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jixu

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I guess every form of refuge has its price
« on: March 24, 2019, 04:23:19 PM »
 
   Two weeks or so into the forum now-came here by the "must read" Your Brain on Porn.

    50 years plus old, never a daily user but more of the sporadic use while looking for relief from work stress.  Although I never did web cams, escorts, strip clubs etc the plain old vanilla stuff was more than sufficient to push me into discouragement, shame, and defeat. 

    At first I just focused on stress reduction, but, in this life, that is a losing battle.  Stress is going to come no matter what we do; the key is properly handling the stress.  We all know one way that doesn't work, the reason we are here.  I have recently seen the great power that encouragement can bring, and that is why this forum is so helpful to us.

    As a practical matter, I have found having an accountability partner to be a big help.  it doesn't have to be some 2 hour meet-up at Denny's; just a simple weekly report or staying in touch is helpful.  However, beware-I have previously lied to my AP, and it is no guarantee to help you if you don't use honesty and commitment. 

    No more heading to the cheating side of town.  You can't hide your Lyin' Eyes.

     Best wishes to all the fighters and warriors out there.  If you have recently stumbled, get back up.  if you are doing strong and great-keep on keeping on. It is an honor to be in your midst.   
     


jixu

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2019, 07:30:27 AM »
Day 25 clean

Was able to handle a couple of bad stress days from work.  This battle is so worth it in so many ways.  Stay strong everybody!

If you have recently stumbled, get back up today-now!   

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2019, 10:20:02 AM »
Good work Jixu. Being able to cope with with those stressful days in other ways than PMO is a good victory. Keep at it!

jixu

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2019, 06:21:36 PM »
BigMog, you are so right about stress!  Thanks for the encouragement !

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #4 on: April 08, 2019, 03:56:23 AM »
25 days and counting. That's great progress. Reads like you have your foundations set up really well. Good luck and stay strong. You can do it.

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #5 on: April 10, 2019, 09:56:00 AM »
25 days is huge but it will even get better. Stick to the game plan and keep racking up those days!

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #6 on: April 10, 2019, 02:44:41 PM »
Well done going 25 days

jixu

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #7 on: April 10, 2019, 06:08:48 PM »
Thanks for the encouragement WIP, Pete, and Cranm.  Keep going strong you guys!   

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #8 on: April 17, 2019, 07:17:51 AM »

Day 35 clean

Doing pretty decent most of the time but am battling an old enemy of mine-procrastination.  I am good at tackling the big stuff but tend to let a bunch of little things pile up and then I can get discouraged by it.  Need to hit the ground running in the morning instead of dallying around.  In other words, some of the personal and employment stress I encounter is self-induced!  How dumb is that ? Anyway, the over-all fight is progressing ok and the battle is worth it !       

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #9 on: April 21, 2019, 07:05:42 AM »
Nice to hear, you're staying strong. Remember, don't try to tackle all problems at once. Small steps and build from there! Take care!