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John1968

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Not sure what to do :(((((
« on: November 30, 2019, 05:19:20 AM »

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 Not sure where to start really I am 50 years old my name is John for the last four years maybe more I haven’t had any morning wood and slowly over that time I realised that my performance with lovemaking/sex has gone downhill to the point where I don’t actually feel any desire whatsoever to have sex if I stimulate myself I can achieve an erection so I think the plumbing as it were is all okay however spontaneous erections  during the day or night or morning do not happen and I don’t feel alive downstairs if you know what I mean
 My porn habit started many years ago but never I don’t think I was really addicted just used to get off now and again to a bit of porn , my sex life was always okay , good in fact , about four or five years ago I started smoking weed and there was a major link for me between weed and good sex !! sex felt fantastic I was more aggressive turned on and the partner I was with loved it and so did I sometimes I would smoke weed and watch porn four hours
Then  I noticed I was taking longer and longer to get to orgasm with a partner and also with porn then noticed loss of morning erections  then noticed I preferred porn to sex sex seemed like too much work now I feel dead in the cock department don’t have any morning erections and no desire to have sex although I want to be like that again :(
Went to dr and my testosterone in on low side but normal he says
Tried self administering testosterone for 6 weeks and felt strong in gym but no sexual difference at all
Then found nofap :) and was like a light at the end of a dark tunnel As I seem to have all of the symptoms brain fog depression no sex drive no libido Taking longer to finish etc
It’s been 3 weeks no pmo but feel the same
Have I been in a flat line before even starting nofap as had the flatline symptoms before starting nofap and since nofap I still feel the same
Will I ever get back to myself again

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Re: Not sure what to do :(((((
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2019, 02:31:08 PM »
You will get back to yourself again - your brain is rebooting, now giving up PMO, it is reverting back to normal levels of dopamine (feel good chemical) because your brain was so overstimulated with it while watch porn, smoking weed, etc.  Give it time brotha, it will get better.  Recovery is not so much about not relapsing as it is about replacing old destructive habits with new healthy habits.  That takes time.  It is a lifestyle change.  It is about normal mental and emotional health.  Repeat to yourself that you don't cope with life by watching pornography anymore.  Withdrawal symptoms are real - depression, anxiety, headaches, brain fog, stress.  But, those are to be experienced and pass through, in order for healing to take place.  It is hard, but we'll be here at reboot nation to support you.  Stay powerful and strong!

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Re: Not sure what to do :(((((
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2019, 05:32:54 AM »
thankyou for that, it isnt that im in a flatline from starting no pmo i have had flatline symptoms for last 2/ 3 years b4 ever knowing about nofap