Author Topic: Discobolus versus Pornography (1 down a lifetime to go) COMMENTARY WELCOME  (Read 5163 times)

discobolus

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5 days no PMO

It’s been 7 weeks since the shit hit the fan and my wife blurted out after sex that she wanted a separation. Now things have improved dramatically in the marriage department and we are living together, having sex, and enjoying each other again.

My diet and exercise has gone to shit in the last 7 weeks, I’ve probably lifted less than 5 times and diet has been total junk. I’m 30 pounds heavier than I was on 1/28.

So that’s going to be a big emphasis of mine now is getting in shape. I have no appetite right now for clean foods but that will improve. I’m going to eat very little (maybe 2400 calories) for a few days and then start upping my clean food intake until my weight stabilizes and then cut from there once my metabolism is cranking again and aim for 2-3 pounds loss per week.

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Well done. Glad you've agreed to stay together. Advice: keep talking, disclosing and maintain openness.

jixu

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Hope you were able to get your diet and exercise back on track.  Take care!

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I haven’t been on here in a while. Some things in my life are going well and some need some work.

On the positive side my marriage seems to be going great. We weren’t able to get the 5 year old into day care for summer so with my wife working as a prosecuting attorney part time we needed to figure out a plan. I watch them on the weeks I’m off and her mom and a friend of hers watch them the weeks I work. I think me doing more around the house and with the boys has helped things. It probably makes me more understanding. I’ve enjoyed spending time with the boys.

We are in the process of buying land with plans to build a house. We will close on 14 acres of wooded area at the base of a mountain with a creek in a couple of weeks. Lots of wildlife including bears. It’s beautiful land and even before we build we will go swimming at the creek and camping as well.

Porn use has been quite limited because I had a buddy activate the screen time blocker and I don’t know the password. I have figured out that the Twitter app has plenty of porn though but not in the limitless easily searchable variety as a Tube site. Last porn use was Sunday so I’ve got a full day under my belt.

Diet and exercise hasn’t been good since January 28. I’ve made a lot of false starts between them and now but I’m gonna keep trying. Got back at it today.

I’m going to try to keep checking in on a regular basis here.

discobolus

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2 days No PMO

I lifted again today so that makes 2 days in a row. Also I’ve stuck to my diet again today so far.

I’m on testosterone replacement therapy and stopped my estrogen blocker back in March because I think my estrogen levels were too low based on symptoms. Now I feel like they are sky high. I’m bloated and some edema, low energy, and libido has actually been low. Normally I’d prefer to have sex at least every other night but recently I haven’t been craving it as much and if I get turned down I’m kind of like no big deal. Now around day 4 or 5 I’m getting anxious but normally that happens a lot sooner.

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That upcoming land purchase sounds amazing-swimming in the creek and the sighting of bears !  Glad to hear about the marriage going well; marital disharmony is not fun!  Keep going and continue to build off of your good start !