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Chris Oz

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #175 on: September 28, 2020, 07:55:29 AM »
Good one on 28days jixiu

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« Reply #176 on: September 28, 2020, 11:21:44 AM »
Well done on the awesome streak, man.

Hard to see any downside to getting outside.  Maybe nature helps us see how small we are in the big scheme of things.
 

   

It's getting cold and dark where I live; so this is a good reminder. I gotta wrap up and get out there. Yesterday I was home alone most of the day. All I did was one short walk around the block.

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« Reply #177 on: September 28, 2020, 04:51:28 PM »
I can only concur with the arguments presented by the scientists.  We need Nature and Nature needs us.

For those in doubt or on the fence about this I would suggest this: decide to devote an entire morning or afternoon off from work.  Head out into a nature path somewhere in or out of the city.  Some cities, granted, are better organized than others, but still... if one takes the time to figure this out, one can find something.  A great big park, a small hill or mountain, a riverside path or a beach, a botanical garden, any trail that has abundant greenery and is free from any cars.  Take the time you need, but if all you have is one hour then I promise you will reap plenty of rewards, enough time to enjoy the surroundings, the cleaner air, the adventure of setting out and getting a fresh new perspective:

Maybe nature helps us see how small we are in the big scheme of things.

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« Reply #178 on: September 30, 2020, 12:06:35 AM »
Jixu - Nature seems to suit you, my friend. If that's your ticket out of this stifling "faptropolis" (I'm pretty proud of that one), by all means, get out and enjoy the great outdoors. You're doing great!

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« Reply #179 on: September 30, 2020, 05:05:34 AM »
Doing good at making sure the unwelcome and inevitable intrusive thoughts that arrive don't linger long enough to become urges.  The last few days I have been shaking off a cold but rest and some nice home-made soups have revived me! Hope that is my only brush with respiratory ailments for the foreseeable future.

Thanks guys for your encouragement and comments about nature.  I am going outside now to scan the heavens and constellations and see if I can spot that harbinger of autumn, Orion.   

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« Reply #180 on: October 09, 2020, 04:03:28 PM »
Yeah, I think it's a really nice thing to do, observing the heavens. Noticing nature is really good for the mind. Most humans forget to.

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« Reply #181 on: October 15, 2020, 08:18:54 AM »
  "You can always count on the Americans to do the right thing - after they have tried everything else."   Winston Churchill

Is Mr. Churchill's comment a criticism or a praise?  It is probably both I think, and I find it useful for the business at hand.

It means to me that we have to keep at it and make some adjustments along the way.  Some things might work for one person but not for another.  Also, it seems like we have to take assessments of what we are doing.  For me, I have had to cut recreational web time down; I also added an extra exercise routine that is only a few minutes but is quite helpful.  Maybe it might mean giving up the "must see" series with provocative scenes that "everybody" is talking about.  Maybe it involves something simple like turning this way at work (and thereby giving up the chance to see the new hot chick in cube number 7) instead of turning that way.  At any rate, keep going and be on the lookout for things that could be modified in a beneficial way. Maybe it isn't even some huge big drastic change but something very simple. 

I am at day forty-nine but in the spirit of "rounding up" and motivation for tomorrow I'll call it fifty.  Take care all and have a clean day!

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« Reply #182 on: October 17, 2020, 04:17:40 PM »
Great job on "doing the right thing" and making the necessary adjustments to your life. Also, congrats on 50+ days clean. You're really making some great progress here, Jixu!

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« Reply #183 on: October 18, 2020, 06:19:55 PM »
Hi LIGA-thanks for the encouragement.  Let's have a great week!

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« Reply #184 on: October 18, 2020, 06:32:15 PM »
Really amazing milestone you hit Jixu.  Keep it rolling.  Nature is a really great way to get some new thoughts processing in your brain, and I comment you for finding that as a solution to investing time in the alternative negative options. 

I am pulling for you buddy! 

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« Reply #185 on: October 18, 2020, 06:56:22 PM »
Thanks TooMuch.  Hope you can find some great nature places as well!  Keep up the good fight!

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« Reply #186 on: October 19, 2020, 12:35:39 PM »
cut recreational web time down; I also added an extra exercise routine that is only a few minutes but is quite helpful.  Maybe it might mean giving up the "must see" series with provocative scenes that "everybody" is talking about.  Maybe it involves something simple like turning this way at work (and thereby giving up the chance to see the new hot chick in cube number 7) instead of turning that way.  At any rate, keep going and be on the lookout for things that could be modified in a beneficial way. Maybe it isn't even some huge big drastic change but something very simple. 


 

Well done on the milestone, mate. And yes, keep tweaking that system and making progress - that's the answer!

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« Reply #187 on: October 19, 2020, 01:41:37 PM »
Thanks Joel-I have been inspired by your own efforts at web detox! 

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« Reply #188 on: October 29, 2020, 06:39:59 AM »
The days were moving by pretty uneventfully until about a week ago when a series of relentless urges and triggers engulfed me.  I fought them off for a few days but finally resorted to self-deception and then a couple of days later gave in.  This streak was 62 days and I'm just going to keep going and feel good about the good days and learn what I can from it!  No binge and back to the battle.

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« Reply #189 on: October 29, 2020, 06:55:51 AM »
You did good Jixui, you can do it again.

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« Reply #190 on: October 30, 2020, 05:22:59 AM »
Sure is quiet out here on the western front-hope everyone stays engaged and does not grow weary!

Thanks Chris-keep pushing brother!

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #191 on: October 30, 2020, 09:53:03 AM »
Jixu-It has been kind of quiet lately, I agree. On my own front, I have been fighting a losing battle against time. The demands of work coupled with the shorter, darker, colder days of autumn has taken a toll on my motivation to check in as often as I used to, but I need to change that.

You've got the right attitude about this. Keep plugging away and don't let this latest setback shake you. You have shown before that you can go the distance against this lying cheating scumbag bitch of a habit, and you will do so again. Full confidence in you, friend.
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« Reply #192 on: October 30, 2020, 10:54:00 AM »
Thanks for the encouragement Let It Go.  My own view is that anyone who is here, no matter what their streak or no streak is, is way ahead of the game.  Sometimes it starts small, and starts today!    Fall can be hard, but I kind of like the new crispness, cradling a warm beverage and dreaming of the aroma of burning leaves (when I was a kid you could burn them at home in your yard, no one cared!)

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Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« Reply #193 on: November 01, 2020, 01:29:54 PM »
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My own view is that anyone who is here, no matter what their streak or no streak is, is way ahead of the game.  Sometimes it starts small, and starts today!

Agreed. It's not easy taking that crucial first step of admitting weakness and reaching out for help. Beyond that, it's our commitment to personal growth and fostering growth in others that puts us ahead of the game, not just our days clean. Well done moving forward with a solid growth mindset, Jixu. You're doing great!
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« Reply #194 on: November 03, 2020, 06:16:28 PM »
Violated my rules against recreational web surfing and got burned.  I have been doing pretty good recently at reducing web time so I'm staying positive and driving on.  If you want to stay out of harm, stay out of harm's way!

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« Reply #195 on: November 13, 2020, 07:02:33 AM »
Struggling a bit to get up and running again but feel good about staying committed.   

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« Reply #196 on: November 13, 2020, 12:18:56 PM »
Good work getting back in the saddle, jixu. I feel that something new helps me kick off a new streak - whether it's a new resource, habit or system - e.g. buying a new, highly praised self-help book and working through the exercises. See you tomorrow!

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« Reply #197 on: November 15, 2020, 08:36:18 AM »
Thanks Joel.  I like your idea of a "new" input and have added a new book into my line-up for a fresh perspective on the battle.  Best wishes to you as well. 

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« Reply #198 on: November 18, 2020, 04:12:37 AM »
Hey Jixu,

What exactly happened with the recreational web surfing? Also, what was different these past two weeks in comparison to your previous 62 days streak? Nevertheless I am glad to see that you are back on the horse again.

Stay safe and stay strong!

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« Reply #199 on: November 18, 2020, 06:00:14 AM »
Hi Shade!  As for recreational web time, mostly I just let my guard down and got careless about following my own guidelines.  At the same time I can see that I was being a little less than "thorough" with my accountability partner-a huge component in my effort.  Glad to be going better now.  Take care!

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