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Rebooting and committed to it, but still have unresolved issues
« on: October 09, 2019, 01:19:42 PM »
Hello everyone,
Im 23 years old and iv'e been rebooting for more than a year now.
Had a streak of about 10-11 months of NoFap while i was travelling around the world (had sex once with a girl i met at a bar, which was 5 months into the reboot).
Came back home and masturbated a few times, and decided to stop again due to feeling that it kind of brings me back to a porn-related mind set.
Iv'e watched porn since i was 9. I was dealing with HOCD and kept watching porn until i was 21. Stopped for a year , relapsed , found out about reboot nation and decided to go for it.
Ill be clear, i have absolutely no intention what so ever, to watch porn ever again in my life. Its out the window for good, and its one of the most complete places ive ever been in my life, the level of assurance i have with this topic.

The thing is my mind still thinks like a porn-mind. I have porn related thoughts, like just thinking about blow jobs or extreme sex out of nowhere,
i still feel that im not taking the idea of women the way i should. I still feel that i relate encounters with women to sex only, and miss understand situations with them.

My question is - does anyone have any idea, a tip, an article, a book to share with me that gives perspective about how to think like a normal person?
that sounds weird, but i mean thinking like a non-addicted porn user, a man that his first sexual experience was not in front of high-speed internet porn, because i feel like i cant put the limit between Porn-related habits and thoughts , to actually normal thoughts and feelings.
I hope i explained it well, please read and ask me for corrections , i really want help with that topic.
Thank you.

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Re: Rebooting and committed to it, but still have unresolved issues
« Reply #1 on: October 09, 2019, 06:14:17 PM »
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Came back home and masturbated a few times, and decided to stop again due to feeling that it kind of brings me back to a porn-related mind set.
good observation. MO will always bring you back to PMO symptoms and eventually cravings for PMO will come. you cant ever again MO without consequences and a risk of full blown PMO relapse.

how long is your current streak of nofap?
My last relapse: 03.Oct.2019 // My total # of relapses in the last 30 days: 10+

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Re: Rebooting and committed to it, but still have unresolved issues
« Reply #2 on: October 10, 2019, 05:12:28 AM »
The streak is about 2 weeks i guess? Not really counting it by days , trying to change my mindset about that.
Im having wet dreams though...

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Re: Rebooting and committed to it, but still have unresolved issues
« Reply #3 on: October 10, 2019, 08:12:33 AM »
dont look at females below their necks, keep your head high around women. look at the color of their eyes. wonder about if she have a family or what she likes to do, what are her ambitions and motivations, what kind of person she is. what she cares about?

well, you cant think normal after 2 weeks of nofap. you may look at her head only and see those lips and boom... you may think about her family and think about her husband banging her. what she cares about? she cares about that D. you cant think normal if your brain is physically different from normal brain. abnormal brain = abnormal thinking. porn related mindset is a symptom of porn addiction. you are sensitized to porn and desensitized to everything else so you will think like that and feel it like that.



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My last relapse: 03.Oct.2019 // My total # of relapses in the last 30 days: 10+

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Re: Rebooting and committed to it, but still have unresolved issues
« Reply #4 on: October 10, 2019, 09:27:36 AM »
dont look at females below their necks, keep your head high around women. look at the color of their eyes. wonder about if she have a family or what she likes to do, what are her ambitions and motivations, what kind of person she is. what she cares about?

well, you cant think normal after 2 weeks of nofap. you may look at her head only and see those lips and boom... you may think about her family and think about her husband banging her. what she cares about? she cares about that D. you cant think normal if your brain is physically different from normal brain. abnormal brain = abnormal thinking. porn related mindset is a symptom of porn addiction. you are sensitized to porn and desensitized to everything else so you will think like that and feel it like that.

Im 2 weeks into NoFap after relapse from almost 11 months of NoFap. Havent watched porn for more than a year , im asking because i feel im pretty advanced in my reboot... Bit you are right my brain is plasticly different from a normal thinking brain. Ill try to adapt the things you said.