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hockeyref33

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I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« on: November 28, 2018, 08:38:40 AM »
Hi, my name is rob. I'm a 44 yr old sex addict from Chicago. I've been sober sine November 12th of this year. I'm so happy i found this forum. I want nothing more than to be sober from my 30+ year addiction. My addiction includes porn, masturbation, affairs and also sorts of kinky to feed my addiction.
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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2018, 09:16:28 AM »
Let me be the first to say I understand and that we welcome you to the site. It has been close to 50 years that I have been in this mess in one way or another and I agree. It is time to change.

While change may be difficult, it is helpful to have others that are in the same boat and are working towards that same goal.

Peace

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #2 on: November 28, 2018, 09:22:09 AM »
Bob,

Thanks for welcoming me. i just found this and i'm hoping this will be a great tool to recovery. Have a great sober day!

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #3 on: November 29, 2018, 08:41:48 AM »
I'm thankful to be here and on my 17th day of being sober from acting out. I hope everyone has a great sober day.

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #4 on: November 29, 2018, 09:46:47 AM »
Hi, my name is rob. I'm a 44 yr old sex addict from Chicago. I've been sober sine November 12th of this year. I'm so happy i found this forum. I want nothing more than to be sober from my 30+ year addiction. My addiction includes porn, masturbation, affairs and also sorts of kinky to feed my addiction.

Affairs, masturbation, porn, kink?  Sounds like we have a lot in common!  Welcome home.

Post often.  Read other journals, and learn about the science about sex addiction.  I fee like Orpheus emerging from the depths of Hades.  There is a way out.  Just don't look back!

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #5 on: December 03, 2018, 12:42:03 PM »
On day 21 and not looking back. It's been tough but i feel so free.

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #6 on: December 06, 2018, 08:06:33 AM »
Good job!

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #7 on: December 10, 2018, 08:42:16 AM »
Day 29

These last 28 days have been a roller coaster from hell. I'm grateful that i'm sober. The lust is everywhere and not giving in has taken every ounce of energy i have. God is great and will continue to be sober through him guidance. Have a great sober day.

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« Reply #8 on: December 10, 2018, 09:41:28 AM »
Thank you for your post.  I too am struggling with lust being everywhere.  I feel like I can't avoid it and it is sapping all of my energy.  It's hard to get the daily things done that I need to get done.  Congrats on your success.

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« Reply #9 on: December 10, 2018, 08:15:02 PM »
You are at 30 days today.  In a 12-step group you would get a chip!  You deserve it.

Keep up the good work.  How are you doing with some of these other behaviors, i.e. affairs, etc?

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« Reply #10 on: December 11, 2018, 09:08:04 AM »
Uncreatedlight, Today is day 30!  i will be getting my 1 month chip. Thanks for checking in. i've stopped the affairs and all other toxic behavior. Lust is been the only behavior i've had trouble with to this point. Today is a great day to be sober.

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« Reply #11 on: December 11, 2018, 10:07:58 AM »
Uncreatedlight, Today is day 30!  i will be getting my 1 month chip. Thanks for checking in. i've stopped the affairs and all other toxic behavior. Lust is been the only behavior i've had trouble with to this point. Today is a great day to be sober.

Woohoo!  So glad to hear it.  I think giving up the affair was harder for me than the porn.  At any rate, you are renouncing something you highly cherished and succeeding.  It's not easy.  Keep up the great work.

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« Reply #12 on: December 13, 2018, 10:43:56 AM »
Day 32 of sobriety!  This forum is helping me and keeping me accountable. i feel great. My wife and i are closer than we've ever been. I pray to God everyday to help guide me through another sober day. I've lost 15 pounds since being sober and working out. I'm feeling so much more healthy.

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« Reply #13 on: December 14, 2018, 01:12:00 PM »
Reboot Nation is a country of miracles.  I have witnessed so many relationships restored and lives healed.  I am so happy to hear this.  Keep going.

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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #14 on: December 18, 2018, 10:26:42 AM »
Day 37 of being sober. God is great. I love reading all the stories. So inspiring to me to know that there many of us suffering the same addiction. We'll all get through it together. Have a great sober day.

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« Reply #15 on: December 26, 2018, 10:43:45 AM »
Day 45! I have so much to be thankful for. My life is so much better being sober. Through the grace of God, i will make it through today sober.

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« Reply #16 on: January 07, 2019, 07:35:08 AM »
Day 57!  Thank you God for keeping me sober. What a battle. Some good days, some horrible days.  I day at a time my friends. We got this. I am grateful to be here and be sober.

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« Reply #17 on: January 07, 2019, 05:19:56 PM »
Hockeyref - thanks for posting, and you are an inspiration to us, having recognized all of your challenges and taking action to address them.

Having encountered many of the same issues over the years (I am 43) and having developed a full and deep understanding of them and how difficult they can be (thank you therapy, books, etc) I am more than happy to provide any assistance or advice that worked for me to get me to this point (I'll give myself a "B" but not even close to an "A-" or above that).

Your check ins and journals are great steps.....what else have you done to eliminate the triggers and temptations that have caused you pain and issues in the past?  What are your plans to keep them at bay so that you dont slip and wind up spiraling back into the problems that originally got you here?

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« Reply #18 on: January 09, 2019, 07:46:54 AM »
jjo7, Thanks for your response. I've started doing yoga, i listen to sex addiction podcasts, do SA call in meetings, go to SA meetings, reads a lot and go to therapy. I've also turned my life over to God. I've become extremely active in my church. I feel great. 59 days sober. I will receive my 2 month coin at my Sunday meeting.  I'm very grateful to be here and be sober. God Bless.

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« Reply #19 on: January 12, 2019, 01:43:49 PM »
jjo7, Thanks for your response. I've started doing yoga, i listen to sex addiction podcasts, do SA call in meetings, go to SA meetings, reads a lot and go to therapy. I've also turned my life over to God. I've become extremely active in my church. I feel great. 59 days sober. I will receive my 2 month coin at my Sunday meeting.  I'm very grateful to be here and be sober. God Bless.

hockeyref33,

Great work!  You're doing great!  So well said about turning your life over to God for this struggle and everything, it's been one of the toughest things I have had to do. But during this reboot I have finally (with much reluctance) released control and given it over to God.  It has been a painful recovery with a bad illness with tremendous suffering but I wouldn't have changed it, it was God's way of allowing me to reach rock bottom before he began the process of building me back up. I am now 109 days free from PMO and my health is starting to improve. Indeed God is great and great is God!  I am praying for you!
Rex
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Re: I'm a grateful recovering sex addict
« Reply #20 on: January 14, 2019, 10:17:31 AM »
Rex, Thanks for sharing. I hope God heals you quickly. i will pray for you. God will leave us down the right path. Have a blessed day!