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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #100 on: November 05, 2018, 04:43:57 PM »
Thanks TBC  :)
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« Reply #101 on: November 07, 2018, 05:01:39 PM »
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« Reply #102 on: November 08, 2018, 04:36:41 PM »
20 days
Had a rough day but still 20 days without MO and PMO

Good night
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #103 on: November 09, 2018, 05:20:01 AM »
Well done buddy! 20 days is amazing!  So impressed.

Please keep up the good work!

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #104 on: November 09, 2018, 04:16:55 PM »
Thanks Andy

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #105 on: November 10, 2018, 05:01:13 PM »
22 days

I must not get to self confident. Have had signs that's not so good.
So the battle is far from over!
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #106 on: November 10, 2018, 05:04:04 PM »
Should have been the 75th day today.
I'm convinced I can make it so far if I hold on to hardmode.
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #107 on: November 13, 2018, 10:48:25 AM »
23, almost finished day 24 :)
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #108 on: November 14, 2018, 01:11:00 AM »
24 days
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #109 on: November 14, 2018, 06:31:20 AM »
Bumps are bumps. Days only help us understand our progress.  We need to think forever.

This is from someone who is starting again so take it with a grain of salt.


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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #110 on: November 14, 2018, 04:42:49 PM »
Bumps are bumps. Days only help us understand our progress.  We need to think forever.

This is from someone who is starting again so take it with a grain of salt.
Thanks, I really feel that you all are in it together with me. And I'm at day 25 of forever, not just 90
Checking in at 25 days clean, hardmode. (I just realized 19 days was my last mark of hardmode)

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #111 on: November 14, 2018, 07:16:55 PM »
Quote from: imaquitter link=topic=15992.msg164816#msg164816 date=1542231769
 I really feel that you all are in it together with me.
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We are with you, as you are with us.

Doesn’t matter if you are on day one, first time, day one relapse, day 12 in the tick of it, day 85 coming up on 90, or day 125+. We are all together with a common goal. To build a new life in ourselves and encourage others in their path.

We just can’t give up.

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #112 on: November 15, 2018, 03:48:49 PM »
Day 26 of forever  ;D
But it feels like day 79(edit, counted wrong) I surely have made some progress.
Thanks for all your support. Bob, Malando, Reformed, TBC, Andy PE30 and all the others that have encouraged me. If I didn't mention you it doesn't mean you didn't make a difference.

Hang in there, we are in the same boat. Take an oar and row with me.
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #113 on: November 16, 2018, 05:38:54 PM »
Day 27 of forever :)
Feels like day 80 :D
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #114 on: November 17, 2018, 06:14:11 PM »
Day 28
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #115 on: November 19, 2018, 10:26:22 AM »
Day 29 completed, checking in clean. 49 days was my last milestone, only 20 days and i'm there ;D

Another question.... I feel its difficult to talk about how i feel. It's easy to listen to others and try to understand and be a shoulder to cry on. But it seems like it's almost impossible to know oneself. I'm kind of happy all the time, and I'm smiling, and then suddenly I feel down, irritated or stressed and i crave PMO. Sometimes everything feels good but out of nowhere i have cravings for PMO.

Should I talk to a professional? Do they understand the addictive behaviors you get from years of PMO and high speed internet?

Hope I made myself clear, if you have an answer but the question is unclear just drop a line below :)
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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #116 on: November 19, 2018, 03:07:52 PM »
I would encourage you to talk to someone, a psychologist. But, I would make these two points.
  • If you don't connect with the first person, don't give up. You need to find someone who is good for you. And, it may take time.
  • Make sure that you have someone who is either familiar to porn or is willing to learn, that accepts porn addiction/compulsion as something real. I connected with a psychologist who's strong points didn't include porn but was open, read the book Your Brain on Porn when I brought it to her, and continues to about its challenges. I wouldn't give up on someone who is good (for you) just because they don't deal with a lot of porn issues

That's my two cents.

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #117 on: November 19, 2018, 05:16:45 PM »
Thanks Bob. I will try to talk to a psychologist. I have never done before.

Checking in day 30, one month no PMO
83 days since start of reboot. 80 of those free from PMO

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Re: Finally seeking help
« Reply #118 on: November 19, 2018, 06:12:55 PM »
Its a bit scary the first time but I think it is extremely helpful. Doesn't solve all your problems but it is good to talk openly to someone face to face.