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ToBeOrNotToBe

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Is this good rewiring?
« on: April 22, 2019, 10:07:05 AM »
Hey guys,

I'm almost 200 days into my reboot (no PMO, but last orgasm a little more than three months ago) because I couldn't get hard without stimulation. I have a girlfriend and she knows about everything.

What we do in order to rewire my brain is cuddling, kissing and basically everything which doesn't involve my dick. What I'm wondering is the following: The last time we spent time together in bed, I didn't get hard even though I really enjoyed the situation. After a while she accidentally touched my penis and didn't remove her hand. Instead, she started stroking it really gently, so there was almost no stimulation at all. I didn't want her to take her hand off my dick either because at this moment, I simply enjoyed the feeling of my penis being touched (which doesn't happen too often, after all). The result was that I got hard and she gave me a blowjob (without O, though). It was really intense and reminded me why I'm going through this shit.

Now my question. I'm still far from being cured, so could getting an erection caused by soft stimulation be harmful for my reboot? I mean I didn't make it hard on my own, really only enjoyed the sensation and didn't think of porn at that moment. On the other hand, don't I have to wait until my dick gets hard without ANY physical stimulation?

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2019, 08:40:32 PM »
Perfectly fine in my book. You are not a boner dispenser. And it seems like, you are in your head a lot when it comes to having erections and 'functioning properly'. Stress and not being in the moment are huge boner killers, so I would advise you and your gf to keep on doing what you're doing.

Best of luck!
nine months clean and counting...

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2019, 09:28:25 AM »
I wouldn't do it. Any intentional orgasm will throw you back until you finally get out of the total flatline.

On the other hand, don't I have to wait until my dick gets hard without ANY physical stimulation?

^ Yes that is how a proper erection should be. Keep abstaining until you fully get out of the flatline. And when i say fully out of flatline i mean when you stop going in and out of flatlines.

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2019, 08:20:07 AM »
Thank you both for your replies.

@Guts, I agree that an intentional orgasm would possibly throw me back. That's why I didn't cum. I simply enjoyed the feeling and knew there wouldn't be an orgasm. Do you still think this is "bad" behaviour?

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2019, 09:58:54 AM »
Thank you both for your replies.

@Guts, I agree that an intentional orgasm would possibly throw me back. That's why I didn't cum. I simply enjoyed the feeling and knew there wouldn't be an orgasm. Do you still think this is "bad" behaviour?

Yes, I do. You need a complete break from any stimulation. You could have come very close to orgasm, I wouldn't risk it.

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #5 on: April 24, 2019, 06:34:32 PM »
I wouldn't do it. Any intentional orgasm will throw you back until you finally get out of the total flatline.

On the other hand, don't I have to wait until my dick gets hard without ANY physical stimulation?

^ Yes that is how a proper erection should be. Keep abstaining until you fully get out of the flatline. And when i say fully out of flatline i mean when you stop going in and out of flatlines.

Can orgasm throw you into flatline?

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #6 on: April 24, 2019, 07:12:36 PM »
I wouldn't do it. Any intentional orgasm will throw you back until you finally get out of the total flatline.

On the other hand, don't I have to wait until my dick gets hard without ANY physical stimulation?

^ Yes that is how a proper erection should be. Keep abstaining until you fully get out of the flatline. And when i say fully out of flatline i mean when you stop going in and out of flatlines.

Can orgasm throw you into flatline?

Yes, completely. How have you not known this Scorpion, you've been on here for 3 years lol. You can't gauge that on your own?

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Re: Is this good rewiring?
« Reply #7 on: April 24, 2019, 07:16:42 PM »
I wouldn't do it. Any intentional orgasm will throw you back until you finally get out of the total flatline.

On the other hand, don't I have to wait until my dick gets hard without ANY physical stimulation?

^ Yes that is how a proper erection should be. Keep abstaining until you fully get out of the flatline. And when i say fully out of flatline i mean when you stop going in and out of flatlines.

Can orgasm throw you into flatline?

Yes, completely. How have you not known this Scorpion, you've been on here for 3 years lol. You can't gauge that on your own?

Sorry. :-( General anxiety/worry.