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Non-Dual Adventurer

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #25 on: July 11, 2019, 11:29:11 AM »
Great job! Yes napping and serving others are things that help me too. Keep on truckin', you're doing great!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #26 on: July 11, 2019, 02:16:11 PM »
The positivity you spread is contagious, it inspires me and others to do the same thing :) keep it up!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #27 on: July 11, 2019, 06:35:42 PM »
Awesome stuff! I know trying to help other with their recovery really helps me with mine too.

Keep doing what you're doing: you're making progress!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #28 on: July 12, 2019, 11:44:59 AM »
I am happy that i reached my goal of 9 days and even though i feel like i let myself down, that i am failure and a burden to the one reading this i am still progressing  :)

You're not a failure because of relapsing. This is an addiction, a disease. You are not able to overcome it by willpower, but by strategies and changes in life. This will work step by step. Your positive attitude and support are amazing, thank you for that and try to treat yourself the same way. You're an important and helpful member to this community and need consistency and patience to be successful. I know you can make it, start with small steps and goals again!  :)

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #29 on: July 16, 2019, 07:44:37 AM »
Day 7
Today was a victory  8)
These few days i decided to drastically reduce my internet time and do other activities for example playing outside with my friends and spending more time with my younger brothers. Today i remember how i spent a half hour laughing with them. There were times my brain was telling me to continue using the computer even though i was mentally exhausted by i decided to reply "whatever i can manage today is enough" these words have kept me sane and helped me to listen to my body when it is not able to do anymore
What am I grateful for today? My best part of my day is definitvely this morning since i spent some quality time with my two brothers  ;D ;D

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #30 on: July 16, 2019, 05:15:22 PM »
That's awesome! Glad to hear the good report!

I think it's a great idea to have a standard reply for your brain sometimes. I know my mind gets obsessed about not missing out on seeing an attractive woman walking by, but I know I don't have to ogle and that it will be okay for me and her if I just let her be. When my mind starts getting obsessive, I just say "It doesn't matter," so my mind can let it go.

Keep going!

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #31 on: July 17, 2019, 11:13:07 AM »
That's great stuff man! I'm going to try and read more while I'm cutting my screen time. Feels good to be away from them for a while.

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #32 on: July 17, 2019, 11:16:00 AM »
That sounds like a great day! Whenever I can just get out of the house and enjoy the simple pleasures of life, I can literally feel my brain slowing down and be more at peace. It's very refreshing, and serves as a reminder that these things: quality time with others, will ALWAYS be more important than getting your fix on the computer. Best of luck as you continue your journey, you have my full support!

Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #33 on: July 19, 2019, 07:25:27 AM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #34 on: July 19, 2019, 11:15:39 AM »
A two digit number of days again, look at your progress, if you made it there twice, you can make it even further! Use your positive attitude for yourself and believe in yourself, I know you can and will do it!  :)

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #35 on: July 20, 2019, 08:09:56 PM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

nice dude!! You're doing well, double digitsssss

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Re: Hang in there, the best is yet to come
« Reply #36 on: July 20, 2019, 11:06:08 PM »
You guys mean a lot more to me than you realize, all of you  :)
Day 10
Today was a victory  8)
It had been tougher than the previous days i started having flash backs from the last time i had a relapse and there was this voice telling me, well you remember it was enjoyable why not give it a trial and then todays wheather is soooooooooooooooooooo hot but then i decided to go out and meet some friends, spread some kindness in the forum and the urge slowly started going away. I felt my BIGGEST trigger was boredom today i had finished watching my favourite tv show and i was thinking of replacing it with porn but luckily it was a thought and we all have negative thoughts from time to time. I am try to argue with the negative thoughts but the most effective thing i have found out was it is best to go and talk to someone  :)

That's awesome! It's so great that you can be aware of your thoughts and recognize that there's a part of you that wants to relapse and that you choose not to anyway. That's a lot of good self-awareness and self-control.

Stay strong!