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Enygma88

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PIED at 19 - Determined to make a change
« on: December 21, 2017, 01:08:28 PM »
Hi guys

After a week of heavy drinking during the first week of college I was about to lose my virginity, however I experienced ED ( I believe this was a combination of the drinking and PIED ). This was obviously a terrible experience for me and since my libido has been low and I have had ED , even with another girl. I no longer have morning or spontaneous erections. I have lost a lot of confidence and become mildly depressed and without motivation. 3 days ago ( Around 3 Months after the initial experience ) I decided enough was enough and gave up PMO . I believe the first time I was exposed to porn I was 10-11 however I became a regular user around 12+ . I can honestly say I have MO'd almost everyday since the age of 12 , at an average of 3 times a day. I know I've messed up my brain as I have over time become desensitived to stuff I used to watch etc. I feel like I've been robbed of my sexuality and feel like I have no purpose anymore. I'd like to ask for all the advice you have, so I can fully optimize my recovery and move on with my life.

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Re: PIED at 19 - Determined to make a change
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2017, 01:26:14 PM »
If I were you I would be wary of calling it PIED right away, that can cause further anxiety about the issue. It's a super common thing for guys to have anxiety and not be able to get it up when they are having sex for the first time.

We are in pretty much the same situation though, except I'm 5 months without masturbating or viewing porn. I honestly think for people like us, the best thing that we can do is to find a girl that is willing to be patient with us. Someone we can talk to and say "hey, I get nervous and it might take me a couple tries before I'm good to go".

You should stop jerking off to porn though just in case. Also, drinking heavily has never been good for boners haha.

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Re: PIED at 19 - Determined to make a change
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2017, 01:29:52 PM »
If I were you I would be wary of calling it PIED right away, that can cause further anxiety about the issue. It's a super common thing for guys to have anxiety and not be able to get it up when they are having sex for the first time.

We are in pretty much the same situation though, except I'm 5 months without masturbating or viewing porn. I honestly think for people like us, the best thing that we can do is to find a girl that is willing to be patient with us. Someone we can talk to and say "hey, I get nervous and it might take me a couple tries before I'm good to go".

You should stop jerking off to porn though just in case. Also, drinking heavily has never been good for boners haha.

Have you noticed any improvements in the past 5 months?

The fact my libido has decreased so much and I've completely lost spontaneous/morning erections is scary to me , and I don't see how that can happen from one bad experience

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Re: PIED at 19 - Determined to make a change
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2017, 11:32:57 PM »
It does sound like a probable case of PIED to me. Assuming you are reasonably healthy, it is unusual to have such ED at your age. Of course, there is also such a thing as performance anxiety which can have the same outcome. But since you say you are aware of being very desensitised by the porn you have consumed heavily for pretty much all of your sexual life, some degree of PIED would be expected. So the only thing to do is to reboot. Be aware that you might have to wait for quite a while to get the results you want. Everything I have read states that people who learn their sexuality from day one with porn take longer to properly reboot - it might take a year or more. But it's the only thing you can do. You must be determined and committed to quitting porn. That's the only way to get your life back. And it will have a lot of other benefits that you won't even be aware of relating to motivation and energy levels. Good luck!