was a total fangirl. Today marks day 700 porn-free for me although it's essentially just a number. My commitment to remaining addiction-free remains the same regardless of the math. So keep going Branch!

lyon03,

You make a good point.  I hadn't thought of it that way. I guess I've been in fangirl mode, too, thinking rebooters at 100+ must've tapped into a secret I don't know.  What you say makes sense and I really appreciate it.

Thanks for the insight and the encouragement!

Branch

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« Reply #646 on: October 01, 2016, 08:29:35 PM »
Thank you for posting back on RN Lyon03. A few months ago I hadn't been here long when you were leaving, and reading some of your journal at the time was seriously motivational. The way you talked about mastering time, and increasing your ability to concentrate for longer periods of time resonated with me and has helped me out a lot with procrastination; ie. in studying and reading for longer periods over the last few months... So, I just wanted to thank you. Have travelled through a rough patch of late, but still, your posts have really helped me. Thanks, man!

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Re: KEEP GOING FRIENDS! 700 DAY UPDATE
« Reply #647 on: October 12, 2016, 03:13:23 PM »
Hey Lyon...life is good.

You are approaching 2 years....awesome.

NGU

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TWO YEAR UPDATE
« Reply #648 on: October 29, 2016, 03:03:44 AM »
Good morning nation! Today I celebrate my two-year anniversary porn-free. On October 29, 2014, I said "enough" and pledged to never watch porn again. I adopted a "porn is not an option" stance and haven't had a porn, masturbation, orgasm session (or "PMO") in TWO F*CKING YEARS! So how did I do it? Just read my previous posts friends. So how is life on the other side? Life has a beauty, colour, and texture that I never thought possible.

How can I explain it? I recently tried to start up my laptop while traveling and for some reason the hard drive was running something in the background. Whatever was running so SLOWED my computer down that even entering my password was almost impossible. It took about an hour for my computer to even boot up and then it hit me. That was my previous life on porn. Like a hard drive running some viral program, porn had so f*cked up my brain that everything happened in slow motion...or didn't happen at all. Sleep, emotions, higher thinking, impulse control, you name it, NOTHING worked properly while my brain was on porn. These past two years have been the longest and most fundamental hard drive wipe in my life. It was truly a "reboot."

When I started this journey two years ago, I thought I wanted powerful erections, mind-blowing sex, and explosive orgasms. But these were the goals of an addict seeing the world through my smeared porn lens. Reboot was never about my d*ck I quickly learned. It was about healing heart and soul. Two years later, I understand that we spend less than 0.4% of our lives actually having sex. So why obsess about my junk? Reboot was about making 99.6% of my life better and I feel I'm on the right track. I sleep better, no longer have a TV, and am free of the anxiety that plagued me during 20+ years of porn, sex, and masturbation addiction. Gone are the tools of a broken man: the anger, the sarcasm, the blame and resentment. It's as if a fog has lifted. I can see clearly now thanks to reboot.

Yes I now have a wonderful sex life. Yes my penis now functions properly. But true intimacy is simply the natural result of a healthy mind. Rather poignantly, I just read another post from a fellow rebooter who joined this forum around the same time I did a few years ago. While I adopted a "porn is not an option" approach, he continues to indulge in porn from time to time, is still suffering from depression, is jobless, and blames his wife for their sexual dysfunction. Ironically, he gives other members advice. Insanity is truly trying the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result. I was the same broken man just a few years ago so I have a lot of compassion for this guy. Why am I sharing this? Until I acknowledged my porn addiction, accepted I had no control over it, and realized I was responsible for my miserable lot in life, ONLY then could I reboot. Only then could I start anew. This process has taught me that I am 100% responsible for my life, my happiness, my success. And I didn't do it alone.

This forum and its wonderful members encouraged me throughout the process. Being a part of a community based on honesty, accountability and healing saved my life. I am so thankful to Gabe Deem and all of you for making this possible. Thank you for giving me my life back.     
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« Reply #649 on: October 29, 2016, 07:16:42 PM »
This is great to hear!  I love reading about success.  Thanks for stopping in and letting us know.  I often wonder about some of the people that have left.