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« on: December 03, 2017, 11:46:05 AM »

I relapsed on day 44 last day.I have had streaks of  more than 20 days from the previous 4 months.
i have noticed that usually whenever i relapse after these days , it is because of some bad thoughts .
for example i feel sleepy throughout the days for 4-5 days. bad thoughts about myself being less from my peers, exams not going well , not able to concentrate and so on. thoughts that i would never be able to have a normal life which everyone have , i.e life consisting of energy , life consisting of some concentration , not making too much fantasies and all. the symptoms of porn addiction , like sleepiness , loss of energy . loss of concentration will never go and i will have to lead a poor life.

all this leads to very depressing thoughts ., i keep on having urges about watching porn and sometimes i end up opening utube for sexual videos , sometimes i even end up opening a porn page , but k9 always stops me.
right now i have k9 for my laptop  , and i will install k9 in any laptop that i get  , but i also have a smartphone which has google chrome or other browsers using which i can easily access porn, specially in a bad moment . right now i have uninstalled every browser and even  google play store from my  due to which i cant access porn from my phone.
but the fact that in a year or two i am going to have a smartphone with browsers and  google play store makes me fear that i will end up watching porn at that time as well and hence i will have to live my life with unfulfilled desires, low energy etc. All these thoughts coupled with old porn memories , or fantasies of having sex with a girl ,and just the ringing of the bell in mind constantly saying go watch porn finally make me do it.

can someone please help about this topic.
maybe i should just wait for 90 days , expect no improvement in 90 days, keep myself away from any and absolutely any sorts of stress or bad thoughts and then once i am rebooted successfully  , i will not watch porn again.
 
in these 44 days or i should say since august i have seen lots of improvements in my self. I have at least come to the point where i can concentrate in a 2 hr class without much difficulty. 1-2 year earlier i was not able to concentrate even for a single moment in any of my classes , (i am currently pursuing btech).Now i at least have mixed days , some days i have normal  amount of energy , i can concentrate easily even when i am doing self study , i do not feel sleepy throughout the day after sleeping 7-8 hrs .But other days even 10-12 hrs sleep is not enough and i feel sleepy throughout the day or i for the majority of the day ,i am absolutely not able to concentrate no matter what (recently i had my exams , i was able to study for 3 exams , although this studying was also very inefficient , but in the other 2 exams i just couldn't study for a single minute).
these things give me hope that at least i will be able to live my life with some efficiency , unlike 2 years ago when i just couldn't do anything .But also this makes me feel that i will never be able to give my best in life ever  , and i would have to deal with these good and bad days .
these thoughts coupled with porn urges make me relapse finally.
   
also just to mention  , i have masturbated once a week during these 44 days.but always without porn or fantasies.


 also i sometimes just keep thinking about past or the future , make fantasies in which i am just acting cool with my friends, interacting with  girls and so on. perhaps to make myself feel good in my fantasies and as a medium of escape from the real world.

sorry for poor English and unorganized way of presenting my problems , if you feel you could not understand something  , please write and i will try to make my point more clear.

please help.

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« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2017, 05:07:51 PM »
While we talk about the hard 90, 90 is training wheels. By this I mean, you should have the mentality you are quitting for life. Use the hard 90 to convince yourself you can.  If you can make it to 90, no porn, no porn subs, as few sexual thoughts as possible, no M, no O, no sex, you will find going much, much father much, much easier.

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« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2017, 12:19:55 AM »
I relate soooo much man. Sounds exactly like me. UNfortunately I'm not a successful rebooter as of yet.... But it helps to relate. ive gotten a month and often 20 days of no fap in the last two years. always crack after the moneth... I'm determined to be a successful rebooter, maybe that qualifies me slightly lol.. anyways, i relate to all those emotions, i'm in a heavy exam/essay period at school and studying is PAINFUL because my brain and body just feels sluggish... Its like my brain is completely incapable of being interested in what I am studying (today that is, some days I am interested and have energy). I often feel exhausted since entering into nofap, its like my addiction has been threatened and now my whole equilibrium is thrown off. I get insomnia some nights, though I could sleep into 3 pm if i let myself which leads me to believe its not true insomnia, just restless thoughts related to porn at night (and i often fap at night in the past so its a sensitive time for me)... Big thing though..... does your school gym have a sauna!? if so, that is a HUGE help to me... they key though is to do intervals of cold shower in between the sauna sessions, about three cold shower sessions is enough. It gives me feel-good chemicals like crazy!, removes the lethargy and restlessness (I can have both of these at once strangely) and is just healthy in general... Exercise is huge.... Walking around is huge... journaling is huge.... real women are controverisal, as somtimes they just trigger pron for me.... getting laid if thats possible can be good, but it can also be bad f its a trigger.... anyways, its definitely hard. we are the first of the generation to experience the TUBESITE platform of porn (and now virtual reality has come out, which is even more terrifying), this is the real source of porn's remarkable addiction potential...unlimited availability, free, sexual novelty on steroids.... Just keep going man, do things that help you... some days are utterly tormenting, other days are good.. in the long run you'll b free.... the pain will make it worth while.... "NOthing worthwhile was ever achieved without great difficulty" -Plato.... so listen to the people who are further along in recovery, they're like the dudes holding the light guiding us through a dark tunnel, they've seen the way out and we havn't, we just have to trust them!
Good luck.

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« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2017, 11:12:39 AM »
thanks hutch for the reply
can you tell me your reason(if there is any specific ) for the relapse after a month or so?
i also have some good and bad days , hence few exams go good and rest not so good.i would suggest you to meditate as well, it strongly helps to improve concentration or if just take deep breaths , specially during exams.

As far as the sauna is concerned , no I my school doesn't have any. I have also tired cold showers , but winter is here and now it feels difficult to have a cold shower , nonetheless , I will try to have one each day.
Exercising is something I do , i also meditate , have cold showers , but on those bad days doing any one of them becomes very difficult.
And yes i would start journaling from now on .
I majorly think that poor handling of emotions is the most important reasons of all my relapses from the previous 4-5 months.
I will now try to make sure for the upcoming 3 months , that as soon as i get up , i say to myself that I am very happy , satisfied with my life , everything is good , i am awesome and so on , i.e just some things that make me feel nice about myself. Will do this thing 3 times a day straight for 90 days , also i will try to ignore the loss of concentration, the loss of energy  , the bad emotions that happens
on some days.

I may write a speech for myself that makes me feel good about myself and another that will remind me daily that these negative thoughts come some days , the energy losses and all bad things happen , and that I should not care about them and just say that tomorrow will be better.

I will then read this speech 2 times a  day at least ,in morning and at night  .
Perhaps this will keep me in a happy mood and will also let me ignore the bad moments and all.I hope that in 90 days most of this bad moments will be gone ,and if they won't , I may do this for another 90 days , just to make sure that whatever withdrawals happens , I handle them happily , just tell myself that these moments will go soon.
Also exercising , cold showers and meditation along with studies will form a part of my day too.

I will try and ignore every bad moments that come in these 90 days ,
You also try these things , perhaps we may get out of this addiction together


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« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2017, 11:18:18 AM »
While we talk about the hard 90, 90 is training wheels. By this I mean, you should have the mentality you are quitting for life. Use the hard 90 to convince yourself you can.  If you can make it to 90, no porn, no porn subs, as few sexual thoughts as possible, no M, no O, no sex, you will find going much, much father much, much easier.
Thanks for the reply William
I have the mentality of quitting forever , but its just that making it to 90 days will make things easier , and in these 90 days most of the brain circuitry will get back to normal as well .So mapping things will make easier to go the 90 days.
I just want some advice as to how I can manage the emotions, the fear of living a dull life due to this addiction and all these things so that I don't relapse because of this.
Managing hornyness perhaps depends on my will power as well , but for those emotions and the fear of future , if someone can give advice for them , it will be very helpful.

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« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2017, 12:14:56 AM »
Hello, Sharmaji ke bete

Ok i just couldnt stop myself from replying as i am also a b.tech student or i was.

Human evolution has gone wrong. Technology was supposed to make our life easier. And it did.
And also most demotivating thing is that most people on earth dont believe that porn is addictive for mind and most addictive and stealthy that any other illegel drug.
To give you help, just dont feel bad for yourself. You didnt know know it was bad for human brain. It was cool around friends and so around you. But you are among the unlucky ones who just over used it and got fucked up.

Like all the other addicted people, like me, like other visitors of this website, like many unknown, like potential future generation who is endengered to this threat.

Porn is addictive, set aside the new VR technology and its porn collection. I recall many science fiction movies.

Ok enougt of my philosophy. (Everything is true Though).

Fisrt things first, what the heck you're doing?
Masturbating once a week in hard 90 is not allowed. Or i would suggest not to do it. And also dont have sex for 90 days. I believe that hard 90 is something that you need to totally abstain everything including porn, masturbation, sex, and orgasm.

And kiddo if you think you will be rebooted after 90 days, you're in dreams. It is a long process. You will cover it easily if you think it as you're everyday life and stop counting days. Counting days will not help. It didn't help me and some others also. Take it from a guy who just have completed 1 year of reboot process. And i think that to be rebooted completely (for me) i will need a month or 3 maybe.

If i put it this way,
Hard 90 is just like a process we do on pc while formating it.
Hard 90 is formating of computer. Days after hard 90 are the process in which you install a new windows.

The journey is about 1 year long for most people.

Being b.tech student and being unknown that i was addicted by porn or (most people dont know porn is harmul and baddest think to human brain) i wasted my five years (4+1). Dude, that is painful.

Let me tell you i have experienced all the same things you have and let me tell you be hard. Dont lose hope. You will come out on the other side of the tunnel. Maybe early. I wasnt even doing properly.

Ok to answer your questions;

1.
I have felt sleepy throughout my whole reboot process. That is common because your mind has deprived of essential chemicals and you dont have energy to do anything. Same was for me. I had zero concetration in my studies. That is painful. I just didnt know that what was happening to me. Why i was so restless and why mind couldn't stop thinking.

To deal with this i would recommend you to make big lifestyle changes. I would recommend to go sleep at 11 everyday day and wake up early at 7. Bealive or not making a sleep pattern regular and being early waker is one of the most crucial things you can do to your life. A positive one.
Being a engineer, you must be staying late at night. Dont do it. Let your friends do whatever they want. You have to make your schedule perfect.

2. Extra tip.
Dont use social media sites much. Just use it once a week.
All these sites are filled with memes, in which mostly are demotivating and have negetive effects. Believe me these funny memes will not get you anywhere. Just google about negative effects of these social media memes.

3.
Same for me. My urges makes you search booty shaking videos in youtube and then gradually i end up opening xxx sites. And the rest is history of this website. This is the story of all porn addicted people. You will need to avoid to search all these erotic things. Because you will always end up in opening xxx sites.

4.
Most users on this site are more than 20 to 25 years old. And most are virgins. Lol
 Thanks to the porn. It affected their lives.

5.
Ok was same for me. Before i started my reboot process, in mu college years i was unable to study. (Having so much itellectual level and having good mind for technology, because of porn and lack of concentration i coulnt score a single penny.) And my college just ended. I eventually survived. But my peers or college friends will think of me as a average student and some college girls as weirdo. Even though i am not. This hurts more than The lord rama's 14 years vanvas.

If you have just started your college then you could take a 1 year break. If you cant study. And need time for reboot.
But i would not recommend nor suggest because this could turn upside down. And maybe extra time you have will negatively affect you. Because you will have extra time to improve yourself OR you will have have extra time to masturbate in your room.

6.
You will need to be pro active to reboot. You will need to do different activities including excercises and meditation.
You need to be social.
Try to participate in social activities. Go out more and more. Talk to people.
Have a girlfriend after hard 90 days. Not before. You need to abstain from orgasm for full 90 days. Talking to girls will help.
And also try searching for people on youtube who are rebooting or already rebooted. There are tones of videos already available. Many people have experianced this and many came out with their stories.

7.
You will need motivation throughout your reboot process. Believe me. Whatever material you find which helps you with porn addiction. Keep it. Save it. Download it. And if you take advise from me PRINT THESE ARTICLES IN HARD PAPER COPY. because digital saving is not best.
Including this article.
Download videos you find helpful and keep it on your computer and mobile.

8.
You said you sometimes sleep for 7 to 8 hours and sometimes 9 to 10 hours. Dont do it. As i mentioned early keep the regular sleepung cycle. You will see benefits after you have reset you sleeping cycle.

9.
Most important.
DONT BE LETHARGIC OR PROCRASTINATOR.
Try to do things that are already pending and which you need to do. Try to finish them. It relieves mind. And makes unrest mind calm. Believe me.

10.
About cold showers.
What i do is take cold showers even though it is winter. And then i swich to warm water.
You need to do this because its winter. Or will become ill of cold water.
And also switching between hot and cold showers has the same benefits.

11.
Dont be afraid or worry about future. Just do your role now.
Believe me, when you will come out of this effects, you will be more confident, more focused mind than your peers.
They have not experianced what you have. Future is never doomed as long are you have faith. Belive me, i have went through all this.

12.
Download youtube videos via keepvid or any other download tool, the videos you find motivating.
Follow Word Porn youtube channel. Lol the name.
Btw it is about motivational videos of famous people. And subscribe other helpful channels.

And also reand and watch more and more about reboot process to clear out your doubts.

I hope i have mentioned my most experiances and some advises. Please respect my efforts remembering and witing all this. It took me 2 hours.

Peace.
And goodluck.

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« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2017, 06:06:38 AM »
Thanks for good advice @ BanPorn.

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« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2017, 11:07:00 AM »
Hello, Sharmaji ke bete

Ok i just couldnt stop myself from replying as i am also a b.tech student or i was.

Human evolution has gone wrong. Technology was supposed to make our life easier. And it did.
And also most demotivating thing is that most people on earth dont believe that porn is addictive for mind and most addictive and stealthy that any other illegel drug.
To give you help, just dont feel bad for yourself. You didnt know know it was bad for human brain. It was cool around friends and so around you. But you are among the unlucky ones who just over used it and got fucked up.

Like all the other addicted people, like me, like other visitors of this website, like many unknown, like potential future generation who is endengered to this threat.

Porn is addictive, set aside the new VR technology and its porn collection. I recall many science fiction movies.

Ok enougt of my philosophy. (Everything is true Though).

Fisrt things first, what the heck you're doing?
Masturbating once a week in hard 90 is not allowed. Or i would suggest not to do it. And also dont have sex for 90 days. I believe that hard 90 is something that you need to totally abstain everything including porn, masturbation, sex, and orgasm.

And kiddo if you think you will be rebooted after 90 days, you're in dreams. It is a long process. You will cover it easily if you think it as you're everyday life and stop counting days. Counting days will not help. It didn't help me and some others also. Take it from a guy who just have completed 1 year of reboot process. And i think that to be rebooted completely (for me) i will need a month or 3 maybe.

If i put it this way,
Hard 90 is just like a process we do on pc while formating it.
Hard 90 is formating of computer. Days after hard 90 are the process in which you install a new windows.

The journey is about 1 year long for most people.

Being b.tech student and being unknown that i was addicted by porn or (most people dont know porn is harmul and baddest think to human brain) i wasted my five years (4+1). Dude, that is painful.

Let me tell you i have experienced all the same things you have and let me tell you be hard. Dont lose hope. You will come out on the other side of the tunnel. Maybe early. I wasnt even doing properly.

Ok to answer your questions;

1.
I have felt sleepy throughout my whole reboot process. That is common because your mind has deprived of essential chemicals and you dont have energy to do anything. Same was for me. I had zero concetration in my studies. That is painful. I just didnt know that what was happening to me. Why i was so restless and why mind couldn't stop thinking.

To deal with this i would recommend you to make big lifestyle changes. I would recommend to go sleep at 11 everyday day and wake up early at 7. Bealive or not making a sleep pattern regular and being early waker is one of the most crucial things you can do to your life. A positive one.
Being a engineer, you must be staying late at night. Dont do it. Let your friends do whatever they want. You have to make your schedule perfect.

2. Extra tip.
Dont use social media sites much. Just use it once a week.
All these sites are filled with memes, in which mostly are demotivating and have negetive effects. Believe me these funny memes will not get you anywhere. Just google about negative effects of these social media memes.

3.
Same for me. My urges makes you search booty shaking videos in youtube and then gradually i end up opening xxx sites. And the rest is history of this website. This is the story of all porn addicted people. You will need to avoid to search all these erotic things. Because you will always end up in opening xxx sites.

4.
Most users on this site are more than 20 to 25 years old. And most are virgins. Lol
 Thanks to the porn. It affected their lives.

5.
Ok was same for me. Before i started my reboot process, in mu college years i was unable to study. (Having so much itellectual level and having good mind for technology, because of porn and lack of concentration i coulnt score a single penny.) And my college just ended. I eventually survived. But my peers or college friends will think of me as a average student and some college girls as weirdo. Even though i am not. This hurts more than The lord rama's 14 years vanvas.

If you have just started your college then you could take a 1 year break. If you cant study. And need time for reboot.
But i would not recommend nor suggest because this could turn upside down. And maybe extra time you have will negatively affect you. Because you will have extra time to improve yourself OR you will have have extra time to masturbate in your room.

6.
You will need to be pro active to reboot. You will need to do different activities including excercises and meditation.
You need to be social.
Try to participate in social activities. Go out more and more. Talk to people.
Have a girlfriend after hard 90 days. Not before. You need to abstain from orgasm for full 90 days. Talking to girls will help.
And also try searching for people on youtube who are rebooting or already rebooted. There are tones of videos already available. Many people have experianced this and many came out with their stories.

7.
You will need motivation throughout your reboot process. Believe me. Whatever material you find which helps you with porn addiction. Keep it. Save it. Download it. And if you take advise from me PRINT THESE ARTICLES IN HARD PAPER COPY. because digital saving is not best.
Including this article.
Download videos you find helpful and keep it on your computer and mobile.

8.
You said you sometimes sleep for 7 to 8 hours and sometimes 9 to 10 hours. Dont do it. As i mentioned early keep the regular sleepung cycle. You will see benefits after you have reset you sleeping cycle.

9.
Most important.
DONT BE LETHARGIC OR PROCRASTINATOR.
Try to do things that are already pending and which you need to do. Try to finish them. It relieves mind. And makes unrest mind calm. Believe me.

10.
About cold showers.
What i do is take cold showers even though it is winter. And then i swich to warm water.
You need to do this because its winter. Or will become ill of cold water.
And also switching between hot and cold showers has the same benefits.

11.
Dont be afraid or worry about future. Just do your role now.
Believe me, when you will come out of this effects, you will be more confident, more focused mind than your peers.
They have not experianced what you have. Future is never doomed as long are you have faith. Belive me, i have went through all this.

12.
Download youtube videos via keepvid or any other download tool, the videos you find motivating.
Follow Word Porn youtube channel. Lol the name.
Btw it is about motivational videos of famous people. And subscribe other helpful channels.

And also reand and watch more and more about reboot process to clear out your doubts.

I hope i have mentioned my most experiances and some advises. Please respect my efforts remembering and witing all this. It took me 2 hours.

Peace.
And goodluck.

Thanks for the reply bro

I will try not to masturbate as well , but what happens sometimes is that I feel too horny , have some porn fantasies lingering over and sometimes I even end up looking sexual videos on youtube . I therefore masturbate thinking that at least the horniness  would go and I would hence not watch porn, since porn is a lot damaging then masturbation , hence I masturbate. But from now on I would try not to masturbate as well for the hard 90 , or at least try to do it less frequently , maybe once in 21 days or so , but not once a week.

The  reason for  90 days is that at least things would become a lot better and most of the brain wiring will become to normal . But  ok , I understand this now and would not expect anything out of it.  Right now I am more focused on reducing the symptoms associated with porn , that is reducing the sleepiness , the loss of energy and all . Since I am a btech student and need to study much , so these sleepy days and days when I cannot concentrate and low energy days frustrate me a lot and I become tensed as well thinking how will I study and  how will be my future .
But from now onwards I would try not to change these things , accept them , just stay away from porn and masturbation and would hope that things become normal again.

point 1 I also feel very sleepy , can't concentrate , have no energy , sometimes feel restless . But these things make me fear how will I do good in life , how will I get a good job and how will I ever be able to lead a positive and healthy life .I also compare myself to others and feel bad. I would now accept them as they are , just regularly meditate and exercise and hope that things would become good in the future .

the sleep schedule doesn't remains the same. what happens is that I am not able to get up daily after 8 hours and I feel lazy and end up sleeping more hours . Also somedays I just sleep in the day time . Due to this I am not able to sleep at time in night and if I have to go to college early then I just end up sleeping less or more and hence the sleeping schedule never remains good.
I am trying to sleep no more than 8 hours , but my sleeping time is from 2-10 , because at night I have no disturbance hence I am able to meditate peacefully .

point 2- I don't use  social media much , I just regularly use whatsapp because that is necesary but there also I get to see some of them memes send by my friends .I don't use facebook , instagram  etc much.

3- I will try to just say to myself that these videos are of no use , they are vulgar and boring and hence I don't need to watch them . Rather I will try and watch something better

4.I am also single but that is ok , I will get sex when the time comes.

5. I am in my third year right now and I can't leave college now . I am trying to avoid thinking about what my friends say and just say positive from now onwards and will also try not to compare myself with others as well.

6. I talk with my friends and spend time with them , but I  spend more time alone. And as far as having a girlfriend I don't talk much with girls , so having a girlfriend even after 90 days is difficult for me.

7. I am trying to create some kind of notes of all the info I have got , the motivation and tips , and would try to read them 2-3 times a day so that I remain in a positive state always and don't end up making the same mistake that I always make.

8. The sleeping cycle as I said doesn't remain constant because of oversleeping on some days . And then I am not able to sleep on time and have to get up early for college . But I will try to reduce the amount of sleep to 8-9 hrs and contain my sleep within 2-10/11 .

9.Yeah I will try to finish off things well in time now.

10. Ok, I will try to take cold showers and with time increase the intensity . Also having hot shower after that will also help as you say.

11. I will try not to worry much about the future or feel bad about the past. I will just try to tell myself that just keep doing good things and be happy with what I am , with all my faults and life will become good on it's own.

12. I will save all the contents that I can find on the internet.

Thanks for your advice bro . Also as you have completed your reboot for 1 year how does it feels now??

The main problem that I see within my self is the poor handling of the emotions and the sleepiness and I would try reading the note regularly to just stay in a positive frame of mind. This I think would solve all majority of my problems.



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« Reply #8 on: December 06, 2017, 01:11:33 PM »

Thanks for the reply bro

I will try not to masturbate as well , but what happens sometimes is that I feel too horny , have some porn fantasies lingering over and sometimes I even end up looking sexual videos on youtube . I therefore masturbate thinking that at least the horniness  would go and I would hence not watch porn, since porn is a lot damaging then masturbation , hence I masturbate. But from now on I would try not to masturbate as well for the hard 90 , or at least try to do it less frequently , maybe once in 21 days or so , but not once a week.

The  reason for  90 days is that at least things would become a lot better and most of the brain wiring will become to normal . But  ok , I understand this now and would not expect anything out of it.  Right now I am more focused on reducing the symptoms associated with porn , that is reducing the sleepiness , the loss of energy and all . Since I am a btech student and need to study much , so these sleepy days and days when I cannot concentrate and low energy days frustrate me a lot and I become tensed as well thinking how will I study and  how will be my future .
But from now onwards I would try not to change these things , accept them , just stay away from porn and masturbation and would hope that things become normal again.

point 1 I also feel very sleepy , can't concentrate , have no energy , sometimes feel restless . But these things make me fear how will I do good in life , how will I get a good job and how will I ever be able to lead a positive and healthy life .I also compare myself to others and feel bad. I would now accept them as they are , just regularly meditate and exercise and hope that things would become good in the future .

the sleep schedule doesn't remains the same. what happens is that I am not able to get up daily after 8 hours and I feel lazy and end up sleeping more hours . Also somedays I just sleep in the day time . Due to this I am not able to sleep at time in night and if I have to go to college early then I just end up sleeping less or more and hence the sleeping schedule never remains good.
I am trying to sleep no more than 8 hours , but my sleeping time is from 2-10 , because at night I have no disturbance hence I am able to meditate peacefully .

point 2- I don't use  social media much , I just regularly use whatsapp because that is necesary but there also I get to see some of them memes send by my friends .I don't use facebook , instagram  etc much.

3- I will try to just say to myself that these videos are of no use , they are vulgar and boring and hence I don't need to watch them . Rather I will try and watch something better

4.I am also single but that is ok , I will get sex when the time comes.

5. I am in my third year right now and I can't leave college now . I am trying to avoid thinking about what my friends say and just say positive from now onwards and will also try not to compare myself with others as well.

6. I talk with my friends and spend time with them , but I  spend more time alone. And as far as having a girlfriend I don't talk much with girls , so having a girlfriend even after 90 days is difficult for me.

7. I am trying to create some kind of notes of all the info I have got , the motivation and tips , and would try to read them 2-3 times a day so that I remain in a positive state always and don't end up making the same mistake that I always make.

8. The sleeping cycle as I said doesn't remain constant because of oversleeping on some days . And then I am not able to sleep on time and have to get up early for college . But I will try to reduce the amount of sleep to 8-9 hrs and contain my sleep within 2-10/11 .

9.Yeah I will try to finish off things well in time now.

10. Ok, I will try to take cold showers and with time increase the intensity . Also having hot shower after that will also help as you say.

11. I will try not to worry much about the future or feel bad about the past. I will just try to tell myself that just keep doing good things and be happy with what I am , with all my faults and life will become good on it's own.

12. I will save all the contents that I can find on the internet.

Thanks for your advice bro . Also as you have completed your reboot for 1 year how does it feels now??

The main problem that I see within my self is the poor handling of the emotions and the sleepiness and I would try reading the note regularly to just stay in a positive frame of mind. This I think would solve all majority of my problems.

You want to get rebooted and healed fast or not?

You must have to avoid masturbation for your first hard 90.

Let me explain by giving an example:

Assume here porn is sand paper
consider you have injured your wrist or any part of the body by rubbing sand paper on that part.
You have escalated to a position that you are almost bleeding and you have to stop now.
Now to heal your skin you have to rest. That means stop rubbing sand paper(using porn).
It is going to take 1 month for healing. In that one month you have take extra care.

Now what will happen if you keep rubbing your plain hand over it ???

Right!!  It will not let it heal easily.. or will take much longer and hence painful.
Learn!! Be hard!! You have to control your urges.. No other way around.

By the way... Every person's story was same.

On my first hard 90 i was doing the same. I was masturbating once a week. But that didn't help much. And after 5-6 failed attempts i finally completed hard 90 without masturbation..

If you dont feel withdrawal symptoms and flatline, you wont become stronger.

And don't waste time on 5 to 6 attempts. Go hard 90 without P,(M),O....

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Your sleepiness problem is same as i had in my college days. Same. My brain hurt when i tried to wake up.

I am saying to improve your sleeping cycle because it is the key thing to recover. Believe me!

If you take my advise do as i say;

If you cant go to sleep around 11 or 12 then do one thing, set 3-4 alarms at the same time of 8:00 in the morning. Force your mind to wake up (and dont sit on bed thinking that my mind is hurting or i am feeling exausted or 2 hours more. Just wake up!) and directly go to shower. Skip toothbrush for later.

And if you feel too exausted, just dont go to college for 2 days. Or drink coffee in morning only. It wont hurt much. Go outdoor.
How bad you feel to take nap or sleep. Don't.
Dont sleep till its 10 to 12 at night.

Repeat !!!

fist week will be tough but you can successfully reset your sleeping in 21 days.  And most crucial part: Keep the schedule.
This will really help.

Because nothing is more frustruating than staring at cealing and thinking when will sleep come and worrying about life.

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Dont worry about your future.
Your first priority now should be stop worrying and stop counting days of reboot procedure. Just go with the flow.
If you think you will be rebooted completely after hard 90, it does not happen.
The rebooting process is slightly longer.

Dont compare yourself with your peers. Grades dont matter much as long as you have good intelligence.

Dont worry about future job. 70% engineers of India are already unemployed or are not employable. (recent survey).
We are already doomed.

Talent finds its way if you have.

I got job of 1.4 lakh per month, even though i didnt had much GPA. So dont worry.

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About my recovery:

My mind feels lot clearer now. And rested.
Porn had made my mind so unrest that i was always thinking. Just thinking. No sleep. Thinking while sleeping. Thinking while eating. Thinking while crying. Thinking while thinking.
All these have lessened now. Thank god.

I am currently doing my hard 50. I am on 40th day. Without P, M, O.
It seems easy now.
I dont feel withdrawal symptoms much.

And its worth it.

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watch this video. At the end of video, Pay attention to what he says to us. What he dares us to do. Take a dare!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05ZpkzPHoIo
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Re: need help , specially from people who have rebooted successfully
« Reply #9 on: December 09, 2017, 05:27:51 AM »
Thanks @BANPORN
I will keep masturbation away for 90 days
The sleep thing , I will try doing it .
I am now trying not to worry much about the symptoms that I have , the kind of job that I will get or the future that I will have . I am just trying to be more happy , be a bit more relaxed and at the same time try to focus as well .

And the problem of thinking , it is with me as well, I am always thinking something or the other , focusing on the thing that I am doing , or on the things that I should daily is just so difficult . But I am still trying to focus on important things , and trying to keep my thoughts away when I am doing something.
Having a nice and restful mind will be a huge bonus for me too .