Can't maintain erection.

Hello myself Rahul and I am 27 years old.  I got married 4 months back to my partner with a relationship of 5 years.
we mutually decided to have intercourse after marriage. We both are virgins.

In the morning erection is normal , I can masturbate normally.
After marriage when I try to insert , I lose my erection instantly. I don't know what's causing this and I am not able to understand which is ruining our married life.
Another thing is that when she goes down on me I instantly get my erection back.
Now why I am writing here , the things is I am watching porn for more than 10 years and I prefer watching videos of oral sex and i masturbate to the same. I continued this even after my marriage.

I came across this forum and then decided to quit watching porn or see Instagram.

Before marriage when I used to put my hand on her vagina I was fine doing it when she was wearing her underpants but I used to hesitate a little when she wasn't wearing anything.

It stays hard while doing foreplay. If I try missionary position I lose erection completely so we decided to try cowgirl position in which I can maintain erection but she says she can't do it since it hurts a lot. And I lose erection after 2-3 tries.

Now I don't have any idea if this is performance anxiety or PIED.
I also tried Viagra but it didn't help me either.

Hi Rahul,

> Now I don't have any idea if this is performance anxiety or PIED.

It could be both. One can lead to the other. Your difficulties maintaining an erection during intercourse with your wife (caused by PIED) can cause shame, frustration and other negative emotions which become associated in your mind with the act of intercourse. This negative association can result in performance anxiety.

My suggestion:
1. Immediately stop pornography of any kind -- this should be obvious
2. Stop masturbating
3. Tell your wife about PIED and your performance anxiety
4. Spend time learning how to please your wife sexually

In time, your erections will return. Don't ever go back to porn.

Following sexual arousal, the blood vessels to the penis open up again, allowing the blood to leave.Erection problems occur when you can't achieve or maintain an erection that's firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Erection problems are also known as: erectile dysfunction (ED)