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Re: THREE YEARS NINE MONTHS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #800 on: August 23, 2018, 05:40:55 AM »
Nice to see you here – coincidentally, I just dropped by after a few months’ absence to do my own update (2 years less 2 months). I am glad to hear how well things are going for you and everyone around you.  The message is clear – stick with the program and the benefits will be life-changing, for you and for everyone around you. As a wise person said -- "Porn is not an option"

Congratulations, dude, a big hug from a fellow traveler.
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Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #801 on: October 28, 2018, 11:16:46 AM »
Good day nation! Tomorrow will mark 4 years porn-free for me. Let's have a look at my very first forum post:

"Here is my story: 42 years old, first discovered porn/masturbation around age 12, went from magazines, to video, paid streaming porn, then free and highly addictive porn sites. What was a flirtation became a full-on obsession in 1994 and heroin-like addiction in 2005. I'm starting this journal on day 23 of my recovery with a goal of hitting 90 days initially before stopping forever. My addiction has now cost me: my career, my business, my marriage, and was well along to destroying my relationship with my three kids. On October 30th, I finally said "f*ck this". I've not watched porn since and never will do it again. I've started a reboot with no-fap and no television. I've also read pretty much everything I could about my addiction, namely it's harder to give up than meth. (Scary!) But there are temptations, particularly in the form of rock-hard erections at night and geyser-like pressure because I haven't had an orgasm in roughly two weeks. I'll post daily to keep motivated. Glad to have found this site and very happy to share with others."

I can't express how much better my life is without my addictions to porn and masturbation. So how did I get this far?

1. Set a goal: "Porn is not an option"
2. Joined www.pornaddictsanonymous.org and this forum.
3. For the first 100 days, posted daily.
4. Read everything I could about addiction and particularly porn addiction.
5. Made a point of reading other threads while also encouraging others.
6. Got back into shape.
7. Quickly realized that, for me personally, porn was just a coping mechanism. I had to change my whole way of thinking.
8. Worked hard to address a whole host of other issues (being closeted; toxic relationships; co-dependency; sex addiction etc).

Thanks for reading friends. This forum was a huge part of my recovery so I'd like to thank Gabe Deem and my fellow members. Keep fighting the good fight. Love Lyon.

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Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #802 on: October 28, 2018, 01:38:00 PM »
It is inspiring to read your success story.  I too am a sex addict, not just a porn addict.  I'm feeling hammered by 8. right now (whole host of other issues).

It feels like this depression, anxiety, and heartbreak will last forever, but you give me hope that there will be victory eventually.  Thank you for taking the time to come back to post.  It gives hope.  :)

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Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #803 on: October 28, 2018, 09:16:24 PM »
Your first post puts things in perspective. One always thinks the folks that have succeeded really didn't have to "travel too far." Most of the time, that isn't the fact.

Good thing to keep in mind.

Peace

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Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #804 on: October 30, 2018, 12:14:39 PM »
Congratulations, and thanks for using your success to help inspire the rest of us!
Back again to make a lifelong change.

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Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #805 on: October 30, 2018, 02:30:57 PM »
Yahoo, Congratulations, Lyon!! Much love


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Re: 4.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #806 on: May 13, 2019, 02:24:21 PM »
Hey friends! I just celebrated 4.5 years porn-free and I did it just like all of you: one day at a time. Life is so much better porn-free. Insomnia: gone. Limp d*ck: gone. Depression: gone. Anxiety: gone. Self-esteem: back. Love of life: back. Confidence (not arrogance): back. Happiness: back. Had I not stopped watching porn back on October 29, 2014, I know for a fact that I'd be a dead man right now. Why? Because I was such a screen addict that I often watched porn and sexted while driving. There is no secret to my recovery: hard 90 porn/masturbation free; posting here for the first year of recovery; encouraging others; and these days I continue to participate in weekly 12-step meetings for porn addiction (www.pornaddictsanonymous.org). For me, there was no quick fix to overcoming my addictions to porn, sex, and masturbation. It was a grind, particularly for the first year, but now 4.5 years later, it was so worth it. I wish you all the best with your own journeys. Love to all. 

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« Reply #807 on: May 13, 2019, 03:17:55 PM »
Hi Lyon....

so, today, of all days....I came back here to visit....and thought about writing again and processing here again. I was hungry for a place to just be honest and be able to write....and thought about this place.

I see that YOU were here today as well. Interesting.

I'm really happy that you are still free from the p & m.

I hope all is well with you.

Thanks.
NGU

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« Reply #808 on: May 14, 2019, 05:21:40 AM »
Lyon, you have been an inspiration to me since we have both began this journey at the same time.  I'm getting close to 6 months pmo free. I cant describes how great I feel not spending hours looking for the perfect video to further my sickness. Thank you lyon.
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« Reply #809 on: May 14, 2019, 08:27:22 AM »
Hey friends! I just celebrated 4.5 years porn-free and I did it just like all of you: one day at a time..... There is no secret to my recovery: hard 90 porn/masturbation free; posting here for the first year of recovery; encouraging others; and these days I continue to participate in weekly 12-step meetings for porn addiction (www.pornaddictsanonymous.org). For me, there was no quick fix to overcoming my addictions to porn, sex, and masturbation. It was a grind, particularly for the first year, but now 4.5 years later, it was so worth it. I wish you all the best with your own journeys. Love to all.

You've been a consistent source of inspiration to me and others. I really value your advice. Sincere congratulations and best wishes for a healthy continuation.

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Re: 4.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #810 on: May 14, 2019, 10:54:41 AM »
Hey Lyon, thanks for checking in. I credit a good portion of my recovery to meeting you here. You introduced me to Breaking the Cycle. That was the thread I held firm to. I am currently 8 months porn free. I too, use an online support group but I'm not working 12 steps...yet. I think it's gonna be necessary if I want to kick my recovery into overdrive. I'm in a rural place and face to face SA meetings just aren't available.  Phone meetings are difficult for me to get enthused about.

Glad to hear from you!


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Re: 4.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #811 on: May 14, 2019, 11:22:35 AM »
Lyon great job man. Where you are in life now how do you feel? How is your dating life and relationship with your kids? Did they ever forgive your were they ever aware?

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Re: 4.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« Reply #812 on: May 14, 2019, 11:35:30 AM »
Congratulations, and thanks post for using your success to help inspire the rest of us!  ;D

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« Reply #813 on: May 14, 2019, 11:46:32 PM »
Inspirational! Thanks Lyon.

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« Reply #814 on: May 16, 2019, 12:46:14 AM »
It's lovely to hear from you and about your happiness. All the best for your ongoing journey of a porn-free life!