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1 year pmo free.
« on: April 23, 2019, 05:13:19 PM »
Hi everyone. I am very active on the page, I dont post to much but I do read and give my opinions on things. I have some questions and if anyone had any for me I can input as well. Needles to say even after 1 year npmo I still have ED.. I havent been sexually active for over a year. This ordeal caused me marriage to fall apart and I am still going thru the process.  I am in not hurry or want to be sexual with anyone right now. But I hope that benefits me in curing my problem. I think the biggest thing that helped me stay away is the fact that I hit rock bottom and lost my marriage. Sucks it took that but it deff opened my eyes. I got off Facebook... and that helped a lot... I spend 90% of my time in the gym after work and have made big changes in myself physically. My big question... is when do we actually determine we are cured? When do we know? Should I wait till I see mental signs? I want to wait till my divorce is over with before I try seeing progress just because I loved my marriage and dont want to dishonor it any more than I have already. Thanks

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #1 on: April 24, 2019, 10:43:37 AM »
Congrats on 1 year free! That is incredible, and it sounds like you're taking care of yourself and living a healthy life. As to your question of "how do we determine we are cured? Should you wait to see mental signs? These questions are answered here:

http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=70.msg370#msg370

Hope that helps. We've seen people need longer than a year and still recover. If you haven't already, read through the FAQ's and watch our videos for more tips and advice that may clear up some of your questions.
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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2019, 10:45:18 AM »
Hey Redfire your posts have helped me alot and have kept me from relapsing many times so i just want to say thank you. How do you know you still have ED? What progress have you seen? Do your erections stay when you stand up? I would just keep going for a few more months.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2019, 11:09:55 AM »
Thanks Gabe... I am deff working hard on myself and it has been great. I try not to let this issue slow me down and it doesn't. I usually try not to stress about things and have lived by that my whole life.

Guts..glad i can help. only thing I can say is i just feel that i am not healed. I can still look at attractive women and not show any signs.. now idk if that matter at all but that's my take on it. Also i never get random erections. I do occasionally get morning wood maybe once last week and I can say it seemed to have last longer standing up. But if it did it was not much longer than normal.  The wet dreams have slowed down... I do have a hard time fully understanding the flatiline I dont always know exactly when I am in one until I really feel like my penis fell the fuck off. Lol I am prepared to wait another year if i must. My wife was very important to me and losing her has shown me a path I never wanted to experience and it's not that easy for me to just move on with my life or it wont be as real for me. We have two small children that I try to focus on and i just tell myself they are more important to me than being in a relationship right now.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2019, 11:27:36 AM »
Also I would say I had a sevier case of PIED... could not get erection with porn had to stimulate for a period of time before I would get hard and as soon as I stopped I would lose it. I was completely dead with my penis... I had a normal sex life at 18 years old... but I lost my virginity at 18 and was sexually active for 4 months and I broke it off with the girl... I then went into porn heavy I mean multiple times a day for a full year and met the girl who eventually became my wife and if it was not for ED meds we wouldn't have lasted as long as we did. I am now almost 27... so I have had pied since I was 19.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #5 on: April 24, 2019, 06:15:39 PM »
Redfire03, did you ever have an orgasm and then flatline after during any part of this process or before you rebooted?

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #6 on: April 24, 2019, 06:42:43 PM »
I cant accurately answer that question... prior to the reboot I didnt know anything about this or track anything. I just took ED meds and had sex as much as I could. But the performance of the sex was always random never consistent.  I havent had a orgasim in over a year.. I havent had sex in probably a year and a half give or take. I have had a lot of wet dreams... more the first 6 months into my reboot I would say. They slowed down since then.

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« Reply #7 on: April 24, 2019, 06:46:23 PM »
I cant accurately answer that question... prior to the reboot I didnt know anything about this or track anything. I just took ED meds and had sex as much as I could. But the performance of the sex was always random never consistent.  I havent had a orgasim in over a year.. I havent had sex in probably a year and a half give or take. I have had a lot of wet dreams... more the first 6 months into my reboot I would say. They slowed down since then.

I see. Have you seen any progress in the 1 year reboot? Sorry if it seems like I'm asking something you may or may not have already answered.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #8 on: April 24, 2019, 06:52:44 PM »
Not really any significant changes in my opinion.  I didnt expect any either.. I mean 1 year of full blown porn acoma put me here 7 years ago.... and the past 7 years on top o constantly masterbate not knowing what the hell I was doing... so I didnt expect a year to cure it. I just know that I will never view porn ever again and focus on me.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #9 on: April 24, 2019, 07:16:17 PM »
Not really any significant changes in my opinion.  I didnt expect any either.. I mean 1 year of full blown porn acoma put me here 7 years ago.... and the past 7 years on top o constantly masterbate not knowing what the hell I was doing... so I didnt expect a year to cure it. I just know that I will never view porn ever again and focus on me.

Yeah it will take a while. I'm 12 years of doing porn and I'm just learning to stop now. Might be a while too.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #10 on: April 24, 2019, 07:24:25 PM »
I really hope one day this is pushed and view as a on going issue with the upcoming millenials.  Because it can ruin a lot and I can see it causing suicides. It really mess with your mental health in my opinion.

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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #11 on: April 25, 2019, 06:03:13 AM »
I really hope one day this is pushed and view as a on going issue with the upcoming millenials.  Because it can ruin a lot and I can see it causing suicides. It really mess with your mental health in my opinion.

True that. I was suicidal/depressed all my twenties because of my ED. The worst part was that I didn't know what caused it and I thought I was simply cursed. When I found out about PIED, I was so thankful because it all made sense all of a sudden...
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Re: 1 year pmo free.
« Reply #12 on: April 25, 2019, 06:20:15 AM »
I agree. I am lucky that I didnt have those thoughts, I just was like wtf.lol my damn luck. But once I found this I was ok... this means stop it... that old saying you play with it... it will fall off we heard growing up.. well it just about true other than it actually falling off. Oh well.. we just know now what not to do and we move on and better our selves. Just never look back.