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Dobbers17

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The Journey of Freedom
« on: May 08, 2019, 02:11:38 PM »
Hey Guys! New here and wanted to write a bit about my journey in case it could help anyone. I'm a 27 year old guy from Minnesota and I have had PIED for the last few years without even realizing it. I'm encouraged by all of your stories and it helps SO much for me to hear you guys and realize how damaging this thing is. Just a side note, I am a Christian and everything I do or say is through a perspective of being in relationship with Christ.

So here's a few things about my story:

1. I've been looking at porn since 13 yo and started touching myself at 9. Have continued to masturbate consistently since.
2. Have had quite a few sexual encounters with woman but since I have become a Christ-follower, I'm waiting to have sex next till I'm married.
3. Stopped PMO in college for 2 years out of conviction but relapsed into the last few years where I have fallen into a huge pit of video chats, more extreme porn, and chronic masturbation.
4. Over the last year, have gone several months without PMO, but eventually fall back into it after around 2 months.
5. Am now on the longest stint I've been on this year with 3 months under my belt! This WILL be the rest of my life and I have no desire to look at porn ever again.

 I want to give a few tips for a successful recipe as I have gone LONG stints without PMO. They include:

1. For ME, staying in His presence and creating deeper intimacy together is the most important thing for me
2. Journaling my emotions and going to therapy once a month has helped me understand that I get the most tempted when I feel anxious/rejected
3. Connecting with people that I know deeply and who know me deeply
4. Lifting, playing sports, researching PIED more every week, having goals, going to bed/wake up early, eating healthy, stopping alcohol/tobacco, etc.
5. Add an expounding list of "why's" in terms of why I don't look at porn. Look at it EVERY time I'm tempted and it has talked me off the ledge more times than I can count

Hope this helps! Please please please don't give up and know that Jesus is for you and wants to walk with us as we beat this thing. You are loved.

Danny

« Last Edit: September 07, 2019, 10:48:35 AM by Dobbers17 »

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #1 on: July 01, 2019, 05:27:53 PM »
Hi Dobb!  Interesting background with an apparent paradigm shift in thinking.  How has it been going lately?  Take care!

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2019, 05:56:24 PM »
Dear Dobbers17

I created this account and writing just to say Thank You.

I am also a believer in Jesus and I have been blessed by your message. Particularly this part: "I read the Bible and have a relationship with Christ and His love and care for us blew me away when sat down and actually started reading the word and talking/listening to Him."

As I am someone who fails to escape porn repeatedly, I wrestle in my head for hours reading countless success stories and forum posts, but my best option is to Sit, Rest and Listen to what The Lord is telling me through his word.

I don't intend to come back here  because I believe I need a long time off the internet so I can learn to stay away from porn, (Unless I could have a success story for The Lord someday) but i want you to know this: Your message has been a real blessing to me, and I pray that God will encourage you that nothing you do for him will be in vain.

From Liam.

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #3 on: July 11, 2019, 08:18:07 PM »
Hi Dobb!  Interesting background with an apparent paradigm shift in thinking.  How has it been going lately?  Take care!

What's up man! They have been good - currently in a flatline but living in a ton of hope! :). I'm actually in Patagonia and to be totally real with ya, I masturbated 2 weeks ago after a girl kissed me at a hostel. I actually ended up stopping it and leaving cause as I mentioned, I love Jesus and know that's not an honoring thing to do to Him or the woman and I also KNEW I would O if it kept going. But I ended up masturbating after it anyways and that's where I currently am.. Not necessarily a "success" story anymore haha but it is to me. Only one morning wood but am stronger and moving forward! How's it going for you man?

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Re: PIED & porn addiction - 1 month clean from a Christian's perspective
« Reply #4 on: July 11, 2019, 08:21:52 PM »
Dear Dobbers17

I created this account and writing just to say Thank You.

I am also a believer in Jesus and I have been blessed by your message. Particularly this part: "I read the Bible and have a relationship with Christ and His love and care for us blew me away when sat down and actually started reading the word and talking/listening to Him."

As I am someone who fails to escape porn repeatedly, I wrestle in my head for hours reading countless success stories and forum posts, but my best option is to Sit, Rest and Listen to what The Lord is telling me through his word.

I don't intend to come back here  because I believe I need a long time off the internet so I can learn to stay away from porn, (Unless I could have a success story for The Lord someday) but i want you to know this: Your message has been a real blessing to me, and I pray that God will encourage you that nothing you do for him will be in vain.

From Liam.

SO GOOD dude! I am so glad it was encouraging - would love to hear your story sometime too. Know I'm praying for you tonight and believe 100% you're going to beat this thing. Best of luck staying away from the internet and pumped to hear your success story someday! Jesus loves you so much man and is in this with you!

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Re: PIED & porn addiction (From a Christ-Follower's Perspective)
« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2019, 07:05:52 AM »
Wow-Patagonia, that must be nice!  It is hard when moving around but try to keep the daily devotions alive.  Best wishes!

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Re: PIED & porn addiction (From a Christ-Follower's Perspective)
« Reply #6 on: August 23, 2019, 01:45:03 AM »
Hey Dobbers...I'm a Believer too. Been a Christian for a long time. I'm a porn addict. But I'm 15 days without PMO. I need to stay in the  Word...and your other advice was helpful. I'll pray for you...please pray for me. I want to beat this thing.

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Re: PIED & porn addiction (From a Christ-Follower's Perspective)
« Reply #7 on: September 07, 2019, 10:31:02 AM »
Hey Dobbers...I'm a Believer too. Been a Christian for a long time. I'm a porn addict. But I'm 15 days without PMO. I need to stay in the  Word...and your other advice was helpful. I'll pray for you...please pray for me. I want to beat this thing.
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Absolutely dude! You got this - keep it alive, brother! Praying for you.. You WILL beat it! All of your sin was nailed to the cross, it's not you who lives, but Christ through you. Just as an encouragement, I feel like I need to tell you that he's not "mad" at you. He wants to walk hand in hand with you to freedom. He removed sin once and for all, as far as East is from the West. He just wants to see you be free and it's for YOUR benefit that you get free.

Love you brother - Keep the faith.

Danny

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Re: The Journey of Freedom
« Reply #8 on: September 09, 2019, 09:48:13 PM »
Do you ever fapped after rebooting for a month or while. If yes how you handled your failure?.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.