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jixu

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Re: Trying this again
« Reply #25 on: August 14, 2019, 06:46:38 AM »
Great work, especially in cases such as you mentioned with the bank-if you want to stay out of harm, stay out of harm's way!  Keep going and hope you enjoy the clean feeling!



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« Reply #26 on: August 14, 2019, 08:48:27 PM »
Day 17, still struggling a lot with temptations but not giving in. Don’t want that life anymore. Always need to remember where it leads......to emptiness, loneliness, guilt, despair, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, hating self etc, etc. Choosing instead life, health, healing, peace, joy, victory, love of self, mental health, purity and one step further to full recovery. Fighting to do the hard 90, then 180 and so on. Stay strong self, stay strong. You don’t need PMO! Nothing good about it. Not a single thing! A compete lie about what love and sex really is!

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« Reply #27 on: August 15, 2019, 02:34:44 AM »
Remember: On day 1 you where desperate to be where you are now. You are too far ahead to return to zero. You might as well just go on. Make it to 3 weeks then 25 days and so on. Don't think about big streaks now because it could feel overwhelming. I don't even think about 90 days or something like that. I want 30 days first (moving up from 25).

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« Reply #28 on: August 15, 2019, 10:40:21 PM »
Yeah thanks Lero, definitely true. Might as well continue on. Really struggling tonight. Don’t have work tomorrow so nights with no work the next day are really tough. One day at a time. Was thinking today about a Ted talk where the guy said that pretty much nothing was getting men’s attention to stop PMO until we learned about PIED. That got our attention! I need to always remind myself about PIED. I don’t want that and can’t have that if I want a real relationship with my soon to be wife.

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« Reply #29 on: August 18, 2019, 08:27:16 PM »
Day 21, three weeks no PMO. Strong urges right now I think mostly because of stuff my fiancé did something that she should have asked me about before doing it. Anyway staying strong and not gonna let this stresser cause me to give in. There’s always gonna be something that’s gonna want me to retreat to that so called comfort place but it’s just not a real comfort place. Just makes things worse. Really glad I made it this far....need to build on this.

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« Reply #30 on: August 19, 2019, 10:52:31 AM »
Well done H2R. Stay strong. It's worth it. You're worth it.

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« Reply #31 on: August 19, 2019, 02:58:10 PM »
Keep going h2r! You’ve done well to analyse the reason for the urges. Each time you don’t give in, it’s a small victory that makes you stronger.

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« Reply #32 on: August 20, 2019, 04:54:34 PM »
Day 21, three weeks no PMO. Strong urges right now I think mostly because of stuff my fiancé did something that she should have asked me about before doing it. Anyway staying strong and not gonna let this stresser cause me to give in. There’s always gonna be something that’s gonna want me to retreat to that so called comfort place but it’s just not a real comfort place. Just makes things worse. Really glad I made it this far....need to build on this.

There's no comfort there, only temporary dissociation, followed by regret and self-loathing.  Play the tape through in your mind, but skip the 'fix' part...go straight to the aftermath, with the shame and disgust and the loss of control, or whatever you feel.

Keep going, you're on the path to recovery

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« Reply #33 on: August 20, 2019, 04:59:14 PM »
There's no comfort there, only temporary dissociation, followed by regret and self-loathing.  Play the tape through in your mind, but skip the 'fix' part...go straight to the aftermath, with the shame and disgust and the loss of control, or whatever you feel.

I definitely like that. Sometimes I like to visualize a relapse, the follow-up of PMO and place myself there and experience that feeling of regret, depression, desperation to turn back the time to a day earlier. There is nothing great in going back to porn.