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allforone

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Question: Can we have sex when staying PMO free
« on: June 23, 2019, 02:26:57 PM »
Hi all,

I don't think it is feasible for me to not have sex at all while fighting this battle of being PMO free. Is having sex going to harm the recovery?


cranm329

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Re: Question: Can we have sex when staying PMO free
« Reply #1 on: June 23, 2019, 02:46:40 PM »
Sex is not only going to cause no harm it can be healing. Try slow sex eg Tantra or Taoist.

allforone

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Re: Question: Can we have sex when staying PMO free
« Reply #2 on: June 24, 2019, 10:41:06 PM »
thanks. Great point about Tantra or Taoist.

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Re: Question: Can we have sex when staying PMO free
« Reply #3 on: July 08, 2019, 05:50:38 AM »
I agree that sex can be part of the healing.

I wondered about having sex early in the reboot, too, and it risked becoming an anxiety issue for me, especially since my wife had no notion of the source of my frequent ED and what I was undertaking here.

She initiated sex on day 24 of my no PMO.  I was not cured by any means but the performance was better than it had been in a while, allowing for a short period of penetration. The key was to keep my focus on my wife and her sources of pleasure, thinking back to those things we did early on in our sexual life. Lots of foreplay - the tantric approach, I guess, to build up her pleasure. [Key here -- her pleasure, not some video stranger's]. Afterwards, a clear message -- nothing to be anxious about -- the healing had started.

Day 986 no PMO .. stick with the program ,.. it works!

allforone

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Re: Question: Can we have sex when staying PMO free
« Reply #4 on: July 08, 2019, 10:04:14 PM »
thanks for great information and the encouragement JJ!