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tuggedtoohard

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Suggestive images and dating sites
« on: April 07, 2014, 05:19:00 PM »
Will my brain still reboot if I use dating sites genuinely for finding a partner? I am not worried about relapsing as far as M goes because I am seeking an actual long term relationship but I still find it pretty hard to see a picture of a beautiful woman and not have some sort of brief fantasy sexual fantasy. Usually I am able to quickly dispel it. And it's always a relationship type fantasy.

Is this sort of fantasizing detrimental to recovering from my porn-induced ED even if I can control my actions?

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Re: Suggestive images and dating sites
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2014, 06:16:09 AM »
Will my brain still reboot if I use dating sites genuinely for finding a partner? I am not worried about relapsing as far as M goes because I am seeking an actual long term relationship but I still find it pretty hard to see a picture of a beautiful woman and not have some sort of brief fantasy sexual fantasy. Usually I am able to quickly dispel it. And it's always a relationship type fantasy.

Is this sort of fantasizing detrimental to recovering from my porn-induced ED even if I can control my actions?

This is so much easier for me to say since I have a mate.
I also have to be objective and realistic to your plight.
Because we all want to date. Unfortunately, hitting the singles scene and rebooting is bad timing.
Because when your pursuing dating prospects online, essentially, you are looking for someone you're attracted to.
She's got to turn you on right?
So browsing one gal after another searching for sexual compatibility is counter-productive to rebooting.
By no means am I saying that sex is all you want with these ladies but in your mind, you are building
an expectation to fulfill a lustful desire.

Let me say this again, I'm not insinuating you're looking for a fuck buddy. The natural agenda for a man
when he's trying to date is stimulated by visual. So it's a slippery slope when you're trying to reboot.
I'm not gonna say stay away from the sites but you may just want to keep your profile up there
and respond to the gals who are interested in you. Because like facebook, dating sties are lust builders.