Peformance anxiety please help

Been porn free for over 5 months now. It has made a big difference. I year ago i would hardly respond to a woman. Now i can get 95% to 100% hard during fore play quite easily. Problem is when i go to have sex it tends to go off and im trying so hard to keep errect it isnt lasting long. I feel very nervous about having sex and my heart is pounding.

I can get 100% hard on my own lying down or standing up with no porn just touch. And 100% hard through a hand or blowjob. This leads me to believe it has to be nerves?

Would others agree? Was thinking about trying to get viagra to see if it would give me a boost to get my confidence back.

Many thanks

I was going to suggest you get a viagra for the first time(s) to assure your confidence, then I read that you're already considering that!

It does sound like PE.  I'm quite sure you don't need the viagra, but go for it, just to make sure you're 'all there'.

Have fun!  Sounds like you did a fantastic job of rebooting.  You've earned your rewards!!

its very probable that you are still in PIED because what you described happens to most of us. at the beginning we start having erections but lose them after couple of seconds or minutes. dont try too hard to stay hard. let it go down. let it rewire naturally, without going for rough sex or what else... just to keep it going.

this is very depressing phase of reboot but its a progress. there is no immediate change from PIED to having erection for hours. you must go through the phase of longer and longer, stronger and stronger erections. its gradual and non linear thing. one day you may stay hard for an hour and next week go limp after 5 minutes but overall you will be progressing over time as long as you keep rebooting and rewiring.

Thanks for the replies. There may be an element of pied still but I'm blaming most of it on anxiety. I can get fully hard on my own without porn. My gf can get me fully hard with her hands or mouth and bring me to orgasm. I can stay hard for 10 min and more. I can can also get hard again within half an hour or so again. It's just when I go to have sex that it becomes difficult.

its PIED. there should be no performance anxiety if you are with your girlfriend and also if you have erections with your girl but lose it during intercourse that is probably just conditioning. your brain is more conditioned for oral sex and foreplay than it is for intercourse. it happened to me a lot of times that during kissing im rock hard but later lose it and i had 0 performance anxiety. you are just gradually recovering.

I agree that pied is the root cause. But i am anxious with my gf when about to have sex. Anxious that it wont work. However you msy be right that more time is required. I think i may have made the mistake of masturbating ( without porn) a few times this past few months . Id wake up very hard and be so horney it was hard to control. This may have set me back. But i will cut out m all together and stop my gf giving me hand jobs and cut back on blow jobs basically to make my body only orgasm through sex. As i said already normally im very hard during a blow job or handjob so i cant be far away. Thanks

Yeah man, this happened to me and I tend to think its PIED. I got pretty close to 100% hard during foreplay, but when it came time to put the condom on and get to it, it kind of just drifted off.

Viagra DID help with this though. I was able to maintain a good erection for sex. If you do this though, don't let it trick you into thinking you can PMO again.