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TheTr0jan1

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South African Rebooter
« on: January 08, 2019, 03:00:34 PM »
Hi Everyone! I have recently decided to take back control of my life!

My name is Byron and I am from Johannesburg, South Africa.

It wasn't very long ago that South Africa was only touching on dial-up Internet let alone high-speed fibre, however in the past 10 to 15 years progress in internet accessibility and connectivity has developed at lightning speeds.

For most of my life up until about the age of 23 I was pretty much unexposed to porn except for the occasional bunch of pics - or on rare occasion a video.

So since about the age of 7 I used my hands and my mind to get off as and when I wanted (it was natural afterall!).

BUT, as soon as I had access to ever increasing internet speeds and internet porn that was becoming evermore accessible and easy to find - I started to make use of it more and more and more.

I am a successful young professional, but not whole, I am good at my work life, but have not really "gotten out there"and dated as much as other men my age have - I have had 3 girlfriends of a sort with a sexual experience (with a partner) level that is marginal at best. This is definitly due to my dysfunctional relationship with PMO. It was all I needed, why get a girlfriend/boyfriend?

From the age of 23 up until now, my porn addiction steadily devolved into what I can only describe as the single biggest impediment to me leading a happy and fulfilled life.

I stopped taking interest in girls (or boys, not sure which I like to be honest) and started developing all kinds of sexual fetishes and dysfunctions which I wrongly attributed to other causes (stress, medication side-effects, "maybe I just wanna be intimate with people?", started to sexualise people in my mind - the list goes on.

It was only very recently in 2018 that I started to notice the effects of my prolonged and dysfunctional relationship with internet porn; I was fapping just because I could or because I was feeling low and needed a fix, I would browse for hours and then would battle to get off. This became such a marked pattern that it started to concern me as I had to work harder and harder to get hard and then even harder still to get off.

I recently started dating and the full effects came to the fore when it was time for me to perform, and I was dumbstruck at how ineffective I was and the anxiety and angst it caused me over the ensuing days.

I started to do some research and came across www.rebootnation.com and YBOP and decided to take back control after I remembered that I had, by coincidence and due to a very bad bladder/prostate infection, completed what I now know to be called a no-PMO challenge of my own in the later half of 2018 and once I had gotten better I had noticed that some of my porn induced ailments had diminished and others had vanished (was getting morning wood, penile sensitivity was returning etc.)

I have recently officially started my reboot! - 5 DAYS NO-PMO
Did I use porn today? - NO
What were my triggers? - TV
How did I soothe my anxiety or stress? - Decided to sign-up to this site and go read the r/NoFap subreddit for motivation and to give support.
What am I grateful for today? - I am grateful that I was able to steer my energies towards something constructive that will benefit me and those I care about in the long run.

Wish me luck!

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #1 on: January 12, 2019, 06:59:59 AM »
8 Days in so far!

Haven't really had any urges other than the "checking" and being conscious of my triggers and what triggers me!

I'm just glad that I have gotten over the blue balls! ;D

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #2 on: January 12, 2019, 07:12:58 AM »
What's up, man!

Your story and my story present similarities. I started masturbating when I was younger than 10 years old, as well. I discovered Internet porn when I was 16.

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #3 on: January 12, 2019, 12:55:01 PM »
What's up, man!

Your story and my story present similarities. I started masturbating when I was younger than 10 years old, as well. I discovered Internet porn when I was 16.

Im glad that my story is not unique - means I'm not as alone as I thought!  :) How is your no PMO coming along? Seen any success?

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #4 on: January 12, 2019, 01:50:39 PM »
What's up, man!

Your story and my story present similarities. I started masturbating when I was younger than 10 years old, as well. I discovered Internet porn when I was 16.

Im glad that my story is not unique - means I'm not as alone as I thought!  :) How is your no PMO coming along? Seen any success?

When it comes to addiction, stories start to look the same for many people.

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #5 on: January 20, 2019, 09:38:51 AM »
Today is my 16 days of no PMO!

Supper happy with my progress and am still remaining strong! Starting to identify more triggers to avoid!

My gym and running are going very well and my energy and enthusiasm levels are getting better every day!

I am going from strength to strength so far  :D :D

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #6 on: January 20, 2019, 10:18:04 AM »
Today is my 16 days of no PMO!

Supper happy with my progress and am still remaining strong! Starting to identify more triggers to avoid!

My gym and running are going very well and my energy and enthusiasm levels are getting better every day!

I am going from strength to strength so far  :D :D

That's great progress, man.

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« Reply #7 on: January 20, 2019, 11:02:07 AM »
Today is my 16 days of no PMO!

Supper happy with my progress and am still remaining strong! Starting to identify more triggers to avoid!

My gym and running are going very well and my energy and enthusiasm levels are getting better every day!

I am going from strength to strength so far  :D :D

That's great progress, man.

Thanks man!

I am now reading up on what I can do to help restore sensitivity to my glans from my earlier developed death grip and resultant DE. I am circumcised so I used to be pretty rough on myself, always without lube, before starting my reboot.

You heard of anything that could help?

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #8 on: January 20, 2019, 12:26:49 PM »
You masturbated rough? I've never tried that. I took care of my dick :));D

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2019, 09:50:57 AM »
You masturbated rough? I've never tried that. I took care of my dick :));D

Yeah, rubbing up against your pillow, bed etc. meant I needed to be more rough as time went on, lube just didnt give the right level of stimulation.

You took care of your dick? How did you take acre of it?? Are you also circumcised?? Thats what I wanna know  :) :)'I've been reading up on some guys using cocnut oil to help soften the skin and bring back sensation, but not sure if it will actually work... :-\

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #10 on: January 21, 2019, 09:58:29 AM »
You masturbated rough? I've never tried that. I took care of my dick :));D

Yeah, rubbing up against your pillow, bed etc. meant I needed to be more rough as time went on, lube just didnt give the right level of stimulation.

You took care of your dick? How did you take acre of it?? Are you also circumcised?? Thats what I wanna know  :) :)'I've been reading up on some guys using cocnut oil to help soften the skin and bring back sensation, but not sure if it will actually work... :-\

Ah, no, I wanted to say that I took care of my dick by not masturbating too rough. I didn't need that in order to be addicted, anyway :))))

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #11 on: January 21, 2019, 10:03:23 AM »
You masturbated rough? I've never tried that. I took care of my dick :));D

Yeah, rubbing up against your pillow, bed etc. meant I needed to be more rough as time went on, lube just didnt give the right level of stimulation.

You took care of your dick? How did you take acre of it?? Are you also circumcised?? Thats what I wanna know  :) :)'I've been reading up on some guys using cocnut oil to help soften the skin and bring back sensation, but not sure if it will actually work... :-\

Ah, no, I wanted to say that I took care of my dick by not masturbating too rough. I didn't need that in order to be addicted, anyway :))))

Ah ok, lucky you!  8) Do you have an opinion on the coconut oil?

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #12 on: January 21, 2019, 11:15:01 AM »
Do you have an opinion on the coconut oil?

No. I've no idea.

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #13 on: January 22, 2019, 02:46:21 PM »
I am on day 18 and still going strong!

Have had some urges, thinking about the person I started dating just before I started my reboot, but I refuse to give up my gains!

Getting morning wood more regularly now, and I'm getting more no apparent reason boners (narb's).

Learning more about my triggers too and discovering new ones everyday.

No PMO shall prevail!!!

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #14 on: January 24, 2019, 10:05:57 AM »
20 days finally!

For the last two nights I have been exceptionally horny! Rock hard erections when I sleep and I have even discovered in some cases that I am so hard and aroused that upon being woken up I actually have pre-cum oozing out of my dick! Just a flex and I feel I could ejaculate hands free!

The blue balls that I have after waking up are terrible!

I sleep naked, maybe I should start wearing some boxer-briefs to hold everything together and prevent rubbing against my sheets, might help? I think my head is regaining some sensitivity which might be why I'm getting all these hard-ons, mostly at night when I'm in bed!

Other than the above, I am still going strong! Pain meds and exercise!  8) 8)

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Re: South African Rebooter
« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2019, 02:23:15 PM »
Day 21 and I have started with the involuntary discharges... lol!

I get a tingle in my dick and deeper in my pelvis, almost like when you get so horny that you could almost cum in your pants, then I feel what I think is a very small bit of pee enter my urethra and when I rush off to the bathroom and push it out, its not pee but ejaculate, clear ejaculate.

Seems to happen when I stand up after sitting on my very uncomfortable work chair for a few hours...

Also had a discharge on the toilet after a number 2... lol! the joys of a reboot!