Healingshame
Member
Little info about me
I am 28 years old. Started masturbating heavily like 11 years ago and got ED extremely fast (In many ways I used to have "addictive personality" and I never really tried anything; as soon as I discovered masturbation and porn I was masturbating 4 times days and even when my whole body was saying no I would still stimulate myself with my hand and force orgasm... :'( :'( )
So it has been really bad and I felt like I couldn't stop. For me not masturbating in a single day felt like something impossible to do. The worst part was the no hope thing, there was no one to share my problems with and no real help because everywhere you look there was this bullshit how great masturbation and porn is, yet here I was broken and depressed.
Hope
For me discovering yourbrainonporn and reading guys stories was great. I finally get answers what happened and why it happened. Here there were guys like me who got to the point where they could have successful sex again after years of isolation and loneliness. For me it was the one single thing I needed to started changing my life-hope that I can recover.
Reboot
I have started my reboot since January this year. I went cold turkey because " neurons that wire together fire together" and for me porn and masturbation were heavily linked to each other. I never really just watched porn i would always wank. Plus after briefly looking at stories it become clear that when you have ED it is like the only way to get better.
Then the story of "the most stupid relapses in the history of recovery" happens.
On February after around 30 days of no porn no masturbation I tested myself. Fuck I knew that I have ED and severe ED but part of me desperately didn't want t admit it. I read on yourbrainonporn that "if you can get it up to the fantasy alone you don't have a porn induce ED" and after several minutes of stimulation I orgasmed to my touch....Chaser effect followed soon after and had like 3 days streak when I would masturbate daily. Tell me about relapsing in a most retarded way...
Fast forward to 1 April. Felt the best in my life after almost 2 months of no mastrubation no porn. Felt great and had awesome desire to meet girls and have fun. First time in my life I would french kiss girls (2 girls to be exact 8) ) was having tons of rewiring and felt great. I wasn't fully erect but there was some movement down there like 50-60% erect most of the time so took the girl I felt something to to my apartment hoping to take the most important move and try to have sex. Huge mistake after so many years of heavily masturbating it was naive to think that I am healed. That's when the drama starts we were kissing then I would lick her pussy and fingering her (which she seemed to enjoyed) but my dick become dead. Zero arousal, limp dick. She tried to help me but nothing helped i am to desensitized to oral sex and it didn't made me aroused at all. Same for hand stimulation. End up relapsing when I desperately tried to get it up with my hand. I wasn't even fully erect except like 2 sec before I ejaculated... So full disaster again and another relapse in a silly way.
Nowadays
Well till my april relapse most of the time I felt really good. I wasn't really flatlining had like fairly big dick all the time no morning wood but there was aliveness there so i was like 40-50% erect couple of times per day sometimes. Unfortunately it is no longer the case. The last relapse hit me hard. Got instantly depressed, my dick shrinked and it feels dead. Guess now I know what the flatline term means now. Feel terrible lately especially given how badly it ended. So for now I am kinds stuck till the flatline fade away. Wish I didn't orgasm because the last 3 months or so were like the best in my entire life given how much energy I used to have and how energized and producitve I was. Now it is gone. hopefully not forever.
Moving forward
Feel kinda stuck and don't really now how to move forward. I guess will try to do the full no orgasm reboot at least 120 days and will just do some basic rewiring with girls. I am kinda affraid of trying to have sex again after last disaster.Just need to get my confidence back so have to wait for the flatline to end because now I don't have even a courage to look girls in the eyes.
Till then I will try to get myself in a better shape and become somewhat productive. If after next 120 days of no orgasm I will still not be able to get it up will just go to doctor take some ED pills. I read that they don't work at the beggining but after some time guys were able to use. hopefully something will work. Until then I need to stick to my plan.
I will be gratefull for advices from you guys how to improve sensivity and what helped you the most during rewire so maybe I will create better plan how to improve.
I am 28 years old. Started masturbating heavily like 11 years ago and got ED extremely fast (In many ways I used to have "addictive personality" and I never really tried anything; as soon as I discovered masturbation and porn I was masturbating 4 times days and even when my whole body was saying no I would still stimulate myself with my hand and force orgasm... :'( :'( )
So it has been really bad and I felt like I couldn't stop. For me not masturbating in a single day felt like something impossible to do. The worst part was the no hope thing, there was no one to share my problems with and no real help because everywhere you look there was this bullshit how great masturbation and porn is, yet here I was broken and depressed.
Hope
For me discovering yourbrainonporn and reading guys stories was great. I finally get answers what happened and why it happened. Here there were guys like me who got to the point where they could have successful sex again after years of isolation and loneliness. For me it was the one single thing I needed to started changing my life-hope that I can recover.
Reboot
I have started my reboot since January this year. I went cold turkey because " neurons that wire together fire together" and for me porn and masturbation were heavily linked to each other. I never really just watched porn i would always wank. Plus after briefly looking at stories it become clear that when you have ED it is like the only way to get better.
Then the story of "the most stupid relapses in the history of recovery" happens.
On February after around 30 days of no porn no masturbation I tested myself. Fuck I knew that I have ED and severe ED but part of me desperately didn't want t admit it. I read on yourbrainonporn that "if you can get it up to the fantasy alone you don't have a porn induce ED" and after several minutes of stimulation I orgasmed to my touch....Chaser effect followed soon after and had like 3 days streak when I would masturbate daily. Tell me about relapsing in a most retarded way...
Fast forward to 1 April. Felt the best in my life after almost 2 months of no mastrubation no porn. Felt great and had awesome desire to meet girls and have fun. First time in my life I would french kiss girls (2 girls to be exact 8) ) was having tons of rewiring and felt great. I wasn't fully erect but there was some movement down there like 50-60% erect most of the time so took the girl I felt something to to my apartment hoping to take the most important move and try to have sex. Huge mistake after so many years of heavily masturbating it was naive to think that I am healed. That's when the drama starts we were kissing then I would lick her pussy and fingering her (which she seemed to enjoyed) but my dick become dead. Zero arousal, limp dick. She tried to help me but nothing helped i am to desensitized to oral sex and it didn't made me aroused at all. Same for hand stimulation. End up relapsing when I desperately tried to get it up with my hand. I wasn't even fully erect except like 2 sec before I ejaculated... So full disaster again and another relapse in a silly way.
Nowadays
Well till my april relapse most of the time I felt really good. I wasn't really flatlining had like fairly big dick all the time no morning wood but there was aliveness there so i was like 40-50% erect couple of times per day sometimes. Unfortunately it is no longer the case. The last relapse hit me hard. Got instantly depressed, my dick shrinked and it feels dead. Guess now I know what the flatline term means now. Feel terrible lately especially given how badly it ended. So for now I am kinds stuck till the flatline fade away. Wish I didn't orgasm because the last 3 months or so were like the best in my entire life given how much energy I used to have and how energized and producitve I was. Now it is gone. hopefully not forever.
Moving forward
Feel kinda stuck and don't really now how to move forward. I guess will try to do the full no orgasm reboot at least 120 days and will just do some basic rewiring with girls. I am kinda affraid of trying to have sex again after last disaster.Just need to get my confidence back so have to wait for the flatline to end because now I don't have even a courage to look girls in the eyes.
Till then I will try to get myself in a better shape and become somewhat productive. If after next 120 days of no orgasm I will still not be able to get it up will just go to doctor take some ED pills. I read that they don't work at the beggining but after some time guys were able to use. hopefully something will work. Until then I need to stick to my plan.
I will be gratefull for advices from you guys how to improve sensivity and what helped you the most during rewire so maybe I will create better plan how to improve.