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« Reply #50 on: April 28, 2020, 04:58:35 PM »
So this is all getting on top of me in a way that it hasn't for ages. I'm making it more complicated.

What I know: I have managed a record of nine months without PMO, I have managed a record of six and a half months without P, I have managed a record of six months without MO. Each time I have relapsed it has been because of schizophrenic episodes.

Am I making it more complicated than I need to? There is a relationship between my "interracial" fetish and my schizophrenia. I feel like to cure one, I have to cure the other.

In the time of my abstentions I had the best mental health I have had in years. Am I dwelling too much on the relapses in thinking that I have to relapse better, i.e. not relapsing to my "interracial" fetish.

I am thinking about trying to manage my addiction, modulate it. There is a difference of opinion about how best to deal with addictions.

I know I don't want to go back to PMO, I want to do a year, five years, more, without it. Separating P from MO has been the best thing I have ever done for my mental health, but it hasn't cured me. I have still suffered psychotic relapses.

I really don't know what to aim for next. Tackling my "interracial" fetish is putting more weight on my mind again. It feels like I am digging myself into a hole.

Yet I allowed myself to look at P a bit at the beginning of stopping PMO, so why not try and look only at fashion models. Because it feels like more effort and fighting myself.

The priority is not to PMO.

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« Reply #51 on: April 28, 2020, 05:07:33 PM »
I personally think looking at still images, you're just feeding the cravings to look at it further and deeper. I'm not saying I have the whole solution, as I mentioned in my previous reply, you have had more success in your past. However, that being said, like an alcoholic, that's trying to stop his drinking, every time he has a taste of it, he's torturing himself because he's fighting an addiction.

I suggest cutting everything you can out. We are surrounded by sensuality and sexuality enough without intentionally bringing this stuff in our lives.

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« Reply #52 on: April 28, 2020, 05:34:43 PM »
Hi Rookie, my record for total abstention (no P, no MO, no PMO) is five months, the most success I have had with PMO (nine months) is by allowing one or the other, either P or MO. With that in mind, substituting P for images of fashion models still seems a good idea to me.

Separating P from MO has made a huge difference in my mental well being. If I can make it so that I only look at non-pornographic images or MO then that is even more progress.

I think where I have been getting bogged down over the last few days and feeling the weight is in trying to analyse why I have such an "interracial" fetish. That really has been an attempt to defend and justify myself, rather than transcend the issue.

I'm going to stick to my plan of trying to extend how many days I can manage just looking at fashion models without MO, the danger is that if I cave, I cave all the way and PMO, this has to be avoided.

Oscillating between days of MO without images and days of images without MO is something I did in the past when I was first separating P from MO and I might try that again, until non-pornographic images are my go to for titillation.

This isn't just about stopping, it is about reconditioning. I agree that the best way to do that is to stop completely, but at present I'm just happy if I don't PMO or look at P.

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« Reply #53 on: April 29, 2020, 01:59:44 PM »
So my aim is to substitute images of clothed fashion models for P and not MO to them. Thus I will be going technically without P and definitely without PMO. The purpose of this is conditioning myself to move away from my "interracial" fetish.

I do not feel nearly as distressed by looking at images of fashion models as I do by looking at P. It may sound harder, but it is actually easier. I have already separated P from MO. I can look at P with only mild titillation, not full blown arousal now. In the six months that I didn't MO, I regularly looked at P though on a much reduced basis. I didn't PMO at all. I should therefore be easily able to regularly look at images of clothed fashion models without PMO. At this stage I'm not even saying I can't MO, just not look at images and MO at the same time. This in itself makes me feel better.

As I said, the aim is to recondition myself in what arouses me or offers me titillation.

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« Reply #54 on: April 30, 2020, 06:36:31 AM »
So I had an urge this morning and was able to stay mindful enough to just look at clothed fashion models without any MO. This is the first time I have managed to choose non-pornographic images over P when I have had an urge and is a massive plus for reconditioning.

I have written before, whilst trying to understand what turns me on, about my fears about being turned on by power imbalances. I've done some research and discovered that power imbalances naturally form the basis of sexual arousal owing to evolutionary advantages that such arousals confer. The following from a paper by Jozikova 2018:

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An evolutionary explanation considers the biological base of these preferences. Sexual arousal by dominance and submissiveness may be a manifestation of a mating strategy which would lead to an increase in reproductive success (Jozifkova, Bartos, and Flegr 2012; Jozifkova and Konvicka 2009; Jozifkova, Konvicka, and Flegr 2014). Previous research confirmed the connection between sexual arousal by a dominant or submissive partner and higher self-reported attractiveness, as well as the higher number of offspring (Jozifkova and Konvicka 2009). Generally, a higher-ranked individual provides lower-ranking individual high quality genes and/or resources while a lower-ranked individual provides higher ranging individuals a chance to mate (see (Alcock 2013; Davies, Krebs, and West 2012) for more). Therefore, the sexual preferences linked to such strategy should be very common.

This puts my fetish and many other fetishes in context. It is not the power imbalances per se that are unnatural, it is the abstraction and projection of these power imbalances on to certain material phenomena, like skin colour, that is the problem. Such fetishes stem from the person struggling to deal with power imbalances within sex, but arousal by power imbalances is natural.

I will have to think about this some more.

For the time being, I am maintaining my goal of reconditioning myself to only look at clothed fashion models without any MO at the same time. So absolutely no PMO and hopefully no explicit P as well.

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« Reply #55 on: May 01, 2020, 10:15:06 AM »
Hey Georgos,

great job on not PMO-ing! Im impressed that you've also watched fashion models!

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« Reply #56 on: May 04, 2020, 05:58:46 PM »
Thank you Shade, hope you're staying strong too!

So I managed seven days of just looking at clothed fashion models and no MO. In fact I didn't look at them every day and when I did only for a minute or so which is enough.

I'm going to try and do another seven days. The important thing is to get to the stage whereby when I get an urge, it is them that I go to.

I am already managing this.

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« Reply #57 on: May 05, 2020, 03:52:12 AM »
So I'm beginning to realise, it's not porn that is the problem it is me who is drawn to porn through emotions and imagination. These things lock one in the past and future instead of the present. Emotions attach us to a past fantasy, imagination attaches us to a future fantasy. There is nothing wrong with either when used appropriately, but sex, love, takes place in the present. It is my conflation of sex and love with past and future fantasies that is the problem, that is the reason I am drawn to porn.

The problem is fantasizing about sex, rather than actually living in the moment.

Mindfully looking at images is a good start to stopping fantasizing. Choosing images that contain as little fantasy as possible is a good way forward.

Today I watched the introduction to a porn movie, after searching through porn thumbnails. The movie was fantasy, but the script was less pornographic than usual. I didn't watch any of the actual sex or full frontal nudity.

I am still annoyed. I want to keep to just clothed fashion models, without artificial sex or storylines. Even with this there is fantasy, the images do not represent real life, but rather artificial photoshoots.

The urge I had today was too strong for me to go straight to fashion models instead. Why? Because I had a strong emotional attachment to past fantasy.

I don't MO when I look these days, I just mindfully look, that is enough to satisfy me. But I need to mindfully observe my urges before I look. What is the emotion that I am feeling? What is in my imagination? I need to actually ask myself this at the point of urges.

Seven days is my record of just clothed fashion models. I want to extend that. I shouldn't be looking at anything.

I'm back to square one on P. Still no MO or PMO though.

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« Reply #58 on: May 06, 2020, 05:13:28 PM »
So I have identified the emotion that leads me to look at P. In fact it is a combination of two emotions. It is frustration coupled with fear or anxiety. Just because you can name an emotion or emotions, doesn't mean you can be mindful of them, though it is a start. To be mindful is to question yourself as to what you are feeling, to sit with the emotions consciously and just observe them, to not try and control them.

I managed to stop PMO by being mindful of the pleasure and reward I was giving myself. This I did by practising MO without P and practising P without MO.

The next step is to be able to be mindful of the urges.

It is my belief that the five months total abstinence I achieved was not through being mindful, but rather through conquering fear and setting up new fear and reward dynamics here on Reboot Nation.

I have deeper fears, one's which I haven't been able to conquer yet.

But fear is a part of life.

What I have to practice is mindfulness of fear, mindfulness of frustration and mindfulness of the two combined.

With regards to my fetish, substituting non-pornographic images for P when I get urges allows me to be mindful of how I respond to the urges.

I must have looked at P somewhere between once a week and once every two weeks in the year just gone. The previous year I managed six and a half months without, but then returned to the old cycle.

I want to try to do two weeks now of just looking at clothed fashion models.

The way to finish once and for all is though mindfulness.

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« Reply #59 on: May 08, 2020, 08:12:41 PM »
So I'm trying to come to terms with my fetish so I can forgive myself.

My greatest fear is that I am being racist by having this fetish, that indeed is part of the source of the urges, since urges are based on fear and anxiety.

My anxiety stems from the need to "racially" compete. Anyone who is not "White" knows that they have a need to "racially" compete. "Whites" don't have that need, not because they are superior, but because they currently dominate the world.

What I have been striving to do is distinguish between legitimate "racial" competition and racism. I have settled on the idea that "racism" is "racial bullying".

Where does that leave so called "interracial" porn? Well that really depends on the script and who is responsible for it.

Another anxiety I have is of my actual "race", being "half-White". Where do I fit into so called "interracial" porn. I don't. But still I am drawn to it in the hope that I might be able to fit myself in, either by being the stereotypical "White" viewer or the "Black" actor.

In reality, both these options are impossible for me, but since I am definitely the viewer, I am closer to the "White" participant.

Of course, some "non-Whites" view so called "interracial" porn,  as I have been case in point, but they are not the majority.

I am feeling much better about myself now, hopefully I can dispel the particular fears and anxieties that make up my urges to view such things.

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« Reply #60 on: May 12, 2020, 09:13:20 AM »
So mindfulness is the key, but it's very hard to remember to be mindful when you're in the sway of an urge.

I looked at some thumbnails of P today. Only six days since I last looked. I hadn't looked at any fashion models for those six days. In the moment of searching I thought about just looking at fashion models but dismissed the thought. I didn't MO. It's been fourteen days since I last MOd. I'm not PMOing.

The time between the beginning of the urge to succumbing to the urge is so small that it is difficult to be mindful. It is also important to remember that mindfulness is not contradicting oneself, but observing oneself. I tried to remember my analysis of why I had a fetish, but this was in the context of contradicting myself, not being mindful of the urge to succumb to the fetish images that I actually had in the moment. I also want to be mindful of my emotions. I can't really place any of these things, it happened so quickly.

I need to remember to be mindful with the urges.

I still want to go two weeks of just looking at non-pornographic images of fashion models.

I want to do at least a year of abstinence from PMO.

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« Reply #61 on: May 12, 2020, 11:49:18 AM »
So being mindful with the images is not the same as being mindful with the urges.

I can be mindful with the images, it is the urges that I have found hard to be mindful with.

Sitting with an urge, as it eats away at you, the preliminary release of dopamine that accompanies the urge into action, that is what I have found hard to sit with.

I'd love to know more about how nociceptin interacts with dopamine.

Sitting with the frustration is another thing I find hard to be mindful of.

Someone asked me a while back, just what is it I'm trying to prove.

I've managed records of five months total abstinence, six months no MO but looking at P, six and a half months no P but MOing, and nine months no PMO.

I've written before that the way to quit an addiction is simply to come to the point where you choose not to repeat the action.

I am not making that choice at the moment, I am trying to manage it, to understand the dysfunctions that draw me to it.

I am not making the choice because I am not ready to essentially.

I made the choice before and went back to it.

There is obviously something still that is unresolved for me, but what?

The compromises I am making are an attempt to root out the unresolved issues whilst managing the addiction.

The only thing I am choosing to stop is PMO, i.e. P + MO on the same day.

I don't really know what I'm trying to prove. I only know that there is something preventing me from making the choice to stop it all.

At the moment, every time I look at P without MOing it feels like a success and then afterwards it feels like a failure.

This is just a less extreme version of how I felt before with PMO, a moment's extreme dopamine reward followed by a depressive comedown.

Now I am not getting the extreme dopamine reward whilst looking at P, but I am getting the reward of knowing that I am not MOing, besides whatever titillation I get from the P itself. Indeed, even being mindful and getting minimal titillation, I get the reward of knowing that I am succeeding in looking at it without MOing.

I am proving that I can look at P without MOing, and that is a success.

If I think about it, I have only ever really done two and a half months of this, since the remaining six and a half months of no PMO in my record were total abstinence of P.

I don't know what my record for one look at P without MOing to another look is, probably not very much.

What I am really concerned about is relapsing after such long periods.

This year I managed six months no MO at all, so no PMO, but still allowed myself to look at P. The issue for me was not that I relapsed, but that when I did relapse, I relapsed all the way to PMO.

The same when I managed six and a half months the previous year no P at all (so again no PMO). When I relapsed I went back all the way to PMO.

So I guess what I'm trying to prove is that I can quit PMO completely. But here the crux of the problem, I can never prove that until I'm dead.

I just don't know what it is I'm trying to do anymore, except get away from this madness. If it were a case of trying to cure ED (which I don't suffer from) then it would be easy to mark when I had succeeded, i.e. the ED would be cured. But this is not like this. This is an attempt to never do something again and that can't be measured. The only way to do that is to make the choice and continue making the choice not to do it.

I am choosing not to PMO. My life is much better without it. I want to choose fashion models over P. I want to choose P without MO, or better yet, fashion models, when I relapse from abstinence from images. Ideally I want to abstain from images altogether. Then there is the issue of MO.

This is a journey. That is the only way I can describe it. Thank you.

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« Reply #62 on: May 22, 2020, 02:01:24 AM »
So a month of no MO. I've looked at P four times in the past month. That is four times too many. A month of no MO is good though. If I'm going to continue down the path of no MO, I need to be prepared not to PMO if I relapse. PMO is over for me. It's either MO or P, not both on the same day. Ideally I'd like to have neither, but I'll settle for no PMO at this stage. Thank you.

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« Reply #63 on: May 22, 2020, 02:16:10 AM »
Hey Georgos,

No MO for a full month is quite the achievement! Congratulations!

Even though you did look at P 4 times, it's not the end of the world! I admire your willpower!

Keep going on man, keep on posting so that we can keep track of your progress!


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« Reply #64 on: May 22, 2020, 02:30:02 AM »
Thanks Shade, I used to think that my strategy for breaking the habit would be to give up P first then MO, but in actual fact, it is the MO that reinforces the P so the best strategy is to cut the MO out first. It is working, although I looked at P four times, each time it was for not more than five minutes. All in all, I think I'm doing pretty good. What I want to work on is being mindful of the emotions and the urges. I'll try to document my observations of my urges here from now on. It is usually a combination of frustration and anxiety, but sometimes the frustration comes from having completed something, rather than procrastination, which I think is interesting. Perhaps completion is the right word, but certainly after having invested a lot of energy in something and then deciding that is enough, I am vulnerable. Thank you.

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« Reply #65 on: May 22, 2020, 03:28:38 AM »
Hey Georgos!

Being vulnerable is actually not so bad; you feel vulnerable but this state can really help in changing things if you are not afraid!

I do understand your point on eliminating MO first. It's the physical, emotional and biochemical effects after the MO that gives us all sorts of feelings.


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« Reply #66 on: May 22, 2020, 06:08:21 AM »
So I'm really ashamed to say I just PMOd. That's thirteen times in the last year with two weeks to go until the end of the year. It's not terrible, but it is not my best, possibly my second best, I don't know. My best has been four times in a year which I did the year before.

I've had a really out of synch few weeks, sleeping every other day and obsessing about crazy ideas born out of my psychosis. I wasn't actually having a schizophrenic relapse, but it was enough that now that I am trying to return to normal, I went back to PMO.

PMO has been the normality that I have known for so long, that I have gone back to it to solidify the stable life without madness. I know where I am with PMO.

This is why the reboot for me has to be a whole paradigm shift away from psychosis. I have to recover not just from my addiction but from my condition as well.

PMO feeds my condition at the same time as bringing me back down to earth. It brings me back down to earth because it is a thing I can put my finger on. With madness I tend to be lost or obsessing about intangible things. PMO is tangible.

I need to end this cycle. I need something to bring me back down to earth from schizophrenic relapses that isn't PMO. I don't know what that might be.

I have identified that I have a tendency to PMO after psychotic relapses. But I still haven't worked out how to avoid it.

Things are getting better for me, but I still have a long way to go.

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« Reply #67 on: May 22, 2020, 03:48:44 PM »
Hey Georgos,

I cannot begin to comprehend what it is like to have schizophrenia. Could you perhaps enlighten us on that, or perhaps there is a good video about it?
My wife is a psychologist and she even cannot exactly tell me what it is like. As a professional she says it is one of the most complex things in psychology.

And yes, it sucks that you PMO'd but it is not the end of the world. At the end of the day you continue and take with you the wisdom and progress you've picked up before you PMO'd last. Every time you have a bit more understanding of the hows and why's.

As you write, PMO has been a normality for you for so long, and on top of that for you its a way to solidify your life without having a schizophrenic episode. Compared to us guys without a serious mental issue, you have it a lot harder than us. Therefore i commend you for sticking to this forum.
The way in which PMO is tangible and brings you down to earth is a very understandable method.

I'm sure that you've already tried this, but did you think of replacing PMO with something else that is really tangible? Something that you 100% know of that is of this world. Preferable something positive or neutral. And must it be something that you should be able to physically touch? A token of sorts, something that you always have near. Forgive me if i sound silly, but i have very limited understanding of schizophrenia. I will try to educate myself a bit.

So great to read that things are getting better for you, albeit slowly.


If there is anything that any of us can do, even non PMO related just post here, even send me a private message!


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« Reply #68 on: May 26, 2020, 12:43:03 PM »
Thank you once again Shade,

I had another day of mild psychosis today, and once again went to porn to try and break the pattern of delusional thoughts. I didn't MO though.

If I can make it to the end of the year from when I started counting with no PMO, which is on June 21st, then I will be lucky.

I know its doable, the amount of times I've gone a month with complete abstention over the years is quite high.

It all depends on my frame of mind.

I never want to PMO again.

I am making progress. Now almost invariably when I look at P I don't MO, but I still PMOd thirteen times this year out of probably about fifty times actually looking at P. Thinking about it that way it is not too bad, but it is still thirteen times too many.

This coming year I want to get it down to zero.

I know it's a compromise, I shouldn't be looking at P at all, but after so many years, I will settle for no PMO for the time being.

I still want to tackle my fetish. I want to make it so that if I do look at P, all I search for is the simple word "porn" with no other terms attached.

Usually, just a minute's searching through google images of porn is enough without MO.

I can do this.

It is no longer ruining my life to the extent it was, but I want to take the next step and be done with it altogether.

Thank you.

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« Reply #69 on: May 26, 2020, 12:59:06 PM »
Hey Georgos, you are well under way.. and thirteen times in a period of a year is actually once a month.. so that's actually quite good already compared to being fully addicted.

Everyone has their own process and for now yours seem to work.

Good luck man, i hope you stay well and that the episodes are not so frequent!

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« Reply #70 on: May 27, 2020, 12:49:04 PM »
So I looked at P today. I didn't MO. I don't want to PMO ever again.

I'm still going straight to my fetish when I search for P. This has to stop.

I haven't got a clear plan. There are so many combinations of what I can allow myself to do. I have tried only allowing myself to MO and no P which I managed for six and a half months. I have tried only allowing myself to look at P and no MO which I managed for six months. I have managed five months of total abstinence.

The only clear plan I've got is that I don't want to PMO ever again. That is doable I think, but my mind is all mixed up thinking what is the best strategy.

I think to start with, I'm going to aim to get through a couple of months no PMO and then think about my next move. I have managed nine months no PMO before, I can easily manage a year, I can stop for good in fact if I get my strategy right.

I have been taking for granted no PMO so I think I need to build up at least two months no PMO before I start to mess around with other restrictions.

On the other hand, every time I go back to my fetish, I feel bad, and I am eager to tackle that now.

As I said, my mind isn't straight on what I want to do at the moment, except I know I don't want to PMO.

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« Reply #71 on: May 27, 2020, 07:33:30 PM »
So day 6 no PMO. I'm going to make it to 365 days at least.

Thank you.

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« Reply #72 on: May 28, 2020, 02:05:54 AM »
Hey Georgos,

In absense of a plan, might i offer a tool to help you battle your addiction?
It's a 6 point plan i've deduced based on own findings and a post by Traveler32.

It can be used to battle your urge to PMO but also your fetish.

1. Recognize the urge to PMO
2. Allow the urge to simply exist ( you cannot force it away) just let it be
3. Investigate WHY the urge is there. Is there something inside of you that makes you want to resort to PMO?
4. Realize that your urge is only temporary
5. Recall the feeling of emtyness after a PMO wank.
6. (optional if the urge is really strong) Resort to a sort of emergency activity such as sports a chore around the house or a hobby that gives you pleasure


You say that when you go back to your fetish, you feel bad.

You are only human man, we all are. And you are the victim of addiction. Partly you cannot help that you are hooked on your fetish. It's ok to have it.

If you think of yourself as bad every time you fall back to your fetish, or simply thinking about it, you will always feel bad about yourself.

So let me tell you; You are not a bad man for thinking or lookin at your fetish. It's okay.

The next time, try to forgive yourself and think; I forgive myself for my fetish, but it's ok. I love myself and its better for me to not look at my fetish"


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« Reply #73 on: May 28, 2020, 05:55:53 AM »
Thanks Shade, the six point plan is definitely the way to go,

The issue is that I've stopped focusing on giving up completely and have established records for myself which I am happy with,

As I said, a year ago, I managed only four PMOs in a year. I am still resting on my laurels.

I feel infinitely better for having achieved that, even the thirteen times this year is good.

I have forgotten how bad it was, and I am just trying to maintain this level of compromise,

All of this has given more power to the urges,

The thing that is holding me back from trying total abstinence again is the worry about how to deal with relapses,

In the past, it has felt like the cycle of boom and bust they talk about in economics,

I want a much smoother ride, with relapses being only half-relapses, e.g. looking at P but without MO,

I don't want to go from six months of complete abstinence to six months of complete addiction,

This is what I am trying to avoid and this is what I need a strategy for,

What has happened in the past is that I have abstained for some time and then when I have chosen to break one of the restrictions, I have felt that since I'm breaking one, I can break them all,

It has then been hard to get back on the wagon,

This is why I am playing around with half-way measures, like trying to only look at fashion models when I get an urge, something I've only managed once, etc.

I'm going to repeat your six point plan again here,

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1. Recognize the urge to PMO
2. Allow the urge to simply exist ( you cannot force it away) just let it be
3. Investigate WHY the urge is there. Is there something inside of you that makes you want to resort to PMO?
4. Realize that your urge is only temporary
5. Recall the feeling of emtyness after a PMO wank.
6. (optional if the urge is really strong) Resort to a sort of emergency activity such as sports a chore around the house or a hobby that gives you pleasure

I'm going to try and do seven days no P and at the end of the seven days look at clothed fashion models.

I will do 365 days no PMO minimum.

Thank you.

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Re: Nofap Consciousness II
« Reply #74 on: May 29, 2020, 06:53:18 AM »
So I'm going to state the six point plan again,

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1. Recognize the urge to PMO
2. Allow the urge to simply exist ( you cannot force it away) just let it be
3. Investigate WHY the urge is there. Is there something inside of you that makes you want to resort to PMO?
4. Realize that your urge is only temporary
5. Recall the feeling of emtyness after a PMO wank.
6. (optional if the urge is really strong) Resort to a sort of emergency activity such as sports a chore around the house or a hobby that gives you pleasure

Today is day one without P, still no MO.

I'm going to do a week and then look at clothed fashion models.

Thank you.