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Re: First time posting here. Want to get rid of this. I heard support helps.
« Reply #100 on: January 12, 2020, 11:49:04 PM »
Day 3
Exhausted. No urges.

Reasons why I want to quit porn. It makes feel depressed and anxious. It causes severe insomnia which I have been experiencing for the past 3 days. It makes me less interested in real women. It makes sex way less enjoyable. It gives me brain fog and inability to focus. I am gaining control of myself more and more.

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« Reply #101 on: January 14, 2020, 07:51:09 AM »
Day 4&5
Day 4 was busy had dinner with a female coworker which there is too much mutual attraction between us and it is bit of a unexplored area. Anyway got to bed no urges just tired. Today day 5 similar stuff, very exhausted can't wait till I go on vacation.

One thing of note that has been really bothering me since my last relapse. My last relapse, my brain starting inserting porn into everywhere when I was trying to sleep all kinds of disturbing dreams and I felt half awake throughout all of it. I felt really horrible afterwards and exhausted.

The reason why I want to quit porn. I hate it. It makes me depressed and anxious. It screws up my mind in a variety of ways after using and I find I can't sleep. It is making my interactions with real people less important. I also noticed I appreciated touch cuddling so much more when  I almost made it to two weeks. I feel abnormal and ashamed when I use. I lose my sense of pride every time I relapse. I don't ever want to be old and still addicted to this mental and spiritual poison. I am regaining my control every day and every time I get back right on the horse after relapsing the quicker I can heal.

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« Reply #102 on: January 15, 2020, 04:39:04 AM »
Day 6
Depressed. I have too many feelings for that coworker and  I feel like there is just this wall between us. Not to mention, I always seem to really fall for girls that love attention. Bad taste definitely. I haven't been feeling any urges these past days. I have been exhausted. I will be flying to another city on friday. I don't know how much I look forward to seeing that friend. God, I hate liking this person. I successfully distracted myself from her for months why does this hurt so much now. Maybe because I feel used. I suspect I will get urges around day 11 like usual. I think I am gonna post a lot here during that time to try and help myself because last times I avoided here out of shame of wanting to relapse. I know I can reach two weeks I just need to set up my schedule where I am doing something else besides watching p. Today and tomorrow will be very busy because I have to move my stuff to a friend's apartment and prep for my flight. I hate how I feel at the moment, but I have never medicated my sadness or depression with p so I have no desire to which I find as a blessing. Right now, I am quite frustrated and I hope i can enjoy the 4 days with my friend. After that, I plan to spend this month reading and working out. I have a month long vacation which is nice. Hopefully, will have a competition in March or April. I am feeling really tired of China though lately. Being in a foreign country things start to wear on you.
Reasons why I want to quit porn. It causes severe brain fog and depression. I can tell just after 5 days that I have some more clarity. I get more anxiety and I lose self respect everytime I use. The edging makes my brain feel like a lightbulb and it become severely burnt out after using. It sucks away my time and makes it so I cannot focus on my hobbies and other people. I feel enormously drained after using and moody. I want to accomplish more in my life so I need that sexual energy and motivation. I am regaining control everyday and I have felt the benefits after a little over a week.

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« Reply #103 on: January 15, 2020, 10:56:53 PM »
Day 7
I did not sleep well again. I woke up with an erection and a need to pee. It kept me awake and I completely awoke by the time I went to the bathroom. I MO'ed to get rid of the random erections and to help sleep went easy enough. I didn't really fall back asleep so I am really tired and I need to move a bunch of stuff. I must be going through withdrawals still. It will be nice to go on vacation since pretty much every girl I was interested or had a thing with is no with or dating someone else. Some seriously bad luck all at once too haha. I feel quite stressed and really tired. I have had no urges at all even on the computer. I suspect I get urges mainly in response to boredom and repeat exposure to triggers on streaming websites. I am happy after today it will be a week again. It feels good to be moving forward again. Even though, I am depressed about the situation I currently find myself I am not losing control.
Reasons why I want to quit porn,
It makes me depressed and anxious. It gives me brain fog. It causes insomnia like now. It drains my time and the time I spend engaging with this addiction leaves me no time for much of anything else. I want to keep accomplishing things in my life and this is a necessary correction. I am regaining control every day.

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« Reply #104 on: January 16, 2020, 02:26:26 AM »
Relapsed again. shit was not prepared for those urges came all of a sudden on the computer. No bingeing. I guess stress is still a trigger. Even though, I wasn't thinking I will go home and relapse. No wait, it came from pictures and ads on a website that I was not expecting shit.

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« Reply #105 on: January 19, 2020, 01:33:11 AM »
Everything came to head recently. Vacation was bad. I binged. I don't know what I want or what I am looking for anymore. Ending things completely with my ex swept out a large amount of emotional support I had in China. I have other friends  here, but right now, they are all on vacation. I should have went with them instead of visiting someone I don't even know anymore. I noticed now that for me, periods of extreme loneliness and boredom are my main triggers. I feel so empty right now and my relationship with my ex in part was destroyed because of my porn use. She hates herself because I want other girls with also hating me. i can't say I blame her. I guess it is poetic justice that the girl I had a fling with is now with someone else and other girls have started dating other people. I want to break this habit. I just chose to relapse today out of a sense of boredom and mindless pleasure seeking. Lately, I have not been able to escape myself. For the rest of this month long holiday, which I have squandered 3 days of already. I am going to spend on beating this addiction. I am gonna make myself a schedule and make it harder for me to reach porn. I have to hope now because I don't have anything in this country anymore all I can do is push forward for myself.

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« Reply #106 on: January 20, 2020, 10:35:28 PM »
Relapsed again. Did not sleep well at all got too hungry. I am mess lately and idk what to do.

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It has been awhile since posting here. In February, I went 22 days porn free and then relapsed. March and April have been total disasters and I had some of the worst edging sessions I have ever had in those months. The day before yesterday I almost allowed myself to be scammed online and I knew it was due to my porn use. I relapsed today and this month I have already relapsed twice. I figure posting here will me get back to one week consistently. I am gonna try to do once a week use for a month than extend it to two weeks. I am deciding to do this because my bingeing is terrible and how I got off anxiety medication was from a taper. I am hoping I can do the same with porn.

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Day 1 yesterday, no urges. I coded some and played video games. Not much going on.

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Day 5 I ended up edging for 30 minutes browsing through porn sites. I was able to stop myself though which I am really happy about. Now I am on day 7; I won't reset my counter because of that edging because the more I stop myself from bingeing or edging for hours the better I will feel. I got triggered hard that time from an advertisement. I like anime so whenever I go to watch they will sometimes have shitty adverts which will cause urges. Even before then, I think me feeling so pumped up and full of energy from a good workout also contributed to the slight relapse. My goal for May is to make a month happen. I want to get rid of this because I can feel it causing anxiety and messing with my brain. I have also noticed I am more quick to make bad decisions because of my use. I can feel my head light up like a christmas tree when I use and I always have severe withdrawals after using. I don't  want to continue this because it takes up a bunch of my time and i don't want to do anymore damage to my body than I already have. I am looking forward to a month. I expect urges to hit again around day 12-13 and day 21-23. I am gonna make a point to keep busy on those days to avoid using.

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Day 9
I realize having sex gives me a bad chaser effect and that has led to relapses in the past. Also, I get serious brain fog after any O. When this girl finally leaves my apt, I am gonna try to go for a 90 day hard mode reboot. I think my brain really needs it with all the edging I have done.

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Sounds like a solid plan! I like the post before this one, always good to remember why we are beating this! So much more time will be saved, a huge boost in mental health etc. all sorts of good things. You can do it! Just keep doing what works!

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Thanks quit, I appreciate the response. I am on day 16 now. I am excited to be finally reaching a month. I can't wait to put this terrible addiction behind me. It ruined my most serious relationship and definitely turned me into a bit of a sex-crazed nut. I hate that. I don't want to be controlled by my dick. I am excited to leave this behind because of all the horrible concentration problems I have with it and the mood swings. I get enormously depressed and anxious after using. I want to move on with my life and I feel like this addiction has wasted 3 years of it in a lot of ways. Maybe, I am not giving myself enough credit, but I feel that it is wasted so much of my time and I accomplished so little. This pandemic is giving me a chance to restart things.

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Day 24
I am happy to note that I have been continuing with my streak. I looked back over my previous journals and honestly, it hurts a lot in a way. I feel like porn had such control over me and it still does to an extant. I don't really think about porn much anymore. I have a friend living with me in my apartment and I am glad to say even when he leaves and I am here alone I don't have any urges. The last time I "O"ed was 6 days ago and the last time I mo'ed was 5 days ago. I don't know if the orgasming is setting back my progress at all, but it  helps to avoid p. I am writing here now because I want to remind myself why I want to stop this awful habit. It causes severe mood swings in me. It will cause me be depressed right after followed by extreme anxiety the rest of the day often leading into a lack of sleep. I can really tell it messed up my dopamine system by the way my head feels after a long use. I even feel my head feel strange during sex. I wonder when that will get back to normal. I have severe brain fog after using. I also will binge for hours one time I am ashamed to admit in March I binged for 8 hours literally edging for 8 hours. I can't believe I did that and I don't know what kind of damage that did to my brain. But god, sometimes I hate women. As I was typing this a girl calls me trying to get me horny by watching her in the shower. My head already feels slightly foggy from just that small interaction I told her to move the camera away from her and she did so I am happy about that. I ended up hanging up anyway though. I want to avoid all things that remind me of p.

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Day 25
I am happy to note that even though my roommate was gone all day and I was incredibly lazy today. I  had no urges for porn or any relapses. I have urges now and again to touch myself to some memories of sexual encounters that I have had, but I stop myself because I feel like MO'eing gives me a bad chaser effect that doesn't go away until a week. I want to quit porn because I don't want to be caught in an endless cycle of focusing on this problem streak, relapse, streak, relapse ad nauseam. I want to be happier and healthier. I know porn causes severe mood swings and always makes me severely depressed followed by extreme anxiety that lasts for hours. It drains hours and days of  my life just spent in front of a computer screen destroying me mentally. I am happy about this streak and I have no desire to stop anytime soon. I am waiting for a big uptick in urges again because the last time I hit a month was 3 years ago.

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Day 26
Relatively uneventful day, I had a decent workout. I feel like I am in a severe flatline right now. I have zero sexual desire at all and I am a bit depressed. Signs that I am slowly healing. I worry about this upcoming month. I have a feeling things are gonna get very hard and painful. But I don’t want to ever go back to p. It destroyed a lot in my life at this point and I am lucky I didn’t develop PIED. I hate it so much. I hate how destructive it has been for so many men and their significant others. It should be outright banned. I am feeling somewhat optimistic about the workout progress and my strength training, but honestly, I miss home. I miss my friends, I miss my people. It wears on you being surrounded by foreign stuff everywhere even when you have a decent grasp of the language. It is just hard.  I feel empty lately and one thing I realized almost doing a month in February is how much P numbed my emotions. It made me dead inside. I couldn’t get too happy, but neither too sad. I am painfully aware of all the little wounds I have accumulated over these past 3 years and how much I have not really recovered from them and p has just been an anesthetic. I am still bleeding from a thousand cuts, but I couldn’t feel it. I remember when I used to cut the sharp paralyzing pain when causing a deep cut followed by a peace. Things are different now and I will fight for my future even though I am sad and hurt. I don’t want to escape the pain I will use it to move forward. There is nothing else but the next day of improvement. Apotheosis is everything.

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hey k-fff,

i am so happy for you, that you made such a huge leap and to hear from you again.
Emotional numbness is a big one. Thats why i feel like a lot of people get depressive episodes, when they get to longer streaks. Its the first time they can actually feel sadness and deep emotional pain to the fullest, at least for me it felt like this. I also think its a sign for healing. Keep doing what you doing man.

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hey k-fff,

i am so happy for you, that you made such a huge leap and to hear from you again.
Emotional numbness is a big one. Thats why i feel like a lot of people get depressive episodes, when they get to longer streaks. Its the first time they can actually feel sadness and deep emotional pain to the fullest, at least for me it felt like this. I also think its a sign for healing. Keep doing what you doing man.

It's nice to hear from  you to Jeks. I am ready to leave this trash behind and move on with my llife. Day 27 has just come to an end.

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Day 30 of no p and it is day 35 of no pmo and 0 of no MO.

I am happy I have gotten this far and I finally got to a month without p in my life. The funny thing is for me what worked for me is having someone around me for the first 3 weeks. The reality is when I had  a girl staying with me and later my friend most of my urges disappeared.  It makes me think a lot of pmo'ing was brought on by stress and just a generalized boredom. I say those two things, but I also think that the amount of isolation a lot of p users is under is what really feeds this addiction.  I think many more people would be able to overcome this if they had a friend group active in their life and not online supporting them and being there. I haven't counted mo'ing as a relapse because it was done to the memory of previous situations. I also had an MO habit for years long before p entered the picture so it is not nearly as connected to p compared to others. I had a really nutso dream about PMO'ing with all the feelings of pmo and I was absolutely exhausted after it. I assume this is normal and a lot of people have had  p dreams like that. Most of my urges lately have been coming at night when I am going to sleep in really obvious bouts. I hope when I am put under stress again instead of pmo'ing I do something else because lately to handle my stress I just wait until it subsides. It is a bit odd also maybe some complaining to friends. But I don't do anything active towards it. Right now, I think that is the biggest test is when I am under a lot stress how will I respond.

Uh, I never did this for any super powers, but I do think it was affecting my hair loss and we will see after 90 days how I feel, but overall, I would say p's biggest negative effect was the lack of impulse control that came with continued use. I would get angrier easier and make relationship decisions that were quite destructive. I also lost pretty much all my patience. These things are getting, but they are nowhere near a hundred percent. Brain fog is definitely reduced, anxiety is also. Depression will come and go and I think that is more of a result of my mind not being completely numbed by the edging and pmo'ing I was doing. I feel healthier than I have been feeling and I am definitely more productive on the fitness end and I made significant gains in musculature since I stopped.

I want to leave this stuff behind forever because it is not real. It is a fake interaction. It is something done through a computer screen. It is disturbing how much it would take control of me and I would end up in a trance lost for hours. It was like I couldn't tear myself away. I hate that I allowed it to do that to me so many times. I would spend hours on my computer like that.

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The funny thing is for me what worked for me is having someone around me for the first 3 weeks. The reality is when I had a girl staying with me and later my friend most of my urges disappeared.  It makes me think a lot of pmo'ing was brought on by stress and just a generalized boredom. I say those two things, but I also think that the amount of isolation a lot of p users is under is what really feeds this addiction.  I think many more people would be able to overcome this if they had a friend group active in their life and not online supporting them and being there.


I couldnt agree more. When i first tried to reboot, me and my ex were still together and it was so easy sometimes, that i honestly doubted, that i was addicted. Two months after the break up i relapsed so bad and it took me around 5 months to get my current streak going. A huge help was a friend of mine reaching out for me, even when i tended to isolate myself. It was very important to have at least one person providing emotional support. I think it helps so much to have at least one person, who knows about your problem, so you have someone to talk to in real life.

Nice work man. Keep going.

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The funny thing is for me what worked for me is having someone around me for the first 3 weeks. The reality is when I had a girl staying with me and later my friend most of my urges disappeared.  It makes me think a lot of pmo'ing was brought on by stress and just a generalized boredom. I say those two things, but I also think that the amount of isolation a lot of p users is under is what really feeds this addiction.  I think many more people would be able to overcome this if they had a friend group active in their life and not online supporting them and being there.


I couldnt agree more. When i first tried to reboot, me and my ex were still together and it was so easy sometimes, that i honestly doubted, that i was addicted. Two months after the break up i relapsed so bad and it took me around 5 months to get my current streak going. A huge help was a friend of mine reaching out for me, even when i tended to isolate myself. It was very important to have at least one person providing emotional support. I think it helps so much to have at least one person, who knows about your problem, so you have someone to talk to in real life.

Nice work man. Keep going.

Yea, definitely without a doubt. I think friend are the best for this sort of support instead of a gf or wife because it puts too much pressure on the relationship, but really having people around that you can rely on makes this a night and day difference.

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So  I relapsed. I would be more okay with it if I wasn't edging for like an hour because I kept going back in forth in my head this is not good. You need to stop. I am gonna try to write everything down here while I am feeling it. During, I felt the familiar rush of dopamine and the excitement breathing quick. Then that molds into sort of my face feeling extremely hot and sort of numb. It also feels almost like I am hurting my brain doing this. I don't feel good after and my face still feels very heated like a guy who has had too much to drink. I am not happy about this relapse,but right now I am in mode where I don't know how to treat it. I feel sad that this thing gained control again, but if this is the only relapse the rest of this month I will  be happy.

Possible triggers maybe mo'ing too much and pics that this girl I have been sleeping with sent. I think the combo of two sent me over the edge. It doesn't help I am depressed over my ex gf to an extant and I miss her, but right now, I feel like it was the pictures. They weren't even nude photos just her in a bikini set me off. It is important to notice before I went to do it I was telling myself look at nofap those situations will make you not want to relapse. It is depressing because I know that if I saw people's stories and their struggle with this it would turn me off instantly. Lately, I had been getting more urges than normal. I think the number 1 thing now I have to do is take care for these first few days I don't want to binge and even now, in the back of my head, my mind is telling me to do it again. I want to stop this because it numbs my emotions and severely decreases my desire for real girls. These are the main things I have noticed now since my last streak my emotions were so numb when pmo'ing constantly. I barely felt anything for other people. I just need to get back on the horse. I am confident I can do this now.
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I have big headache now from that edging. Goddammit, it is the worst.

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Start of day 1 here, my head still feels quite off from the relapse yesterday and throughout the day yesterday, I kept getting urges to binge. I don’t know how long the relapse symptoms will last. I hope just a few days, but I have feeling it will be two weeks.

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I am annoyed with myself. I binged. Do I really want to go back to the cycle of a few days clean, relapse, another few days clean, then relapse. I knew when I got onto the computer that I was having serious urges. I had work to do, but I should have just done it on a work computer. That's what I need to remind myself of I feel horrible guilt and depression after using and I hate myself afterwards then a few days go by I am using again. Then the cycle repeats. Why is it I have no urges when someone is around. I hate that triggers for me are just simply being alone. Maybe, that is not wholly true, but I never get urges when someone was living with me, but now, I am constantly getting urges and I am giving in again. I am reminded of claws tearing at my brain. I spent this whole day essentially on porn. At least 4 hours worth, that edging is destroying my head and my head literally hurts afterwards. I don't want this. I hate this stuff and I hate myself after using. I am done with this after this. I am gonna get another month again and then 2 months. I don't have to give in this stuff and my urges are bullshit I don't have them by simply somebody being around so I shouldn't be sitting worrying about having them when I am alone because nothing has really changed. If I really wanted to look at porn, I could just take my phone and go into the bathroom, but I don't. I am irritated with myself.