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Non-Dual Adventurer

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #25 on: July 11, 2019, 11:29:11 AM »
Great job! Yes napping and serving others are things that help me too. Keep on truckin', you're doing great!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #26 on: July 11, 2019, 02:16:11 PM »
The positivity you spread is contagious, it inspires me and others to do the same thing :) keep it up!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #27 on: July 11, 2019, 06:35:42 PM »
Awesome stuff! I know trying to help other with their recovery really helps me with mine too.

Keep doing what you're doing: you're making progress!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #28 on: July 12, 2019, 11:44:59 AM »
I am happy that i reached my goal of 9 days and even though i feel like i let myself down, that i am failure and a burden to the one reading this i am still progressing  :)

You're not a failure because of relapsing. This is an addiction, a disease. You are not able to overcome it by willpower, but by strategies and changes in life. This will work step by step. Your positive attitude and support are amazing, thank you for that and try to treat yourself the same way. You're an important and helpful member to this community and need consistency and patience to be successful. I know you can make it, start with small steps and goals again!  :)

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #29 on: July 16, 2019, 07:44:37 AM »
Day 7
Today was a victory  8)
These few days i decided to drastically reduce my internet time and do other activities for example playing outside with my friends and spending more time with my younger brothers. Today i remember how i spent a half hour laughing with them. There were times my brain was telling me to continue using the computer even though i was mentally exhausted by i decided to reply "whatever i can manage today is enough" these words have kept me sane and helped me to listen to my body when it is not able to do anymore
What am I grateful for today? My best part of my day is definitvely this morning since i spent some quality time with my two brothers  ;D ;D

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #30 on: July 16, 2019, 05:15:22 PM »
That's awesome! Glad to hear the good report!

I think it's a great idea to have a standard reply for your brain sometimes. I know my mind gets obsessed about not missing out on seeing an attractive woman walking by, but I know I don't have to ogle and that it will be okay for me and her if I just let her be. When my mind starts getting obsessive, I just say "It doesn't matter," so my mind can let it go.

Keep going!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #31 on: July 17, 2019, 11:13:07 AM »
That's great stuff man! I'm going to try and read more while I'm cutting my screen time. Feels good to be away from them for a while.

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #32 on: July 17, 2019, 11:16:00 AM »
That sounds like a great day! Whenever I can just get out of the house and enjoy the simple pleasures of life, I can literally feel my brain slowing down and be more at peace. It's very refreshing, and serves as a reminder that these things: quality time with others, will ALWAYS be more important than getting your fix on the computer. Best of luck as you continue your journey, you have my full support!

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #33 on: July 19, 2019, 07:25:27 AM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #34 on: July 19, 2019, 11:15:39 AM »
A two digit number of days again, look at your progress, if you made it there twice, you can make it even further! Use your positive attitude for yourself and believe in yourself, I know you can and will do it!  :)

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« Reply #35 on: July 20, 2019, 08:09:56 PM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

nice dude!! You're doing well, double digitsssss

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #36 on: July 20, 2019, 11:06:08 PM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

That's awesome! It's so great that you can be aware of your thoughts and recognize that there's a part of you that wants to relapse and that you choose not to anyway. That's a lot of good self-awareness and self-control.

Stay strong!

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #37 on: July 28, 2019, 10:42:27 AM »
Day 1
In the past week i have been in rumania and my father gave me access to his phone- you can guess what happened after  :(  Felt bored today but i was playing fifa and that kept me occupied :)
I am going back home on Tuesday and can't wait to meet my friends and family  :)
Family is not who's blood is in you, is who you love and who loves you.”- Jakie Chan I am glad to have some family here  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #38 on: July 28, 2019, 11:35:21 AM »
Get back on track again, it's about not giving up!  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #39 on: July 28, 2019, 06:53:27 PM »
Sorry to hear you ran into a little trouble, but I think it will be helpful to be back home and back in a sort of routine. I know I always feel more vulnerable when I'm traveling or doing something else that interrupts my self-defensive habits.

Tomorrow is a new day! Keep on keeping on!

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #40 on: July 29, 2019, 07:11:26 AM »
Day 2
Today was a victory- i love saying this  :)
I saw a woman after a came from a restaurant fortunately i was outside with my father and we were in a hurry to find a cafe- a bit of stress can be helpful at times  :)
I don't usually go out to eat so when we went to a restaurant it made me happy  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #41 on: July 30, 2019, 04:45:54 PM »
Day 2
Today was a victory- i love saying this  :)
I saw a woman after a came from a restaurant fortunately i was outside with my father and we were in a hurry to find a cafe- a bit of stress can be helpful at times  :)
I don't usually go out to eat so when we went to a restaurant it made me happy  :)

Nice!  Sounds like a great day.  Stay happy my friend and stay free!

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #42 on: August 01, 2019, 09:09:33 AM »
Day 5
Today was a victory :)
Triggers Yeah I looked a video for the first 3 seconds and i am happy i got out of there. It was a song video but that is not how the first 3 seconds felt like that. After leaving my brain wanted to go back to the video and expose myself to p i said no- i have come to far to go back now. I think the level of my positivity is slowly progressing day by day and it is helping me to fight my toxic thoughts. Just the way i would never allow a friend who is precious to me to be talked to in a bad day i am slowly getting there, of course there are times i have had some horrible thoughts. It all starts with a thought, time to have thoughts of me progressing even if it is by one second it would be enough to make me happy :)

The best part of my day was that after using the computer for 2 hours i went and took a walk, took a short nap and ate food. In the morning i saw a boy give a kiss to his mother on the forehead. It is always nice to know there are good people everywhere :)

Please remember to be gentle with yourself today, no one is perfect. You are good enough just the way you are :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #43 on: August 01, 2019, 06:14:20 PM »
I think the level of my positivity is slowly progressing day by day and it is helping me to fight my toxic thoughts. Just the way i would never allow a friend who is precious to me to be talked to in a bad day i am slowly getting there, of course there are times i have had some horrible thoughts. It all starts with a thought, time to have thoughts of me progressing even if it is by one second it would be enough to make me happy :)

Please remember to be gentle with yourself today, no one is perfect. You are good enough just the way you are :)

This is all fantastic! You're always so positive and encouraging here. I hope you take some time each day to be as positive and encouraging to yourself! Keep on treating yourself with kindness and living your best life and you won't have reason to resort to porn!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #44 on: August 02, 2019, 07:30:17 PM »
Hello fellow warrior.

I have been reading your story and i want to encourage you to persevere. Even if you relapse from time to time you will get stronger and it is an encouragement for me to see that you are Learning from the relapses. No one has started this journey and never relapsed, because there are traps that you are not even aware of, so you kinda have to walk in them to find them out.
But the important is to keep going, and every day you spend not fapping is a victory (i like the way you say it).

However, i think we should all have the mindset of quitting masturbation once and for all. The end goal should be that, and i think it will help us if we have a vission for the future. A vision of a completly porn free and fap free life.

I know i am giving advice that was not asked for, but i am kinda writing this for myslef too, so thank you  :)

Have a blessed day.

btw i started again today (just an other way to say i relapsed), and this time i want to succeed.
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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #45 on: August 08, 2019, 06:56:30 AM »
You two mean a lot more than you realize. Thank you very much :)
Day 12
Reached 2 digits! On the other hand i am starting to get a sleeping debt and today was a really hot today fortunately there i have been able to cool myself. Today i am going to play basketball with my younger brother. These past two days i have allowed myself to be vulnerable to other people, even though it felt uncomfortable, it helped me a lot. A close friend told me some cruel words. I wanted to give up on my streak and relapse but a kind friend told me not to forget who i am and as long as i face my fears i win :)

To the wonderful person reading i hope you are filled with so much happiness that it heals every part of you :) :) :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #46 on: August 08, 2019, 06:57:48 AM »
Good job, man. Never use porn for soothing. Porn doesn't soothe anything, it doesn't heal anything. Porn is a problem. It's actually one more problem we have to deal with, not a solution.

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #47 on: August 08, 2019, 06:26:27 PM »
These past two days i have allowed myself to be vulnerable to other people, even though it felt uncomfortable, it helped me a lot.

This is a great thing that I'm also working on. For so long, I felt like I had to keep everything a secret because what if somebody somehow found out about my addiction? Learning to communicate my thoughts and feelings is a difficult, uncomfortable thing, but I do know that it is probably a path to a better life (and better relationships).

Congrats on 12 days. Keep it up, and I hope you catch up on sleep!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #48 on: August 09, 2019, 10:51:26 AM »
Good to see you already made it further than during your last streak! All the best for you!

To the wonderful person reading i hope you are filled with so much happiness that it heals every part of you :) :) :)

And thanks for your always positive attitude on here!  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #49 on: August 09, 2019, 12:32:05 PM »
A positive attitude is the best place to start.