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"Free January" challenge
« on: December 26, 2018, 11:13:48 AM »
Given the fact that January is close, I'm launching the "Free January" challenge.

It means no edging, no porn watching, no masturbation to porn or porn fantasies/images from your mind, no looking at pictures on Instagram, Facebook etc. (You can insert here anything you think you should stay away from) throughout the month of January.

Seeing something by mistake doesn't count, only looking at/watching deliberately.

I'll do this. Whoever wants to join is welcome.



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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2018, 12:25:35 PM »
I'm in.

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #2 on: December 26, 2018, 03:18:07 PM »
I'm trying another reboot run myself. I'm in too. We'll call it: No Ejaculation January.

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #3 on: December 26, 2018, 03:38:29 PM »
I'm in! After finishing 2018 poorly I want to start 2019 as I mean to go on. For me that is no edging, porn, dating sites. Also i want to reduce the amount of Internet time i spend. Starting from today let's make the change fellow rebooters

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« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2018, 11:11:08 AM »
I'm in for sure   currently  got a bit of a head start  as I am on a 23 day clean streak  But I'm going to add to the challenge  by coming to this journal here  everyday to report in    Lets do this together

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2018, 11:26:05 AM »
If you are at day 1 on January 1st or you have already a streak of 5, 10, 30 days or 5 years, the challenge is for everybody. Also, do things that month to move on with your life.

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« Reply #6 on: December 27, 2018, 11:31:01 AM »
I like all of these ideas  to go along with the central idea  that we are all going to stay clean for Jan no matter where we are in the battle 

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #7 on: December 27, 2018, 10:39:18 PM »
Good luck guys!  The holiday season can be rough, and I'm sure many had setbacks.  Starting January with some goals instead of feeling defeated sounds like a great idea!

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #8 on: December 28, 2018, 04:05:59 AM »
Good luck guys!  The holiday season can be rough, and I'm sure many had setbacks.  Starting January with some goals instead of feeling defeated sounds like a great idea!

You should join too. Let's do this! 1 month without porn!

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« Reply #9 on: December 28, 2018, 09:00:41 PM »
I'll be with you, for sure.  I'm past the one year mark, so consider me along for the emotional support.  I certainly have more work to do in avoiding triggers and staying away from artificial sexual content with social media, so though relapsing isn't likely, I can still keep working to better myself.

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #10 on: January 01, 2019, 06:49:21 AM »
Alright, the challenge has started for me. I will be back to announce the result.
« Last Edit: January 01, 2019, 07:03:20 AM by changemylife »

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« Reply #11 on: January 01, 2019, 09:35:12 AM »
I'm with you   Will pop in every day

     Post often it helped me it will help you

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« Reply #12 on: January 01, 2019, 01:22:28 PM »
I'm in too!  It feels good to connect with people who are about to do the same thing I was planning to do! Now I don't have to go through it alone.

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« Reply #13 on: January 01, 2019, 01:27:39 PM »
I have a request. Will each of you upload a profile picture/avatar? Not a selfie necessarily, anything really. Just to you know add a little color and character to the topic.
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« Reply #14 on: January 01, 2019, 08:33:29 PM »
Update: I failed. This is almost poetically ironic. Having just hit the 2 week mark, I accidentally saw a VERY triggering image on the internet and unfortunately, I gave in. However, as I was doing so, I felt different. Usually the rational part of my brain that fights the porn-addicted part is able to take pleasure in... pleasuring. However, the entire time I was not only aware of my disgust at porn, but actively disliking it as I partook. I could feel the conflict in my own head. The addicted part of the brain was getting what it wanted, but the rest of me was disgusted at the act. I didn't want to be there, I had to be there. This is a first for me. If my disgust and contempt for porn can outweigh my primitive impulses, I might actually have a chance. I lost the battle, but I got something that might help me win the war. Good luck to everyone else. I don't need a New Year's Resolution to kick porn, but it's at the top of my priority list. 

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« Reply #15 on: January 01, 2019, 10:25:02 PM »
You're not alone in "...actively disliking as I partook..."

I've been there with porn, and cigarrettes.

Addiction is terrible..

Only at the moment t that you decide to give up on your desire to be PMO free do you fail. You're fine in my book.

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« Reply #16 on: January 01, 2019, 10:41:06 PM »
OK.  Fuck everyone.  I am in.  There will be no porn, no mo, no PMO, no ... well not no O because I am having sex on a regular basis.  This thread is officially hot for January.  I want ever porn addict who wants to get clean to commit to this thread.  At  a certain point, there is either commitment to altering your life or commitment to continuing it, as it is.  I commit to not watching porn for the month of January.  Any else who wants to join, welcome to the party pal.  Light it up.  This is an invitation.  Anyone committed to getting clean, to altering their life, to quitting porn addiction, post here.  changemylife I think you may have.  I will post here every day.   Thank you.  Let's get it started.  Commit. 

Thank you changemylife.  I think I will.  Good 2019.  Peace out. 

Psyc Ops.

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« Reply #17 on: January 02, 2019, 04:53:08 AM »
OK.  Fuck everyone.  I am in.  There will be no porn, no mo, no PMO, no ... well not no O because I am having sex on a regular basis.  This thread is officially hot for January.  I want ever porn addict who wants to get clean to commit to this thread.  At  a certain point, there is either commitment to altering your life or commitment to continuing it, as it is.  I commit to not watching porn for the month of January.  Any else who wants to join, welcome to the party pal.  Light it up.  This is an invitation.  Anyone committed to getting clean, to altering their life, to quitting porn addiction, post here.  changemylife I think you may have.  I will post here every day.   Thank you.  Let's get it started.  Commit. 

Thank you changemylife.  I think I will.  Good 2019.  Peace out. 

Psyc Ops.

That's right, man. That's the spirit. I am 100% committed to this, no excuses. If you want to do something, you do it.

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #18 on: January 02, 2019, 07:56:17 AM »
Day 2 begins   going to workout  and get after Christmas organisation done   should be a good day  will check in tonight   Good luck everyone in the January Challenge

   post often it helped me it will help you   

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« Reply #19 on: January 02, 2019, 09:22:58 AM »
Day 2.  I am clear and clean.  No porn.  No artificial sexual stimulation. I will do this for January.  Every single day.

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #20 on: January 03, 2019, 07:36:44 AM »
Starting January challenge  Day 3     (day 32 or my total reboot ) Yesterday was a very good day  heading for the morning workout now

      cheers

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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #21 on: January 03, 2019, 07:40:40 AM »
Day 3

Stronger urges to fantasize in the morning but I've done a good job thinking about something else and not "watching" porn in my mind. And stronger urges overall to PMO, I would say 5/10. I am preparing for harder times. One who is prepared, deals with the problem better.
Staying away from triggers is now imperative. In the beginning, after you relapse and the urges have calmed down, you tell yourself you will do it with willpower, you can stay away from triggers, if triggers show up by mistake, you can close them, but it's not really like that. Always take safety measures. Make porn and triggers hard to access. It's always easier to prevent than cure.
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Re: "Free January" challenge
« Reply #22 on: January 03, 2019, 07:54:08 AM »
Update: I failed. This is almost poetically ironic. Having just hit the 2 week mark, I accidentally saw a VERY triggering image on the internet and unfortunately, I gave in. However, as I was doing so, I felt different. Usually the rational part of my brain that fights the porn-addicted part is able to take pleasure in... pleasuring. However, the entire time I was not only aware of my disgust at porn, but actively disliking it as I partook. I could feel the conflict in my own head. The addicted part of the brain was getting what it wanted, but the rest of me was disgusted at the act. I didn't want to be there, I had to be there. This is a first for me. If my disgust and contempt for porn can outweigh my primitive impulses, I might actually have a chance. I lost the battle, but I got something that might help me win the war. Good luck to everyone else. I don't need a New Year's Resolution to kick porn, but it's at the top of my priority list.

I had this going on with me many times. It was like a fight inside me. Half of me said: "You have no reason to stop this because you started watching porn and edging anyway. Just imagine how great it will feel after you O." And the other half said: "Nooo! Stop this shit right now! Come on, you can walk away!" I just sat there, in front of the computer knowing I had to stop but the addicted half of me won.

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« Reply #23 on: January 03, 2019, 08:03:34 AM »
I had this going on with me many times. It was like a fight inside me. Half of me said: "You have no reason to stop this because you started watching porn and edging anyway. Just imagine how great it will feel after you O." And the other half said: "Nooo! Stop this shit right now! Come on, you can walk away!" I just sat there, in front of the computer knowing I had to stop but the addicted half of me won.

Dilly, Dilly!!

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« Reply #24 on: January 03, 2019, 08:08:51 AM »
It is easy to overthink this, and the addiction invites us to overthink it.  Overthinking it makes it complicated; complicated is difficult to solve. The addiction wants you to believe it is difficult to solve.  It is not difficult; painful, yes, difficult no.  It was easy to train our brains to become addicted because the dopamine response we get from using feels good. It is painful to train our brains not to get that response via porn because A) it does not feel good, as in it does not result in a dopamine high, and B) it hurts, because of withdrawals. 

The simple solution of quitting any addiction is abstinence.  Not using. 

Day 3 of this challenge.  Not using. 

Thank you changemylife.