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Gusser1

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Hey new here
« on: November 26, 2019, 02:25:08 PM »
Hey guys I’m new here. Found this group by accident. Tried to quit porn/masturbation on my own many times with no success. Figured this is a good option for me. I was late to work this morning because of it. Plus I’m foggy upstairs too just like most guys report. Just want a better life for myself that’s productive and feel more in charge of myself. Thanks that’s all I have.

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #1 on: November 26, 2019, 07:04:23 PM »
Hi Gusser1. Glad you're in the forum. Hope that you get the support that we all need and that you find a way to stop PMO that suits you. Advice: don't delay...the physical, mental and social consequences of the addiction are horrendous and will get worse. Read YBOP. It is reassuring, informative and challenging.All the best.

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #2 on: November 27, 2019, 06:29:39 AM »
Thanks for the welcome. Just trying to do better. I made it last nite w/o looking and trying new coping skills. Being “reborn” is difficult and I opted to start journaling. I plan to focus where I’m going instead of living where I was....

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #3 on: December 02, 2019, 06:13:15 PM »
Hey I fell again over the weekend

Gusser1

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #4 on: December 02, 2019, 06:13:55 PM »
Gonna keep trying

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #5 on: December 02, 2019, 07:47:58 PM »
hey been there lasted about a month and then i just had to

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #6 on: December 03, 2019, 04:19:30 AM »
Hi Gusser, yes, keep trying! We’ve all been there and it’s difficult. Is there anything useful you can learn from your slip at the weekend? eg behaviours or feelings just beforehand that you can use as warning signs in the future that you need to get away from the pc/laptop or even get out of the house.
Best of luck!

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #7 on: December 03, 2019, 03:55:42 PM »
Hi Gusser.
Maybe you could reconsider the 'falling' concept? Fallen from others'/God's/your own ideals or values? None of us can ever 'match up'. And...we don't have to. Perhaps (like me at least) you've relapsed into the psychological safety zone that the addiction makes us think is so attractive. I for one don't see that you have fallen. Let's not judge ourselves or one another. We are here primarily because we need to learn to rely on one another.

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #8 on: December 05, 2019, 07:18:08 PM »
Yup guys thanks for the input, habits need to change. I’m attempting to notice triggers as they come up. I’m attempting to pull back in certain situations that cause stress and attempting more “mindfulness” I need to get out of bed when I wake up as opposed to laying there with the phone. Also as a practicing Christian in the Catholic tradition, it’s becoming tremendously embarrassing to keep confessing the same thing constantly. So far I’m on day 5 and the brain fog is lifting. Feel a bit irritable, after awhile I know it will pass, after another week. (It usually does). But I feel good about finding this site, and once again guys thanks!

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« Reply #9 on: December 06, 2019, 07:22:38 AM »
Good job getting back on track!  The quest is all about today and tomorrow with the goal of moving forward to improve our lives.  You noted confession-I have found that Psalm 51 is a great way to cleanse the soul and get a new start.  Anyway, keep going and best wishes moving forward.

 

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #10 on: December 07, 2019, 10:36:30 AM »
One week clean today!

cranm329

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #11 on: December 07, 2019, 03:14:03 PM »
Well done.

Gusser1

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #12 on: December 08, 2019, 07:15:01 PM »
Thanks bud more post tomorrow

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #13 on: December 09, 2019, 07:54:23 PM »
Anyway today felt kinda depressed and anxious. I suppose that’s normal as my brain is rewiring itself.

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #14 on: December 15, 2019, 07:37:53 PM »
Two weeks and one day clean! Feel better by the day.

cranm329

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #15 on: December 16, 2019, 06:53:12 PM »
You're doing really well. Congratulations!

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #16 on: December 22, 2019, 09:09:52 PM »
Been three weeks clean. Starting to feel more inner peace, I feel that’s a nice gift considering it’s a couple of days before Christmas

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #17 on: December 22, 2019, 10:07:19 PM »
Hey Gusser

    Nice going  push hard and grab that 1st month   Im coming up on 2 weeks  have had runs in the past of over 3 months   and each time i had to restart  it felt more normal  and I seem to have more resolve

    Cheers

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #18 on: December 23, 2019, 02:26:00 PM »
Good job buddy it’s all good

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #19 on: December 30, 2019, 08:47:08 PM »
So far good! I had one month porn free today, and last nite had sex with my wife. Everything functioned as nature intended. it was great....just a day at a time. Don’t know about tomorrow, but today won’t be engaging in PMO.

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Re: Hey new here
« Reply #20 on: December 30, 2019, 11:49:56 PM »
a month is always a really good start  and sex with the wife that makes it even better   Im am hitting 3 weeks as of the 31st  mind you its been tough as my wife and I have not had sex since i began this last reboot  but the reason there is she was sick with a nasty cold  than i was sick with the same cold and she wound up with a 2nd dose  but it finally looks like were both on the mend  so we'll see what happens new years eve

    cheers

    Post often it helps me it helps you