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Re: I've finally stopped. Now to hold on. My story to recovery
« Reply #300 on: September 06, 2020, 01:00:29 PM »
other than that nothing to report for now. Still no access to P but i do think about it and I do notice that my mind sometimes tries to think of ways to circumvent my blocks.

Keep up the great work! One thing that I helps me is that it's okay to get temptations and have thoughts, but not to act on them. Slowly the thoughts reduce with time.
Trying to quit since 2004. In recovery since December 2011. Mostly porn-free since August 2012. Completely porn-free since September 18, 2020.

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Re: I've finally stopped. Now to hold on. My story to recovery
« Reply #301 on: September 06, 2020, 03:54:03 PM »
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I've also noticed that when i'm horny i find it hard to control myself in my approach towards the Mrs.
I know that feeling. In the beginning i touched her all the time, not in a sexual way. Soon i realised that this won't work for long, so i reduced it and started with compliments about her and how beautiful she is for me. This gave us some happy moments at times. Maybe it's worth trying.

For every other reader: That's why i don't like to tell the partner everything about the reboot, because the partner then is compromised when things change. They eventualy start to ask themselfs 'is this because of PMO?' when it's in general a good thing. Just my way of dealing with it.

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« Reply #302 on: September 09, 2020, 05:33:42 AM »
Hey Imsorry, thanks for the tip.

With regards to what I should tell her and not; my wife is a psychologist so maybe she is much better to understand and seperate certain aspects of the addiction. She's been a great help to me and also very supportive.

The whole approach thing has been something that i've struggled with our entire relationship. I want to change it, but when the moods there I have a lot of  trouble with controlling myself
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« Reply #303 on: September 09, 2020, 03:26:12 PM »
Wise it would be to treat those impulses where you can't control yourself also with 6PP. Let it exist, nake yourself aware that it's you wanting something, but only the Mrs can give you. You can control this and find your freedom with it, because these urges will decrease with months of sobriety.

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« Reply #304 on: September 16, 2020, 02:12:18 PM »
Day 27, and i'm still doing well....

Not really been in a forum mood lately as I have been busy with other things. Porn block has been doing it's work and althoug I sometimes am tempted to bypass them I have not yet done this. I did MO a couple of times just to manage the physical desire aspect but luckily the chaser effect has not really bugged me a lot.

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« Reply #305 on: September 16, 2020, 03:10:56 PM »
Great news Shade!! Well done my friend - I am really pleased for you and Mrs T. It seems as if you are building some good momentum!

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« Reply #306 on: Today at 06:00:37 AM »
Sounds great, Shade. Hope all's still going well.