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Hi, my name is _____, and I'm a porn addict.
« on: November 12, 2014, 01:11:45 PM »
Insert the obligatory "hi, _____" here, I guess.

Glad to be here, very glad I found this site, and I guess I'm in the same boat as everybody else, right?  Lack of drive with real women, plenty with digital women. 

Quick background, how I got here, probably nothing extraordinary.  I've had the fortune to spend time with some extremely beautiful women, but not being the committing kind, I'd fill in the gaps with porn.  It got to the point where my morning routine was to make coffee, log on, surf and fap.  If I spent the same amount of time studying medecine, I probably could have cured cancer by now. 

I knew the problem was developing, but it was after yet another less-than stellar session with a real girl that it got to be enough.  Not so very long ago, this girl was pegging my Richter scale.  An appointment with a doctor confirmed there's nothing physically wrong with me.  I'm in well-above-average cardiovascular health, according to him, and bloodwork confirmed it isn't low testosterone.  So like I said, enough. 

The good part is that by letting it get to the point where I'm this disappointed in myself, I'm well and truly motivated to get past this. 

So, this is day two.  Wish me luck, and same to you all.

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« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2014, 03:00:47 PM »
Welcome to the Nation Ja br,

You have come to a great place, and a great source of information, support, and help.

SMS

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« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2014, 04:00:45 PM »
Ja_br:  I, too, am on day two.  Let's do this together.  No P, No M, No O - at least for now......and, no fapping.  I am also in good health:  testosterone okay, prostate okay, blood okay.......sporting wood:  not okay.  I would do a little work, surf some porn, do some more work, surf some more porn.  Stupid routines.  Waste of time and energy.  Destroying any faith in God I had.  Not that it was His fault.  It's just that the more I did the bad stuff the less I would think about Him.  Crazy.

Think positive thoughts and do positive actions.  Keep journalling here.  You have friends here who won't judge - just help.

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« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2014, 07:49:48 PM »
Hi, Ja_br. Congratulations fou ur courage. It's a very long walk. It's not always easy, but it's really worth it. I think for many years that my problems had no solution: PMO, porn, too much libido, retarded ejaculation, many many sexual fantasies, etc. But all this research made me feel better, and made me find a door. That door I ought open myself, but now I know there is a door, and I know also how this door must be opened and how I can live this pieces of my personnality. Best wishes, friend !
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« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2014, 12:41:59 AM »
Hi guys, I'm on day 6. So far so good.

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« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2014, 11:33:33 AM »
Day three.  As usual, got my coffee, on the computer.  Browsing through Men's Health, ArtofManliness, and pondering the possible whereabouts of a girl I knew a few years ago, but this morning no P, M, or O.  I got things to do.

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« Reply #6 on: November 13, 2014, 12:25:58 PM »
good start to the day - that is something you can build momentum with.

find those healty activities and start to fill your day with them.

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« Reply #7 on: November 14, 2014, 11:29:19 AM »
Day four.  I spent some energy on my favorite exercise last night, slipping on the gloves and working up a sweat on a heavy bag.  This morning, I'm tossing down one cup of coffee and then walking away from the computer to get on with my day. 

My dad once told me of how he kicked his smoking habit, around the time I was born.  He smoked down an entire pack, then quit, just like that.  I like to think his willpower runs in the blood.

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« Reply #8 on: November 14, 2014, 11:34:16 AM »
find that willpower - grab it!
Share it if you can
don't let it go.

WE all can beat this.

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« Reply #9 on: November 15, 2014, 11:40:06 AM »
Five.  Feeling some urges, but I'm okay with that.  I want to know they're still there and just deal with them.  It occurred to me this morning that reaching goals should come with an award.  So, day sixty, it's going to be one of my favorite little extravagances:  an inch-thick dry-aged steak from a good old-fashioned butcher shop.  Does anybody else have their little rewards for milestones?

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« Reply #10 on: November 17, 2014, 09:15:53 PM »
One week.  So far, so good.  I worked through the weekend, which kept me pretty well occupied.  I'm thinking about other ways to put my former PMO time to better use, like the online college classes that I've been putting off for a long time, or dusting off one of my foreign languages.

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« Reply #11 on: November 17, 2014, 11:19:55 PM »
Know it's early. Hang tough. The further you get from the fire, the less you feel its heat.

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« Reply #12 on: November 18, 2014, 08:24:28 PM »
I chatted a bit with a pretty young female coworker today.  I felt stirrings that had been lacking lately in my interactions with flesh-and-blood women.  I take that as a good sign.  Still, I'm not going to use it as an excuse to move my goalposts closer.  I'm going to fix this right.

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« Reply #13 on: November 18, 2014, 08:43:31 PM »
good start to the day - that is something you can build momentum with.

find those healty activities and start to fill your day with them.
what is P,M or O?

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« Reply #14 on: November 18, 2014, 09:05:28 PM »
good start to the day - that is something you can build momentum with.

find those healty activities and start to fill your day with them.
what is P,M or O?

Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm. 

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« Reply #15 on: November 19, 2014, 10:32:19 AM »
The good news:  the welcome return of strong morning wood.  Of course, the bad news is the urge to do something about it, especially sitting at my computer.  So I opened the blinds.  You can see into my house from the street.  Nothing like the threat of a public indecency charge to keep me on track.

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« Reply #16 on: November 21, 2014, 02:16:51 PM »
A bit stronger on the urges today, and a little crotchety yesterday.  So I took a break from oatmeal and cold cereal and made bacon and eggs for breakfast.  With extra bacon.  Strangely (or not), it helps. 

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« Reply #17 on: November 22, 2014, 10:38:40 AM »
Two things in life that  make life better:  Bacon and Chocolate.

Glad to hear you are doing well.  Keep it up.  Don't look back but focus on the goal.

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« Reply #18 on: November 23, 2014, 11:07:49 PM »
It's not easy at all to end an addiction.
Just take it one day at a time. You can do it.

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« Reply #19 on: November 24, 2014, 12:49:07 PM »
Another day along.  Fair sailing so far, with keeping busy at work, at hobbies, in the gym, etc. 

Like addicts sometimes do, I've found that things have become more obvious with a new-found perspective.  I've taken short breaks from porn before, only superficially aware then of how deep the problem went.  Now it's apparent, it was during those times that I had the most fun and performed the best with real women.  Seems like a 'duh' sort of statement now, but there we go.  Getting back to that point is a huge part of my motivation.

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« Reply #20 on: November 30, 2014, 03:27:15 PM »
Still driving on.  Had an encounter with an on-again, off-again flame last night.  It went well, surprisingly.  A light dose of scotch might have helped out with any worries I might have had, which is a huge part of the battle.  Still, it doesn't change the plan. 

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« Reply #21 on: December 01, 2014, 02:54:44 PM »
Glad to see you hanging tough!