Awesome! Man you are right that was super fast... I finally got around the chapter one today lol. I do believe what we consume effects how we think and act. So you made a huge investment in yourself there, listening to great positive stuff is an awesome awesome habit. (I am going to get back on that too). Keep up the good work!
Listening and reading positive stuff is what it's all about. Every day at work I go for a 20 minute walk and listen to motivational books. It keeps me from getting bogged down. You're doing great blue!
I will say that catching up on everyone's journals and posting around here definitely boosted my spirits a little. This is an awesome community to be a part of! Let's keep it going!
I think we should be leaders. But leaders are not macho, the best leaders are servants and listen more than they talk. Being sensitive and kind and compassionate have been tremendous assets in my relationships.
Sometimes I thought some girls like those "machos" guy more but what I think know is that I don't want to have a relationship with this kind of girl. I wanna someone who likes to be treated like a human been not like a property or a piece of meat, because this is the only way that I know how to treat someone.
I've been catching myself the last couple of days (and really recognizing it today) in the middle of romantic fantasies that sometimes turn sexual. Whether they turn to sex or not, they're counterproductive. Fantasies are fun, but they don't help with the recovery, so I need to get those under control. Now that I'm more conscious of them, I can be more deliberate about not getting tangled up in them.
Glad you feel better than last time Blue. True that bad days seem to want to stick, but at some point they just go away.Quote from: BlueHeronFan on November 29, 2019, 08:33:53 PMI've been catching myself the last couple of days (and really recognizing it today) in the middle of romantic fantasies that sometimes turn sexual. Whether they turn to sex or not, they're counterproductive. Fantasies are fun, but they don't help with the recovery, so I need to get those under control. Now that I'm more conscious of them, I can be more deliberate about not getting tangled up in them. I know the feeling. I've had these episode since the thing with the girl. That actually prevented me from training because I was staying in bed for almost 2 hours and used the lack of sleep to justify it. We need to be careful, because it's a waste of time. Thanks for making me realise it.We can do better than that and use our time more effeciently.
Man, I thought I was the only one with the fantasies. Same deal for me romantic fantasies that turn sexual. Wish I had some input to give about it, but that issue is one of the big head scrathers for me. Cool that the urges are lower. Again, all these days add up over time. Man 100 days of posting is a big milestone!Speaking of leading etc. I think the PAST is a great source of relationship knowledge. You read older books from older people (Zig Ziglar is MY MAN) and he's saying all this stuff like he always opened the door for his wife, recommended making things for your wifes hobbies, a million things like that just overwhelmingly considerate. Also just thinking: It's good to be self-aware. Like you guys said some women may want a guy who is more in control, some less. Of course porn creates RIDICULOUS versions of stuff like this. But it's good to know oneself and be self-aware to end up with the right person.
Great job man! Wow that is enlightening that you are aware that you want to look up "innocent" stuff and "accidentally" run into triggers, stuff like that catches a lot of people. That's the next level awareness to realize it actually is a decision and a sort of urge in itself.
I second that. Relapse is a choice to be giving into the cravings and urges! It require willpower to prevent it and research shows that willpower is a limited ressource that can be train and save for when it matter. For example a possible relapse! If you set your life is sort to challenge your willpower everyday while keeping enough to prevent a relapse while having a fullfilling lifestyle... you're pretty much garantied to recover at some point!Keep going strong Blue you're doing great!!
I'm grateful for your encouragement and posts to my reboot journal (almost daily). It really does help me to know another is walking beside me (via online support) as I navigate through the feelings, sensations/symptoms, and progress of rebooting. I'm thankful for you.
Man glad to hear the comments are helpful! Sometimes it can be hard to see our own progress when we're in the thick of things. Glad to hear the urges weakened up to. Again, nice awareness the every semester it feels impossible but isn't. I think that's just part of experience in many things.
Keep it up! Sounds like a solid day.
Good work blue, any good recipes recently?
Great thing that the urges calmed down, especially with the stress of the week. Try to plan yourself a day where you'll do relaxing stuff, maybe even outdoor stuff of some sort. It can really help to be in natureKeep going strong man
You got this, I'm happy to read of your successful rebooting day and handling the demands of life!