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Bunnys ascend to madness Journal
« on: October 16, 2020, 10:25:45 AM »
Hello world as the geekys often say.

I am Bunny. The average pr0n addict. 40 year old male from earth.

Tried nofap runs a few times more than a lot but here i am yet again in an attempt to heal my dingdong.

Went from mags, to pics, to video clips, to piracy, to deeper and worse and worse things till i no longer had no lust for woman and when i found one i had a sever case of mr floppy questioning why i started watching same sex clips as i never ever ever had thought that was something i found interesting.

When it was at the very worst i could only watch things once and spend over half an hour death grib the life out of myself around 8 times a day.  I started hunting new shit every day just downloading gigabytes after gigabytes of things that made me feel shitty after i was done just to delete it again and start looking for more.

At one point every time i hooked up it was severe death i showed her and even tho no matter what nothing happened. Started hating woman and started on torture related data.

Some time after i ran in to nofap on reddit and laughed. I found the concept laughable. Porn being bad .. hah.. The doctors i had gone to with the floppy issue told me that touching was natural and good for you..  Then i ran in to X and she was at the time the best thing i have ever in my run across in my life. Made me feel so happy but.. Only thing i had to show her was floppy. She ended up leaving and that caused me to crash in to depression and self damage with drugs and alcohol. I crashed massively. Aaaand realized it might be something to this not touching your self and going mental some time.

have had over 20 attempts and never gotten longer than 78 days. At that point i had to get relief or i would have ended up in a fight. But "fun" thing was i felt worse than i had ever felt when i relapsed in panic over that aggression.

i am on day 5 now. After a new tinder date turned floppy.

Really makes me sad this shit. I hate the craving.. It promises me unicorns, rainbows and happieness.. Tells me just fap once.. Just once and you will feel better. Its worth it.. But never ever tells the truth.  Ends up sitting in self hate and regretting.

Might just vanish in the masses of other peoples struggle but this one is mine.

Peace
Bunny.

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« Reply #1 on: October 16, 2020, 11:26:27 AM »
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Really makes me sad this shit. I hate the craving.. It promises me unicorns, rainbows and happieness.. Tells me just fap once.. Just once and you will feel better. Its worth it.. But never ever tells the truth.  Ends up sitting in self hate and regretting.

Might just vanish in the masses of other peoples struggle but this one is mine.

Hi Bunny-Welcome. It takes courage to reveal your struggles with PA and admit that it no longer brings you happiness, just sadness and shame. Everyone here has fallen for the promise of satisfaction that fapping one more time or infinite times never delivers. It's an exhausting, circular pursuit that has no end - unless you challenge the lie and and decide to stop the chase completely.

Are you an "average" porn addict? I'd argue probably not since you came here to help and heal yourself. For every person on this board who is working through this issue, there are a great many more people out in the larger world who are neither motivated nor interested in quitting. What I'm saying is give your credit for coming here, because it's not an easy thing to do and not everyone has the strength to make that decision.

As for the floppiness you speak of, that sounds like PIED, a problem many people here have dealt with and have successfully overcome. I would encourage you to read what others have written about this topic and draw inspiration and ideas from their stories that you can then apply to your own situation.

The final thought I have is about "vanishing." Yes, it's true. Many people here vanish in the masses because they write only a post or two and are never heard from again. If you want to be seen among the masses, don't be that guy. Be the guy who checks in often and drops in on other peoples' journals, because that's that's how you get the help and support you need and also how you can help other people help themselves through this difficult journey.

Best of luck to you, friend!
« Last Edit: October 16, 2020, 01:50:28 PM by LetItGoAlready »

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« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2020, 04:54:12 AM »
Thanks for the kind words.  Its a bit shameful to end up in PIED. Really messed with my mind.

day 6.
Could not sleep enough. Spend most night rolling around trying to get some rest. Felt like shit when i got up and mood goes thru various anger and sadness.  Feels like im a bit off from the normal. Hit the gym again and found my trying not to look at the temptations or triggers doing various things. Saturday is a bad day as more people are there and i had to fight the urges to go home and relapse.

Got my food stuff and returned home asafp to close the door and take a cold shower.

Feel a lot of sadness today. Not even a week in and the depression is going strong.

Lots of hours yet to kill today still.  Going for a long walk in a bit with a good audiobook. Are some wonderful nature close by to find some solitude.

Thanks for reading

Bunny

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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2020, 08:41:26 AM »
Hi Bunny, I can relate to you with trying and failing with nofap number of times, but believe me this is the only way, not just for having satisfying sex but also for improving your general perspective in life. Hopefully you and I and all others here will do it this time.
Good luck on your journey.

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« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2020, 09:47:21 AM »
Keep the fight. If I can give any piece of advice...unless needed for work, put a STRONG pause on all electronic devices that give access to the internet / movies. That's what I did in the first 2 months of my reboot.

Keep the fight, you will see it gets better. Temptations are going to be very, very strong within your first 30 days, some for 60....but once you're over the hard part, you finally have some resistance to the temptation.

And you will see, it's very much worth it.

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« Reply #5 on: October 18, 2020, 10:48:54 AM »
Hi Bunny, your post reminds me a lot of myself, same progression, same problems. I feel for you. One advice I can give you is spend as much time in nature as you can, nature has a calming, balancing effect (no wonder people call it Mother Nature), it will help you. Stay strong friend.

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« Reply #6 on: October 19, 2020, 06:14:57 AM »
thanks @eyecan im here if you need a talk or a m8 to chat with thru this :)

day 8.

slept 9 hours this night and awoke with morning wood. Had a moment where the brain fog started to lift but short after it returned.
Hit the gym again and this time it was packed with triggers so spend most of the training to look at the floor. I really hate them pants they use. I returned home to get a cold shower but did not do much so i found an icepack and cooled down the....area. It sucks but its better than relapsing

Feel like shit, feel good. My experience is that every attempt on doing a nofap run is that every attempt is different than the last.

I feel more this time. I feel the pain more, feel the craving more, feel the happieness, the enjoyment more.

Do hope this attempt goes well as i calculated the 90 days to hit my 41 year birthday.

I am going nuts here, it hurts, im going thru severe cravings. Know this will stop in a matter of days but thats far away from this moment.

Stay strong out there.

Tomorrow will be better im sure

Bunny

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« Reply #7 on: October 19, 2020, 08:41:30 AM »
Hi Bunny, sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time with the cravings and all that shit. What can I say? Good books, good films, meditation, yoga, sports (cycling is amazing for me). prayer, nature walks, cold showers. We all got it in ourselves, what's needed to succeed, with each failed attempt we just learn that we gotta dig deeper to keep going. Stay strong firend.

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« Reply #8 on: October 20, 2020, 08:33:00 AM »
I hate going to the gym for the same reason....most women want us to stare, they don't admit it. They say "that's how I'm comfortable"...and they have no idea and are ignorant at how it makes some of us addicts feel.

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« Reply #9 on: October 21, 2020, 03:18:03 AM »
10 days.

i am so fucking angry, sad, frustrated and restless all at once. Sweating way more for some reason. I noticed girls looking at me differently and im able to keep eye contact.

I want to get the fuck away from it all but i cant get away from myself. Its not even lunch time here i and im losing my mind here.  At least i got some issues done and i spend time cleaning and making my home cleaner. Dont really know why but when i pull to much robe my apartment turn shit hole fast. Like i dont care about shit, how i look or how i live.

Know 10 days aint much and a lot of struggle ahead but this is the longest i gone atleast 6 months.

tried to hit the gym earlier but who knew so many was there that early. fml so much to look at.. Did my thing, pushed thru and got home to a cold shower and browsed the nofap reddit thread and this forum. When everything else fail i read up on success stories and others struggle.

Here is to 10 days more.. and then 10 days more after that.

Peace and good day to you all.

Bunny.


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« Reply #10 on: October 21, 2020, 08:59:46 AM »
It gets better. In some ways kicking the porn habit is like denying yourself oxygen. Your brain wants it so badly that it'll throw up all kinds of shit to get you give it what it wants.

Recovery isn't linear. I tried to hit 10 days so many times and failed, so you're doing really well. Take it one day at a time. They way I try to make it seem less daunting for me is to consider that I sleep 8 hours a day, so I just need to avoid porn for 16 hours each day.

Stay strong! We will always be addicts, but it gets easier to cope with it.

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« Reply #11 on: October 21, 2020, 09:54:03 AM »
Know 10 days aint much and a lot of struggle ahead but this is the longest i gone atleast 6 months.

10 days is plenty if you've not previously been used to that long without. Congrats. You're making progress.
Here's a suggestion you might want to throw straight in the bin, but it helped me, so I'll make it. I'm a gym rat. Weights 4-5 times a week. I used to use a "big box" corporate gym that was full of the kind of distractions you mention, which used to drive me mad, because I'd go there with the aim of focusing purely on my training, as a break from the fantasy and P, but I'd end up with my brain full of the wrong stuff. So I joined a really small gym instead. Functional fitness kind of place, with only about 40 members, and an average age of about 45. There's never more than 3-4 people in there and I'm never challenged by the kind of distractions that we both find hard to manage. I guess what I'm saying is that if the Big Box full of lycra girls is messing with your head.... you have options. Take care. Hope you make it clean into day 11!

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« Reply #12 on: October 22, 2020, 01:30:37 AM »
10 days.

i am so fucking angry, sad, frustrated and restless all at once. Sweating way more for some reason. I noticed girls looking at me differently and im able to keep eye contact.

I want to get the fuck away from it all but i cant get away from myself. Its not even lunch time here i and im losing my mind here.  At least i got some issues done and i spend time cleaning and making my home cleaner. Dont really know why but when i pull to much robe my apartment turn shit hole fast. Like i dont care about shit, how i look or how i live.

Know 10 days aint much and a lot of struggle ahead but this is the longest i gone atleast 6 months.

tried to hit the gym earlier but who knew so many was there that early. fml so much to look at.. Did my thing, pushed thru and got home to a cold shower and browsed the nofap reddit thread and this forum. When everything else fail i read up on success stories and others struggle.

Here is to 10 days more.. and then 10 days more after that.

Peace and good day to you all.

Bunny.

10 Days means you can do another 10 days... and then another 10.

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« Reply #13 on: October 22, 2020, 08:12:50 AM »
Day 11.

Slept less than 3 hours this night. Spend rolling in my own regrets and memories of bad behavior.  All the chances i wasted and all the shit i pulled people thru from having the dead noodle syndrome. How myself hate and self destructive ways all come from that envy of the guys that found what i craved so badly easy. I turned to drugs to a point that became daily. When im high,drunk and spend hours finding that one video i watched months ago i feel less and time just vanished.

Never wanted to be this kinda person, guess its the first time ever in my life i realize i have said loud that i am addicted to porn.

Fuck im in tears now..

Was so close to relapsing earlier today. Hurts so bad atm. Feel sick, cold and like a worthless pile of regret.This have really been a hard day for me.  Worst so far

Going to leave my phone at home and go as far as i can to get away from internet and temptations.

Best of luck on your journey.

Bunny

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« Reply #14 on: October 22, 2020, 11:25:52 AM »
Bunny, admitting you're an addict is huge. It's such a scary thing to admit but it's also so powerful. Saying "I'm an addict" isn't for the weak. Continuing to wallow in that addiction and ignoring it is weakness.
Saying "I'm an addict" and fighting it means you're stronger than you know. Getting away from the internet and temptations is a great plan. It will allow your mind to start creating those new pathways away from porn. You are already 11 days into changing those paths. Focus on how good it feels to say that for those 11 days you struggled but didn't break. You can do this.

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« Reply #15 on: Today at 07:14:12 AM »
Day 11.

Slept less than 3 hours this night. Spend rolling in my own regrets and memories of bad behavior.  All the chances i wasted and all the shit i pulled people thru from having the dead noodle syndrome. How myself hate and self destructive ways all come from that envy of the guys that found what i craved so badly easy. I turned to drugs to a point that became daily. When im high,drunk and spend hours finding that one video i watched months ago i feel less and time just vanished.

Never wanted to be this kinda person, guess its the first time ever in my life i realize i have said loud that i am addicted to porn.

Fuck im in tears now..

Was so close to relapsing earlier today. Hurts so bad atm. Feel sick, cold and like a worthless pile of regret.This have really been a hard day for me.  Worst so far

Going to leave my phone at home and go as far as i can to get away from internet and temptations.

Best of luck on your journey.

Bunny

Hey bunny.  Just a thought.  Feeling terrible is going to make it easier to relapse.
Put everything into perspective.  You trying to be a better person.
You cannot change the past, look ahead.
Let the way you feeling now, be a motivation to keep focused on recovery.