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Uk65tantra
« on: March 12, 2019, 09:48:46 AM »
Joined today. 45y of addiction and  previous SSA issues.
Married. Both using tantric approach to P. and desensitisation effects with early signs of recovery.
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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #1 on: March 12, 2019, 05:51:25 PM »
End of Day 1:
No P or M. I will not report O. as private to relationship and unhelpful in this forum. Tantric O.  is different experience to that in intentional climax anyway, so irrelevant to PMO record.

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #2 on: March 13, 2019, 09:09:27 AM »
I will not report O. as private to relationship and unhelpful in this forum. Tantric O.  is different experience to that in intentional climax anyway, so irrelevant to PMO record.

It's your recovery and nobody else's right? Report it however you want to.... as long as you're not using.

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #3 on: March 13, 2019, 11:52:31 AM »
Thanks. I might mention the O element later if it would help others. It is fundamental to the tantric approach that we have taken to my addiction problem.

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #4 on: March 13, 2019, 03:50:24 PM »
 Day 2: No PM.
Woke up aroused after dreams. Not able to spend time together because visitors came early.
Lunchtime meeting was source of anxiety but went positively. No urges.
Exercise with friends in afternoon was good and helpful distraction.
Did not go in changing rooms at sports centre or look at other users.
Tired in evening; danger time in past. Will do tai chi while wife watches TV.

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #5 on: March 13, 2019, 06:31:02 PM »
May I ask how the Tantric O is different? Is this an O where the prana energy is not outwardly released but instead held within the pranayama circuit, drawn upward through the spine to higher centers as in Kundalini Yoga? This is done while in relationship and in the embrace of one’s lover? Correct?

Is this practice of spiritual O what you are referring to?

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #6 on: March 13, 2019, 07:19:29 PM »
Basically yes. Tantric (slow) sex. O without ejac. Takes practice (great fun too )
Gradual healing of friction induced insensitivity and O based intention problems
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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #7 on: March 14, 2019, 04:01:42 PM »
 :)
Day 3: No PM
Another tricky, hard night. Woke up and had to consciously keep hands off.
Stayed busy & occupied through day. Active sport session again this afternoon helped burn off some physical and mental energy.
Kept eyes on ball at sports centre.
More tai chi this evening to spread sexual energy round microcosmic orbit. This should move chakra energy from root and sacral centres to heart and head. Don't understand how it works or helps. Even if it is just mind over matter it definitely feels better afterwards.
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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #8 on: March 15, 2019, 04:10:15 PM »
Day 4: No PM
'Hard' start to the day. Had a very good morning and nearly managed to keep control at the last moment.
Takes a lot of practice. Felt present throughout with no distractions or fantasy thoughts.
Nice to go out for meal midday.
Sport again with friends. No triggers or distractions.
More tai chi tonight. Definitely feel more energetic and mentally balanced. This and eating better diet with increased nitrite & nitrate have improved my sexual function and reduced the need to look for outside stimulation.
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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #9 on: March 16, 2019, 12:46:09 PM »
Day 5: No PM
Another disclosure discussion this morning. Not easy for either of us.
Past events (my acting out) clarified. Realised more of deep impact of childhood experiences. Agreed to use internet devices only when wife is present as added protection.
Wet windy day causing cabin fever so pressure washed car. Menial activities can be a,useful distraction.
No triggers but feel unsettled by this morning's talk.
Amazing bath last night. It's good to appreciate one another.
« Last Edit: March 16, 2019, 12:57:49 PM by cranm329 »

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #10 on: March 17, 2019, 01:17:33 PM »
Day 6: No PM
Fairly stress free day. No triggers or major urges. Tired  because we discussed some heavy stuff in bed up to 1am. Not a good idea. Keep bed and meal times free of important issues.
Up relatively early for sport so no intimacy. Libido all over the place. Feels like jungle warfare with my brain being a hidden sniper waiting to take an addiction shot at any moment.
Keep body & mind active. Vigilance with eyes front.
Tai chi with Chinese music seemed to help with focus, relaxation and positivity. Feels a bit like having night vision. Able to spot enemy mental impulses before they get strong enough to do harm.
« Last Edit: March 17, 2019, 05:44:31 PM by cranm329 »

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Re: Uk65tantra
« Reply #11 on: March 18, 2019, 03:07:47 PM »
Day 7: No PM
Libido and mood getting lower. Guess this is flat lining. Must be careful that I don't get triggered when feeling like this. Flashes and flickers of temptation mainly on TV. Cannot be bothered to respond. Not interested any more. Sex is no longer 'out there' in other people's lives. P was so invasive breaking through the barriers of other people's privacy even if they were deliberately opening up their sex lives to others.