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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #100 on: September 14, 2019, 04:35:14 AM »
Small steps still move you forward. I like to set smaller goals for myself. This is how I do it:

- First goal is 4 days because I used to relapse on day 4;
- Next goal is 5 days. Only one day after that because I also used to relapse on day 5. I relapsed either on day 4 or 5;
- Next goal is 7 days (1 week);
- 10 days;
- 14 days (2 weeks);
- 20 days (because it's a round number);
- 21 days (3 weeks and it comes only 1 day after the previous goal)

etc.

You get the idea? Each time I focus only on the next goal, which is 10 days now. Jumping right into: "Okay, plans for 90 days hard mode. I start today and complete it on..." This is too scary to even think about. Smaller steps still move me forward and, when I start, it feels more possible to walk 100 yards than to walk 100 miles (which I will eventually get to walking many rounds of 100 yards but it's a psychological thing).
« Last Edit: September 14, 2019, 04:43:05 AM by Lero »

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #101 on: September 14, 2019, 10:24:20 AM »
Ok i got it.
Day 0 is completed . i relapsed at morning but i controlled myself whole day. And not relapsed again.
So my goal is to complete day 1 now. So tomorrow is day 1.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #102 on: September 14, 2019, 04:17:25 PM »
Ok i got it.
Day 0 is completed . i relapsed at morning but i controlled myself whole day. And not relapsed again.
So my goal is to complete day 1 now. So tomorrow is day 1.

Good. Avoid binging at all costs. Maybe it could help to focus on smaller milestones like I do. But do whatever works for you.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #103 on: September 16, 2019, 01:36:34 PM »
Day 3 today at Sept 17
Doing good again. Yes i am doing it now. I am rebooting
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #104 on: September 16, 2019, 10:23:51 PM »
My friend sent me porn. I watched it and fapped. But j will start again . i can learn from this and i will try again.
So day 0 at Sept 17
I am doing again.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #105 on: September 16, 2019, 10:32:38 PM »
Goal :
*To complete day 0 without any more relapse.
*To complete day 1 because well beginning is half done.
*To complete day 3.
*To complete day 7
*To complete day 14
*To complete day 21
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #106 on: September 16, 2019, 10:46:51 PM »
First thing plays important role here is the thinking. Think positively . i can do it . today is day 0 but if i reboot it become a so imp day. Because i started today. So today is so important day. Because my freedom from this bad thing is started today.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #107 on: September 16, 2019, 10:48:56 PM »
Yes this time i am doing it for 30 days reboot. I stop it this time.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #108 on: September 17, 2019, 02:29:03 AM »
I am out off home for some time after one relapse. It keep away me from relapsing again. Relapse start in our mind before we relapse. So i am aware about that.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #109 on: September 17, 2019, 03:24:59 AM »
relapsed again at afternoon .
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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #110 on: September 17, 2019, 09:36:50 AM »
Completed day 0 with 2 relapses.
i need to choose one from this two things
1st is Life
2nd is PMO

from today i choose Life. From today  i change my thoughts first by meditation. then identify my triggers. and then i will be successful.
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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #111 on: September 17, 2019, 09:48:08 PM »
Day 1 at September 18
Today i am started to look for final reboot. I found one way that is to weeken your addictive pathways by fighting your triggers.
As i calculated i relapsed 82 times this year. So i need to fight 82 triggers. So from now i am doing reboot for whole life. Not for 30-40 days. So i want a permanent solution. If i will successful it helps you. If i failed i try again.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #112 on: September 18, 2019, 12:47:20 PM »
Day 1 completed successfully.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #113 on: September 19, 2019, 12:30:12 AM »
Day 2 is started.
I completed 20 minutes meditation.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #114 on: September 19, 2019, 01:41:41 AM »
Well done!
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Re: Last attempt to quite porn
« Reply #115 on: September 19, 2019, 03:46:59 AM »
My friend sent me porn. I watched it and fapped. But j will start again . i can learn from this and i will try again.
So day 0 at Sept 17
I am doing again.

Maybe you should set some boundaries with this friend of yours. Is he addicted to porn? You send him porn, he sends you porn and you've relapsed at least twice since I've been reading your journal because of porn exchange with your friend. Do you want to quit porn or not? What are you going to do about this?

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« Reply #116 on: September 19, 2019, 12:19:12 PM »
I warned my friend about this. Now i am going for day 3
Day 2 is completed successfully.
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« Reply #117 on: September 20, 2019, 01:31:59 PM »
3 days completed successfully
Day 4
Now my goal is to complete day 4 .
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #118 on: September 20, 2019, 01:55:54 PM »
Well done!
Go for the next one

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« Reply #119 on: September 20, 2019, 10:02:35 PM »
Yes free-man
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #120 on: September 22, 2019, 06:16:27 AM »
Day 5 is completed successfully. Now i am going for day 6. My goal is day 7 now.
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« Reply #121 on: September 22, 2019, 12:35:41 PM »
Its just 5 days recovery but i feeling some change. I am recovering my social skills. My social intelligence. I am recovering now. Slowly i am getting myself back. Its like taking backup after formating .
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #122 on: September 22, 2019, 09:56:47 PM »
Yesterday night i had so strong urges. But i don't responded.
First i closed my internet supply. And then i leaved my mobile.
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« Reply #123 on: September 23, 2019, 03:20:17 AM »
WELL DONE!!!
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« Reply #124 on: September 23, 2019, 12:00:56 PM »
Day 6 is completed successfully today. Tomorrow is day 7. A new milestone for my 73 days reboot journey. After completing it i am going for a new goal of 10 days.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.